Lady in Waiting

[purple85]

I've just started reading;

Lady in Waiting: Developing Your Love Relationships
by Jackie Kendall, Debby Jones
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1560438487/002-3248241-9564866?v=glance

It's really amazing I would really recommend it. Here are some inspirational quotes from the first few pages. (some quotes are directly from the authors of the book, others are quoted in the book from elsewhere.)

"A woman is not born a woman. Nor does she become one when she marries a man, bears a child and does their dirty linen, not even when she joins a woman's liberation movement. A woman becomes a woman when she becomes what God wants her to be." -- Kenneth G. Smith, Learning to be a Woman (back cover)

"I feel very strongly that marriage is not a higher calling than the single state. Happy indeed are those people, married or single, who have discovered that happiness is not found in marriage but in a right relationship with God."--Cary Chapman.

"Take your alabastor box to Jesus and break it in His presence, for He is worthy of such honor. Having responded to your heavenly Bridegroom in such a manner, you can wait with confident assurance that, if it be God's will, He will provide you with an earthly bridegroom...Take your alabastor box, with your body, soul, and dreams, and entrust them to Jesus. When He is your Lord, you can joyfully walk in the path of life that He has for you." -- from the book, Lady in Waiting

"Incompleteness is not the result of being single, but of not being full of Jesus. When two 'incomplete' singles get married, their union will not make them complete. Their marriage will simply be two 'incomplete' people trying to find completeness in one another. Only when they understand that their fullness is found in a relationship with Jesus will they ever begin to complement one another. Completion in Jesus' responsibility and complementing is a woman's privilege." -- from the book, Lady in Waiting

 

[mina]

I love the idea but I've always hated the title of the book. I don't want to be "in waiting". I want to be busy with the work of God! I want to be living life right now! not waiting.

 

[hischildsindik]

Mina, I think that is God's plan for all of us who desire to marry, that we wait actively, going about God's business, with an active heart of love. I don't think God would want you or any of us to just sit and wait, putting life on hold until our mate falls in our laps, so to speak. He wants our hearts from moment one, how else could we fulfill the 'Seek first the Kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added unto you'?

Keep busy with God's work. And when God brings someone into your life, I firmly believe, it won't be a hard transition, because you will both have the same vision for God's work that your lives will mix just right because you both met going about His business.

 

[KeilCoppes]

"...When two 'incomplete' singles get married, their union will not make them complete. Their marriage will simply be two 'incomplete' people trying to find completeness in one another. ..."

This is a fundamental ---- and almost all people miss it. They make someone else their salvation, and then when they feel incomplete, or lonely, or unfulfilled in them, then they give up and continue pursuing what they consider is practical salvation, or the intangibles they can't live without - they go somewhere else pursuing something they can only find in the Lord. That's why so many divorces and unhappinesses.

 

[JPPT1974]

If God wants me to have a mate, that is all up to him. But Jesus will direct me to the right man. May God bless and be with you all and take care.

 

[purple85]

I love the idea but I've always hated the title of the book. I don't want to be "in waiting". I want to be busy with the work of God! I want to be living life right now! not waiting.

Yea i know what you mean about the title. But that's not really what it means. When it says Lady in Waiting, i think its more so that pple know its for singles. The book is all for doing God's work and trusting God to bring you a husband in His will and His timing.

 

[mina]

UGH!!! but why do people assume that singles are sittin around and waiting???? Oh it has waiting in the titile , it must be a book for singles!!!! ok that was my mini rant. Seriously though I'm sick of all the sterotypes and pitying of singles in christian circles. Anyways I know what she means but I just have a problem with it

 

[KeilCoppes]

Mina, I can get that, but it's pretty hardwired into them culturally. It's not always pity, but they're often blind to the effects. Perhaps the question is if we can be kind to them and work to understand them?

 

[mina]

yes i can be kind to them but I'm not going to passively accept their sterotype of me, and I don't have to, so i'm not

 

[mina]

I understand why people can think that way about singles, but we don't have to let them keep thinking that just because it's convienent and easy and that's the way it's always been so let's not do anything to change people's way of thinking.

 

[LovinGod]

"A woman is not born a woman. Nor does she become one when she marries a man, bears a child and does their dirty linen, not even when she joins a woman's liberation movement. A woman becomes a woman when she becomes what God wants her to be." -- Kenneth G. Smith, Learning to be a Woman (back cover)

"I feel very strongly that marriage is not a higher calling than the single state. Happy indeed are those people, married or single, who have discovered that happiness is not found in marriage but in a right relationship with God."--Cary Chapman.

