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dallasapple

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Im all for not making this about gender..in fact many women are heros..this just happens to be about husbands..heroism isnt a "male trait"..Males and females are both fully capable..and within that its based individual to individual..there are many men that are cowards too..


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I didn't say that romance itself was a problem I said obsessing over it was. There's a significant difference.

But the specifics are beside the point, which you've proven, which is that it wouldn't be OK for me, or anyone, to toss off such a large negative generalization about women. The fact that I had a hard time comming up with truly analogous "women's sins" is just another illustration of the overall man/bad woman good meme. The truly ironic thing though is that objections to generalizations and to the idea that there are behaviors that are generally male r generally female seem to have gone out the window when the unfair negative generalization is aimed at men.
 
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Maybe I'm just lucky, but ever since I've been grown up and on my own, I never felt the need for my husband to come and rescue me or fight for me.

I'm and extremely good swimmer--much better than my husband who hates being in the water so I've never felt the need to be rescued from drowning.

I've never felt to really be in any real danger since I left my abusive parents. I've had my car break down on the side of the road, but we've always had Triple A so that hasn't been a problem.

I've never had a bad experience with another man harassing me, or any other time when I think I would need my husband to rush in and save me. That doesn't mean I love him any less--just means we have a fairly boring life, lol.
 
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chaz345

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But Chaz, you are the one making certain sins, generally male, are you not?

No the person who made the post I'm objecting to did. None of the one's she mentioned would be accepted as being engaged in by women anywhere near as much as by men.
 
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It is silly. So, stop doing it indirectly.

The sins are not openly pitted against one another, men are perceived as worse sinners than women, and sorry, I will not buy it if anyone makes a rapid claim otherwise, its just too obvious, WAY to obvious, not just here, but across the full church body.

Look at the link I posted. How do you account for those answers? Women see their biggest sin as self esteem related? Are you kidding me? The worse thing women do is think too low of themselves? That's got so much narcissism and other things similar bundled up in it it cannot even be adequately unpacked.

Those were large groups. Are they weird people and outliers
 
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WOOOOOOW!! CONS really?

Yep, and its heroic a guy can swill a beer, minimize the screen on the PC quickly so she doesnt see the porn, all while managing to drive a wort hog across a bridge in a map he has just assembled staying up till 3AM on Halo

Oh, the heroics is, it was his night to cook, he managed to call out and order a pizza while doing all these other things
 
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Luther073082

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Blind Post: In the sense that I kill spiders and bee's for my wife I guess I fill that role.

Personally I'm not a big fan of those terms because I'm more concerned with the reality of history rather then the made up fantasies of history.
 
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Yea... I don't think women these days need the characters we play in video games these days.

Back in 97' I had the biggest crush on Sephiroth from FFVII, and he had square muscles and a face with just eyes.
It was a magical time.

- Niff
 
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I looked at the link you posted. It's an anecdote from some teacher who asks mixed groups of students about sin. He would have been better of separating the sexes and finding a female teacher to talk to the female students. He probably would have got more honest answers.
 
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