Ladies?

[jcj3803]

Now you're assuming that I know the names of the steps!!! LOL! I'm still at the slow, slow, quick quick stage...LOL!!!

Ahh. Learning the foxtrot, eh?

Well, tonight is practice at my regular place , so we'll see who shows up. And I will have fun no matter what, so...

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Yes...so far I've learned the waltz, swing, rumba and foxtrot!

Good luck!!! And let us know how it goes and who shows up if you don't want to post it on the board then feel free to PM me...

Have fun!!!!

 

[jcj3803]

Yes...so far I've learned the waltz, swing, rumba and foxtrot!

Good luck!!! And let us know how it goes and who shows up if you don't want to post it on the board then feel free to PM me...

Have fun!!!!

No sign of the lady in question. And I *really* thought there was something there. Oh well, we do pray, "Thy will be done".

The owner's wife did ask me tonight if I ever considered dancing in one of their showcases. I told her I was nowhere near ready for that. Yeah, me and some chiquita in front of 30 people watching us. Even with 3 other couples on the floor, my head would probably explode. OTOH, maybe a tango? Nahhhhh...

 

[eatenbylocusts]

No sign of the lady in question. And I *really* thought there was something there. Oh well, we do pray, "Thy will be done".

The owner's wife did ask me tonight if I ever considered dancing in one of their showcases. I told her I was nowhere near ready for that. Yeah, me and some chiquita in front of 30 people watching us. Even with 3 other couples on the floor, my head would probably explode. OTOH, maybe a tango? Nahhhhh...

Sometimes we have other engagements that keep us from things we would really like to do. And sometimes we're too scared.

 

[jcj3803]

Sometimes we have other engagements that keep us from things we would really like to do.

Yes, of course. She could show up sometime in the future. I'm getting conflicting signals from my male intuition though.

And sometimes we're too scared.

Scared... Hmmmm. Yes, I've wussied out on things myself. I think a practice dance is pretty innocuous though - no pressure or expectations aside from dancing together at least some. And hardly a date in the traditional sense. Could you elaborate?

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Yes, of course. She could show up sometime in the future. I'm getting conflicting signals from my male intuition though.



Scared... Hmmmm. Yes, I've wussied out on things myself. I think a practice dance is pretty innocuous though - no pressure or expectations aside from dancing together at least some. And hardly a date in the traditional sense. Could you elaborate?

There was a dance lesson/dance that I really wanted to go to last week, but my friend got a better offer and bailed on me. I had never gone to that studio, so I chose to go to church which was actually good since I was getting a cold and pretty annoyed with my friend.

The other scenario is knowing that a certain someone might be there and that there might be some changes to the relationship and it's a little scary.

I overanalyze things too. Maybe she had a flat tire or family was in town, it was a friend's birthday,.... Maybe she's writing her last paper for school that's due by midnight tonight?! No, that's me. I want to go to a lesson/dance tonight at a studio where I've been before, so I need to stop messing around.

 

[OhhJim]

My brother, please quit wussying out, and next time be the man and ask her for her number. If she has any self-confidence, and any (ANY) experience with men, she probably expected you to do so. When you didn't, she probably figured you either weren't interested, or were a wussy. Some women want to see how badly you want to get with them.

I know it's tough. I know it's scary. I know it's nerve-wracking, and you're putting yourself out there, but it's what a man does. Here you've got the perfect vehicle to meet women, and you're not using it.

Why do you think women take dance lessons? Seriously, why do you think they do it? I'm not going to tell you what I think, I just want you to think about it.

 

[jcj3803]

My brother, please quit wussying out, and next time be the man and ask her for her number. If she has any self-confidence, and any (ANY) experience with men, she probably expected you to do so. When you didn't, she probably figured you either weren't interested, or were a wussy. Some women want to see how badly you want to get with them.

I know it's tough. I know it's scary. I know it's nerve-wracking, and you're putting yourself out there, but it's what a man does. Here you've got the perfect vehicle to meet women, and you're not using it.

Why do you think women take dance lessons? Seriously, why do you think they do it? I'm not going to tell you what I think, I just want you to think about it.

LOL! Well said!

 

[eatenbylocusts]

My brother, please quit wussying out, and next time be the man and ask her for her number. If she has any self-confidence, and any (ANY) experience with men, she probably expected you to do so. When you didn't, she probably figured you either weren't interested, or were a wussy. Some women want to see how badly you want to get with them.

I know it's tough. I know it's scary. I know it's nerve-wracking, and you're putting yourself out there, but it's what a man does. Here you've got the perfect vehicle to meet women, and you're not using it.

Why do you think women take dance lessons? Seriously, why do you think they do it? I'm not going to tell you what I think, I just want you to think about it.

