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I would have named a daughter Isabelle b/c it is a variation of my maiden name (and our family's surname ends with me!) I'm glad it didn't work out tho, b/c it's a terribly popular name now. I like names that you don't hear very often. My younger son's name was not terribly popular when I chose it, but I'm hearing it more and more which bums me out. My older son is definitely not likely to have classmates with the same name!It is still the best name that I have thought of.![]()

I have to agree with this totally. I grew up with my dad always drunk and my mom always working, we really were poor. I don't want my kids to ever experience that.I voted 4 or more but with the condition that I wouldn't want to have more than I could support financially. My parents did that and it made things rough growing up.
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Fabulous post! Thanks for sharing all of that.I would like to have kids. I voted 2-3 but am actually open to having 4 or more. I just don't know at this point if that's God's plan for my life or not.
I'm also starting to feel like time is running out... If'n I don't find myself a man right quick. lol.
And for those who talk about economic security... I'm the second of 4 kids (all born within 5 years). When I was about 5 my dad lost his job and for most of my childhood we were what most people consider "poor". But my siblings and I never noticed. We always had food and clothes. We didn't have all the toys but we had our imaginations and each other and we had loads of fun. One summer my dad was out of work and we spent the whole summer camping. It was the best time of our lives.
So, IMO, the most important thing to give your children is love. They don't need money to be happy, healthy and have a good life. They just need parents who love them.
Besides, you can wait and wait until you think you are financially stable enough to have children, and then maybe you get in an accident and you can't work anymore. Or you get laid off, or any of life's difficulties will find you and suddenly you find yourself poor. You can't guarantee you'll always be in a place that you consider is economically secure enough.
Matthew 6:25-34
25"For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?
26"Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they?
27"And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?
28"And why are you worried about clothing? Observe how the lilies of the field grow; they do not toil nor do they spin,
29yet I say to you that not even Solomon in all his glory clothed himself like one of these.
30"But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you? You of little faith!
31"Do not worry then, saying, 'What will we eat?' or 'What will we drink?' or 'What will we wear for clothing?'
32"For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.
33"But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. 34"So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Very true, but in the context that was shared, it was talking about unforeseen/unavoidable changes in a family's income. Not that love would put food on the table or pay rent.Love IS the most important thing you can give anyone. But, you have to remember, love doesn't buy formula, diapers, and a roof over their head. I think it is irresponsible to keep popping out kids if you can't provide the basics for them.
Coach