I know the whole kissing before marriage vs. first kiss on the wedding day topic has come up before; however, I wanted to put a little different spin on the "where do you stand" question.
When I came back to Christ the biggest area of my life that needed cleaning up was my relationships. Coming from a sexually promiscuous background, I felt God calling me to total purity if when (or if) He ever put a man in my life that He intends to be my husband. One of the areas of conviction was kissing. Yes, I am one of those purity "radicals" who wants to share my first kiss (since the re-dedication of my life to Jesus Christ) with the man I marry after the minister pronounces us husband and wife. I find that to be one of the most beautiful expressions of love and devotion to the person God blesses you with. I'm not saying it's right for everyone. As Joshua Harris says, Christians can kiss before marriage and completely maintain purity and edify Christ. There are some of us, however, that find kissing poses a great temptation. I'm going to try and explain why I feel this way without being crude.
In Song of Solomon 2:7 it says:
"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
The Bible instructs Believers to save that type of sexual passion for marriage. I see sexual intimacy between husband and wife as a package deal. Why would you want to disect the aspects of sex and do everything but go all the way? That's not saving much to be special on the wedding night. I see kissing as the beginning of foreplay. How special to save it for my husband on our wedding day.
So my question is this, in the poll I asked where you stand on the issue. If you have any other verses to share that would support the "no kissing until marriage" stance I would love to see them.
And this is by no means criticizing those who do kiss. Everyone feel convicted about different aspects of their lives. This was just a biggie for me.
When I came back to Christ the biggest area of my life that needed cleaning up was my relationships. Coming from a sexually promiscuous background, I felt God calling me to total purity if when (or if) He ever put a man in my life that He intends to be my husband. One of the areas of conviction was kissing. Yes, I am one of those purity "radicals" who wants to share my first kiss (since the re-dedication of my life to Jesus Christ) with the man I marry after the minister pronounces us husband and wife. I find that to be one of the most beautiful expressions of love and devotion to the person God blesses you with. I'm not saying it's right for everyone. As Joshua Harris says, Christians can kiss before marriage and completely maintain purity and edify Christ. There are some of us, however, that find kissing poses a great temptation. I'm going to try and explain why I feel this way without being crude.
In Song of Solomon 2:7 it says:
"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
The Bible instructs Believers to save that type of sexual passion for marriage. I see sexual intimacy between husband and wife as a package deal. Why would you want to disect the aspects of sex and do everything but go all the way? That's not saving much to be special on the wedding night. I see kissing as the beginning of foreplay. How special to save it for my husband on our wedding day.
So my question is this, in the poll I asked where you stand on the issue. If you have any other verses to share that would support the "no kissing until marriage" stance I would love to see them.
And this is by no means criticizing those who do kiss. Everyone feel convicted about different aspects of their lives. This was just a biggie for me.