For many reasons. I drove more than 1/2 hour to one place just because the husband/wife team are Christians. It's a small crowd and probably only one or two dateable guys for me. But, everyone was just nice.

 

[OhhJim]

For many reasons. I drove more than 1/2 hour to one place just because the husband/wife team are Christians. It's a small crowd and probably only one or two dateable guys for me. But, everyone was just nice.

Yeah, that's why I didn't venture an opinion on the subject. However, I do think that women probably don't take dance lessons in order to avoid men!

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

Can the lessons---get a motorcycle and get out and get some fresh air----travel---see the countryside------visit biker bars---- WAIT !
--forget that one------uhh-------what was that old ad from Honda?------"You meet the nicest people on a Honda" ---

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Yeah, that's why I didn't venture an opinion on the subject. However, I do think that women probably don't take dance lessons in order to avoid men!

I took three classes on Sunday and I can safely say that none of the guys will be a possibility for me, but I intend to keep driving all that way because I like the teacher and the atmosphere. I got an introduction to the Tango and that was fun!
It was a bit sad going back though, because I miss one of the guys. He had a heart attack at his office Christmas party after dancing (and impressing all of his co-workers I was told). He's in heaven though.

 

[jcj3803]

I got an introduction to the Tango and that was fun!

Yes, my favorite dance. American that is, not ready for the Argentine yet.

It was a bit sad going back though, because I miss one of the guys. He had a heart attack at his office Christmas party after dancing (and impressing all of his co-workers I was told).

Well, not a bad way to go. Beats the heck out of wasting away in a hospital.

 

[jcj3803]

Can the lessons---get a motorcycle and get out and get some fresh air----travel---see the countryside------visit biker bars----

All the bikers around me are investment bankers and insurance brokers. Kind of like the "surfers" from Redondo Beach and such zipping around in their Benzes...

 

[eatenbylocusts]

All the bikers around me are investment bankers and insurance brokers. Kind of like the "surfers" from Redondo Beach and such zipping around in their Benzes...

Redondo Beach, CA?

 

[jcj3803]

Redondo Beach, CA?

Yeah, or is Manhattan Beach? Ehhh, one of the South Bay Beaches anyway. (My son lives in LA.)

 

[Argent]

Boy, it's hard to put it out there, but here goes...

I've been taking dance lessons for the past 5 weeks at a new studio and I've been pretty much partnered up with one person. We've been getting along well and having fun and she's asked me a few times about my plans to attend things, etc. although we've never met outside of class.

Last night was the last lesson in the series and she seemed kind of standoff-ish. Not rude or anything, but just not as friendly as usual. The instructor urged us to sign up for the next series but my partner said it wouldn't work for her as the time was too late in the evening and asked what I was doing. I told her I was probably going to continue but I also gave her some info on the studio that I've been going to for quite awhile and told her it was a good place and maybe that would give her some other options. And I encouraged her to come to their weekly practice sessions if it fit her schedule.

Ok, so I'm confused. I got the impression she's a little shy and I didn't really want to ask her out during the series as it could have made things awkward for both of us if she declined. But I also had the feeling there was something going on between us, at least until last night. Well even including last night once we broke the ice again.

Postmortems aren't always a good thing and I'll probably never see her again, but should I have done... something? Was my intuition in need of calibration and I made too much of nothing? Never assume or presume? Should I just go home tonight, have a beer and watch a "Conan the Barbarian" DVD a few times? Thanks.

Bro, come on! You're 50 years old, not 17. Women aren't that difficult. She seemed to like you. When she said it became clear that you weren't going to meet at class again, it was time to say "I've been thinking about going to (insert name of nice restaurant) for dinner soon. Would you join me?" Then she will either say "Yes, I'd love to." or "I'm sorry but that's not possible." If she declines, well, guys our age know it's disappointing but hardly the end of the world. At least extend an inventation and let her say yes or no instead of you disqualifying yourself.

P.S. I don't ask for a woman's number. I ask her out on a date. She either says yes or no.

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

If you don't go out and do activities then you won't meet 'em. No activities for me. If some lady hits on me when I'm at Habitat and shows interest then I'll just ask her out. If not, I'm not worried about it. I'm getting too old to invest time and effort in the dating game.

When I was at Habitat some lady from work put a business card on my windshield with her cell number. I took her out a few times but then gave the excuse that my divorce was too recent and let her slide. She didn't do anything for me so I eased out of the situation. I guess I'm getting old. It takes more to get me interested as time goes on.........but ya never know

 

[Tumbleweed64]

So I like this guy that comes into the grocery store where I work every day... think it would be too forward of me to write my phone number on his receipt?

 

[MzSnowleopard]

you could- or you could write a simple note before hand asking him out- and slipping it to him when you give him the receipt- this way your manager can't complain.