Ladies advice Please:

[JT912]

So I know it may be strange but I signed up for this Christian dating thing at relationships . com anyway. I have pics, created my profile, have been truthful but I still think I'm doing something wrong. What do you ladies expect men to do? I mean I've responded without any reply. I understand that Woman want to be pursued but when is it crossing the line? I don't want to freak them out lol. It seems to me that there is some crazy dating game rules that maybe I just don't know. Do yall really just want guys to ask you out before emailing or talking first? Cuz if thats the norm I will just start taking em out, if it works.

Ps. I think of myself as pretty confident and willing to take risks more so than before despite the fact that I may be a little overweight and all. I don't get jittery talking to women, I just don't know why they aren't responding. any replies would be great thank you.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I would say just keep trying. Sometimes people sign up on those sites, find a person to date and then totally forget about their profile, so they stop checking messages, friend requests etc. You may just be accidentally hitting some vacant ones.

I've never done dating sites, but i'm still familiar with online dating. Basically you find somebody you're interested in and become friends with them first. Keep talking/messaging and see if it turns into something. If it does, then you arrange to meet up in person. If not, well, keep talking to other people.

Whether you want to wait until you meet in person to make the relationship official is up to you. That's what most do.

I wouldn't worry too much about freaking them out. Remember, they signed up on the site to find a man, they WANT to see messages in their inbox from men saying they want to get to know them. If you see a woman who looks like she might be a good match for you, just send her a friendly email. If you see something you have in common with her in her profile, bring that up. Maybe you like surfing and you see she said she likes to surf in her profile....Use that as an ice breaker. Tell her you love to surf too, tell her about your favorite surfing location and ask her what hers is. Goal is to get to know her and become her friend first.

 

[HopeFaithLove4u]

I signed up for different dating sites in the past.....every girl is different and will respond to different things. TBH....I had a pofile pic up and I got too many responses and "winks" to really even care to date anyone. It was so overwhelming! (I finally took my profile pic off, so they had to click on my profile to see what I looked like, then they had to read what my interests were.)

I'd say just be honest with your picture and genuine with what you say. If you try to be fake and too confident, then you may get the attention of other fake people.

And, when I did respond to a guy.....the guy took the time to send me a sweet message about things that interest me.

Good luck with it!

 

[JT912]

Hey thanks for the tips ladies it was very helpful.

 

[Kimmip]

I would honestly jusr pray for the Lord's will. He may not want you to do this, seeking business.

 

[The Nihilist]

Oh my goodness, you never ask a woman how to work your game. They never have any idea. Seriously, they're terrible.
Online dating stuff is so easy. Look at their profile, and send them a one-line message about something in their profile that sticks out. Go from there.
all that advice K9 gave you might be good on a date, but to get their attention, play it cool. It's not about playing games, it's about being able to handle the games that women play.

 

[Blank123]

wow. old thread.

 

[Kimmip]

Don't be discouraged! If God places a good Christian woman for you in your life, then great! Not all women want to play games but like every one else, we go through much fear and not always knwoing what we want. A good leader who is loving... I think all godly women want that.
God bless.

 

[The Nihilist]

Women always say they don't want to play games, and then they always play games, at least at first. This is how dating works.

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

Gotta be careful about these dating sites..

I was curious about how often successful replies occurred, so I made some fake profiles on various sites using a photo of a young, beautiful female (photo of a friend of a friend who didn't go online much ) and filled out the form with a lot of positive information, and I made sure it didn't appear fake in any way. I then sent messages to some 70-100 different male profiles of varying races, religious beliefs, and interests between the sites, all with recent activity. I got a grand total of about 4 replies.

Dating sites are fishy and its really a hit or miss sort of thing--it probably has nothing to do you doing something wrong.