Knight in Shinning Armor?

[Created2Write]

So, this was brought up in another thread and was off-topic so I decided to make a thread so as not to derail the other. There was a comment made about a wife not needed a knight in shinning armor or a hero because she didn't see herself as a damsel in distress, but as a capable woman.

I see myself as a capable woman too. I go to school, I do my work without any help from my husband, I discipline myself to get my work done, I get any paperwork for financial aid filled out, paid for and turned in, etc. However, I fondly refer to my husband as "my superhero", "my knight in shinning armor", my Prince Charming". And he calls me "his beautiful Princess". I'm a romantic and I do, to an extent, believe in real life happily ever afters.

So, is your husband your "Knight"? Or is he just your husband? Do you think seeing your husband as a hero or knight would make you not-capable?

If you're a guy reading this, does your wife see you as extra special like her hero or Prince? Or just a regular guy she loves a lot?

 

[hijklmnop]

Jesus is my Saviour. My husband is my best friend, my lover and my partner. I used to think I "needed" him in a way that became unhealthy for me. I no longer subscribe to that POV. I WANT him...I NEED Jesus.

 

[dallasapple]

So, is your husband your "Knight"? Or is he just your husband?

Here is the differnce I think between you and me..I dont MINIMIZE the meaning of the word "husband " to 'just'..to me husband is a HUGE and critical VITAL part of a mans life..its to me not necessarry to try and ellevate the meaning of husband to a warrior or a 'knight'..husband is set apart with its own unique honor..a knight isnt what I married ..I married a man ...who became my husband and thats more than good enough for me..

And yes Im "capable" that doesnt mean I dont cherish and value having a husband.Having a husband is deeply a part of me..part of my identity..a VITAL statistic..I dont have a 'knight"..I have a husband and that says it all..no need for me to embellish..To SHARE my life with me is what I married for...to gain a husband(not "just) .. and not a knight to rescue me.

Dallas

 

[chaz345]

Sorry for humorous derail but this thread reminds me of a pic I saw on facebook this morning:

 

[hijklmnop]

Hilarious pic and caption, LOL, although I don't like the "r" word.

 

[dallasapple]

If you're a guy reading this, does your wife see you as extra special like her hero or Prince? Or just a regular guy she loves a lot?

Here again ..you are MINIMIZING the word husband to a point that isnt EXTRA special to you...to me it IS "extra speical' that ONE man in my life is my HUSBAND...his babies came from my body..my dream and his that two of us..will be OLD and wrnkly together in each others arms..thats not "regular" ..that ENORMOUS.

My LAST name is my husband name..thats nto any regualr ole guy that I love..thats my husband.

Dallas

 

[Created2Write]

I agree with you dallas that the role of husband is important. My use of the word "just" was not intended to minimize that role, but to show the difference between the two roles offered.

 

[Created2Write]

Jesus is my Saviour. My husband is my best friend, my lover and my partner. I used to think I "needed" him in a way that became unhealthy for me. I no longer subscribe to that POV. I WANT him...I NEED Jesus.

Okay...not really what I asked, but okay.

I need Jesus too, as we all do. But I also need my husband. Not because I'm a helpless woman in desperate need of his help, and certainly not in the same way I need Christ. But I do need him. I need him emotionally, I need him sexually, I need him conversationally, I need him physically, I need him intimately. Jesus is the most important need in my life, as only He can fulfill me. But I do need my husband and I'm not ashamed to say so.

My husband, to answer my own question, is my super hero, my Prince and my Knight for many reasons. Mainly, God used him to bring me to a place where I was willing to trust again. God is my Savior, but Jason is my hero, my Knight. And it's not that the role of husband isn't good enough or special enough. But Jason is so much more than that to me. "Husband" while incredibly important and special, is only the surface of what Jason is to me.

 

[dallasapple]

I agree with you dallas that the role of husband is important. My use of the word "just" was not intended to minimize that role, but to show the difference between the two roles offered.

O.K well 'just" sounds like 'only'..and a husband is a HUGE role encompossing LIFE altering commitment..and the most intimate relatinship two humans can ever have..parent child ..brother sister..closest friend..none of them can compare..including "knight"..a knight is a warrior..who fights in a war..I'm not in a war..and if Im having any kind of bttle..HUSBAND can aide me..husband can fill my needs..


Husband for me says it all..a knight is an occupation that has zero to do with husbandry..A huband is my next of kin..

..Yes I know the difference between the two roles of a husband and a knight..I have a husband..I dont need a knight.

I remember when we first got married..and how giddy we were ..being "allowed" to say .."thats my husband..or thats my wife"..we were like two children getting to be "big people"..it was thrilling to be able to say that..and a little intimidating..I try not to forget how meaningful it really is..and have no desire to add on any titles to that..

I dont see anything wrong with pretending..or using "pet names" of course..just I dotn see husbnad as 'regular ole guy that I love'..its beyond that..and I dont think of him as "just' my husband to where that title"husband" needs to be romantisized or embellished upon including calling him something completely different ..that hes not.

Dallas

 

[dallasapple]

But Jason is so much more than that to me. "Husband" while incredibly important and special, is only the surface of what Jason is to me.

See for me..there is no HIGHER of a position for a man(or any human) to have in my life than husband..thats the top.other than God..thats it..so "knight" is a downgrade..and not his "title in my life let alone his 'postiion"..hes more than a knight..