"Take your alabastor box to Jesus and break it in His presence, for He is worthy of such honor. Having responded to your heavenly Bridegroom in such a manner, you can wait with confident assurance that, if it be God's will, He will provide you with an earthly bridegroom...Take your alabastor box, with your body, soul, and dreams, and entrust them to Jesus. When He is your Lord, you can joyfully walk in the path of life that He has for you." -- from the book, Lady in Waiting

"Incompleteness is not the result of being single, but of not being full of Jesus. When two 'incomplete' singles get married, their union will not make them complete. Their marriage will simply be two 'incomplete' people trying to find completeness in one another. Only when they understand that their fullness is found in a relationship with Jesus will they ever begin to complement one another. Completion in Jesus' responsibility and complementing is a woman's privilege." -- from the book, Lady in Waiting

Those quotes rock!

When I looked up the meaning of "Lady in waiting" it really isn't as bad as it sounds:

Lady in waiting: A lady of the queen's household, appointed to wait upon or attend the queen.

So, she's not really waiting as in she has nothing to do, she's waiting as in she's attending to the needs of royalty. She's definitely not sitting idly by twiddling her thumbs. It is traditional that the Lady in Waiting "wait" upon the Queen, but we are Ladies who wait upon the King.

 

[KeilCoppes]

I understand why people can think that way about singles, but we don't have to let them keep thinking that just because it's convienent and easy and that's the way it's always been so let's not do anything to change people's way of thinking.

Actually, my point was not to not try, but to not get worked up over it. I'm not about to get worked up over other people's well-meaning misconceptions and strain my life over it. If I have a choice between deciding to be happy and getting mad over others....? I'm going to skip the mad and frustrated - I've never found them profitable or even heard that they were. The fruits of the Spirit are given to believers for a reason, and mad and frustrated didn't make the list. Pax. :^)

 

[mina]

lol well i'm not so frustrated about it that I can't live my life or anything. I just speak up when people try to catorgorize me or others, cause it's not right.

 

[fieldmouse3]

That sounds like a really interesting book...I might have to try reading it!

 

[purple85]

Those quotes rock!

When I looked up the meaning of "Lady in waiting" it really isn't as bad as it sounds:

Lady in waiting: A lady of the queen's household, appointed to wait upon or attend the queen.

So, she's not really waiting as in she has nothing to do, she's waiting as in she's attending to the needs of royalty. She's definitely not sitting idly by twiddling her thumbs. It is traditional that the Lady in Waiting "wait" upon the Queen, but we are Ladies who wait upon the King.

Hey d'ya know what? I'd never even realised that that might be where the title stems from! So then, its def not implying we singles are waiting around for a husband. rather we are busying ourselves with all the things that God has called us to do. I really like the book cos its stresses that singles have much more free time to minister to others through various means such as writing, listening, helping etc.

 

[purple85]

hmm..... *bump*

 

[Living4Him03]

I recommend reading the bible. I am very skeptical of books authors write about psychological or other life issues. The world of psychology/sociology/social work that is secular can really corrupt one's view and make it hard to view things in light of God's word. Trust me, I'm a degreed social worker and it's really hard to keep a Godly perspective when dealing with such issues. Be careful!

 

[LovinGod]

I recommend reading the bible. I am very skeptical of books authors write about psychological or other life issues. The world of psychology/sociology/social work that is secular can really corrupt one's view and make it hard to view things in light of God's word. Trust me, I'm a degreed social worker and it's really hard to keep a Godly perspective when dealing with such issues. Be careful!

I haven't read the book.

But from what I have heard about it, it's a Christian book from a Christian perspective.

Part of the book's summary says, "Learn how to become a lady of purity, faith, contentment, patience, and more as you pursue a personal and intimate relationship with Jesus."

That concept isn't usually included in secular psychology books.

Or am I misunderstanding what you are saying?

 

[purple85]

I haven't read the book.

But from what I have heard about it, it's a Christian book from a Christian perspective.

Part of the book's summary says, "Learn how to become a lady of purity, faith, contentment, patience, and more as you pursue a personal and intimate relationship with Jesus."

That concept isn't usually included in secular psychology books.

Or am I misunderstanding what you are saying?

Yeah i agree with you.