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[Why?]

I'm a few days late on my period. My husband and I don't want any more children. Don't get me wrong, if I'm pregnant we would love the new baby with all of our hearts. My question is: Should I tell him that I'm late and have him start worrying about it too, or should I wait a few more days to see if I get my period?

 

[Violet]

I would take a test and find out before I say anything to him.

 

[desi]

Yeah take the test and let him know the results.

 

[Why?]

Well, I don't drive (not very far anyway, it's a phobia of mine) so I can't get a test. I'll just keep waiting.

 

[desi]

Well, I don't drive (not very far anyway, it's a phobia of mine) so I can't get a test. I'll just keep waiting.

Oookay.

 

[Ashlynn]

You can order a test online and have it sent to your home at somewhere like drugstore.com. Or perhaps you have a friend who can take you to the pharmacy?

 

[herev]

so get a friend to drive you to the store for "supplies"--take the test

 

[GirlieGirl]

Think it's time to address the phobia? God's good at curing those kinds of things you know.

 

[SirKenin]

No sense counting your chickens before they hatch. I think you offered yourself the best advice. Just wait to see what develops. Some women under duress can skip their periods altogether.

Just hold out and see what happens. If it becomes clear that the possibility exists, then bring it up to him and have him help you get tested. Maybe he can drive you to the drugstore.

Anyways, best wishes whatever you end up doing.

 

[EmSchmem]

I would say it would depend on your marriage. My husband would be sad if he found out I went through the wondering and the stress all alone. Not to mention he would probably figure out something is wrong. I have a tendancy to wear my heart on my sleeve. But I know some people who wouldn't mention anything at all until they knew for sure. Not much help I know, but it does just depend.

 

[Why?]

Well, I asked him yesterday (because he had the day off) to get me a test. He said he wasn't going to waste money on a test, that I should just wait.

So, I guess that's what I'm still going to do. Wait. Thanks for all the advice. (And, yes, I am working on the driving phobia.)

 

[katelyn]

Good luck. Do you know how many more days you'll have to wait before you can get a test? Are you having any symptoms? I hope the waiting isn't too anxious for you and that it will go by quickly!

 

[Memory's Flame]

No sense counting your chickens before they hatch. I think you offered yourself the best advice. Just wait to see what develops. Some women under duress can skip their periods altogether.

/me nods head in agreement

This has happened to me twice in the last year! Both times were due to stress in planning my wedding! (Or so my doctor and I decided!)

However, after two weeks I would consider discussing this with your husband!

 

[Why?]

Well, against his judgement I went out today and got a test. It's negative. I will be contacting my doctor to ask her about getting my tubes tied so that we don't have to go through this again.

Thanks again for all the advice!

 

[pegatha]

(And, yes, I am working on the driving phobia.)

I hope I'm not out of line to say anything about this, since you didn't ask for comments on the phobia. But I've always had a sort of driving phobia, too, and I just want to assure you that it can be overcome. I'm still very cautious about snowy roads (and I wish other people around here were equally cautious), and I won't go out when there's black ice, but otherwise I've got to the point where I can actually enjoy driving. So I hope that's some encouragement to you.