Dallas

 

[Sailor_A]

When I was a child, I thought the Disney princes had very little personality, it is nice to be saved and all by a handsome hero but it wasn't so much a dream because most of them had no depth/personality.I also only wished to be a princess when I was a little girl and now it doesn't sound so appealing... well the money does but not much else. I think I may be more practical than romantic or maybe I'm drawn to a different type of romance. I've not really thought as my husband as my "knight" lol but the "prince", "hero" etc doesn't really draw out the feelings of admiration I maybe should feel. It would not make me feel "less capable" though.

Rather I do see him as special but not because he is any of those things. He is a real person with depth and one of many I've given my life to be with and understand. I guess because I spent most of my childhood dreaming I find it romantic to be with a real person . I spent most of time wishing I was anywhere else but this universe and now look what I'm studying. Life is mysterious.

 

[c1ners]

lol! My ideal husband would also be my "prince" or "knight" (whichever word you want to use) To me, they are words of endurement. My Prince Charming or My Knight in Shining Armour. It would also mean that I love my husband enough to think of him as either my prince or my knight.

Sometimes (to me) words are just words.

 

[dallasapple]

lol! My ideal husband would also be my "prince" or "knight" (whichever word you want to use) To me, they are words of endurement. My Prince Charming or My Knight in Shining Armour. It would also mean that I love my husband enough to think of him as either my prince or my knight.

Sometimes (to me) words are just words.

Yep..I have nothing against pet names..but thats al it is..pet names..a husband is what they really are..and that can encompass many many good things or bad..

Dallas

 

[Created2Write]

O.K well 'just" sounds like 'only'..and a husband is a HUGE role encompossing LIFE altering commitment..and the most intimate relatinship two humans can ever have..parent child ..brother sister..closest friend..none of them can compare..including "knight"..

A husband is a huge role that can't be compared to any other relationship. That is very true. And I'm not using "knight" as a replacement for husband, merely an addition.

a knight is a warrior..who fights in a war..I'm not in a war..and if Im having any kind of bttle..HUSBAND can aide me..husband can fill my needs..

Interesting take. I guess we see this differently. I see a knight as a warrior too, but one who fights for his love. This has played out many times in our marriage. Jason has fought hard for me in our relationship, and that makes him worthy of the title "Knight" in our relationship.

Husband for me says it all..a knight is an occupation that has zero to do with husbandry..A huband is my next of kin..

Literally speaking, you're right. I'm more referring to the figurative though.

..Yes I know the difference between the two roles of a husband and a knight..I have a husband..I dont need a knight.

I'm not saying you should.

I remember when we first got married..and how giddy we were ..being "allowed" to say .."thats my husband..or thats my wife"..we were like two children getting to be "big people"..it was thrilling to be able to say that..and a little intimidating..I try not to forget how meaningful it really is..and have no desire to add on any titles to that..

My husband and I were that way as well. Still are pretty giddy about it, actually. We both endured some rather emotionally trying circumstances before we dated, and since I was a little girl I dreamed of finding my "Prince". I've always seen myself as a Princess(daughter of the King of Kings), and believed God had a Prince for me. Jason meets everything I ever wanted in a husband, so I see him as my husband, my Prince and my Knight. The superhero thing is more of a joke, though at times he has come though in little ways that give him that name.
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I dont see anything wrong with pretending..or using "pet names" of course..just I dotn see husbnad as 'regular ole guy that I love'..its beyond that..and I dont think of him as "just' my husband to where that title"husband" needs to be romantisized or embellished upon including calling him something completely different ..that hes not.

Dallas

To each their own.

 

[Created2Write]

lol! My ideal husband would also be my "prince" or "knight" (whichever word you want to use) To me, they are words of endurement. My Prince Charming or My Knight in Shining Armour. It would also mean that I love my husband enough to think of him as either my prince or my knight.

Sometimes (to me) words are just words.

This explains how I feel well. I believe they are words of endearment as well. Would you happen to be a romantic by any chance?

Thanks for posting!

 

[Lena75]

My husband isn't a fan of being called things like Prince, Sire, Knight in Shining Armour. We have other pet names but those, he has a strong dislike for.

 

[Created2Write]

Jason didn't care for it much at first, but after a few times he grew to not only live it, but also reciprocated things for me. When we saw the movie Tangled(my favorite movie ever) we both loved it. He said he saw me in Rapunzel and I said I saw him in Eugene.

So we tons of pet names, but some extra special ones revolve around Prince/Princess, Knight/M'lady, etc. LOVE them, and so does he.

 

[Sailor_A]

Jason didn't care for it much at first, but after a few times he grew to not only live it, but also reciprocated things for me. When we saw the movie Tangled(my favorite movie ever) we both loved it. He said he saw me in Rapunzel and I said I saw him in Eugene.

So we tons of pet names, but some extra special ones revolve around Prince/Princess, Knight/M'lady, etc. LOVE them, and so does he.

In public?

 

[dallasapple]

I went through a real freaky stage one time when I called my husband Mulder and I asked him to call me Scully...(from the XFiles)..poor thing reluctantly did..I would say Hey Mulder???and he would go ..um..yeah/?and I woud say NO say "yeah Scully" and he woud go O.K "yeah Scully"???

Dallas

 

[Created2Write]

In public?

Sometimes.