Kinda Strange Relationship Question...

[solagratia]

I'm new here and I'll try to make this as concise as possible..
Got married when I was 19. Spiritually immature, married a guy who was either spiritually immature too, or not a christian (not sure). He dated while we were married, never admitted it, never repented, he filed for divorce. (I did go through counseling w/ my pastor throughout that time)
A couple months after we were divorced, ex-husband got a girl pregnant and married her. That was 1995.
In 2003 he called me from out of the blue to admit that he had cheated on me, that it wasn't my fault, and that he was sorry and asked forgiveness. (which I had given. - I forgave him years ago, even though we'd had no contact.)
I asked what prompted the call after all these years and he said that his wife was chearing on him, that they'd never had a good marriage b/c he had never gotten over me, etc.
We talked about his relationship w/ God and over the next few months he became a Christian (or returned to his faith, depending on if he was a christian before - nit picking, I know)
Over a year later, his wife has left him and moved in w/ her boyfriend of a year+, and she is filing for divorce. (she is decidedly NOT a christan. Hostile to the message)

My Question:
What do you think, spiritually, is even allowed in this case?
I struggle with whether it is sin for me to even talk to the ex, b/c that could be impeding any chance of reconciliation between him & his wife. (they have a kid)
He definitely has biblical grounds for divorce in my understanding of scripture, but where we go after that is grey area.
(I've never remarried, been single since the divorce)

Would remarriage be an option for us, or is it null and void b/c of the his 2nd marriage?

Thanks for reading this incredibly long post!!
I have a hard time talking to friends/family about this b/c they are very biased against him.
SolaGratia

 

[E_Powers]

many people would say do not bother to rekindle with him. and others will say its a sign it is ment for you two to be together. But all i can suggest is to pray for god to send you the wisdom to make the right choice. but when you ask this you need to give it all to god. because if you dont give it all to god it is like sitting in the the passenger side of the car and you are helping stir it with the driver.

 

[ElizabethanLady]

Stay away!!!!

 

[Jenna]

I would be very, very careful about getting involved with this man. I don't know that I would be able to trust a man at all if he had done something like that to me. I would be worried that he was using me as a "rebound" because of his hurt, and looking for someone that he had some pleasant times with.

 

[tonya]

Pray hard about this....VERY HARD!! You are his first wife(convenant wife) so Gid does see this...BUT I am like you in that he has a child with this other woman and that baby needs both parents...BUT he is scripturally ok for divorce from her b/c of adultery....also...people CAN change...just be friends, go slow, pray, and let GOD guide you.

 

[Mother Vashti]

Aren't there better fish in the sea?

 

[egleis78]

I think you need to be very careful and think this through. Remember that he has a child with this woman. If you get back with him this woman and child will be forever a part of his life. How do you know that he won't miss her later...just like says he misses you now. You don't want to set yourself up for more hurt. You did the right thing by forgiving him, but anything more than that would not be a wise decision.