kids on dates???

[jenelis]

Do you bring your kid(s) on dates? Why or why not???

I have a steadfast rule that if I'm not comfortable enough to bring my daughter, I don't go period... therefore I pretty much bring her on every personal excursion (which means no REAL dates).

What do you think??? Share your thoughts and feelings!

 

[Jenster]

Hm ... I don't have any children, but I would think it'd be kinda challenging to get to know someone if your child is also there and requiring attention too. Also there's some sharing that is more adult in nature (what happened to your last relationship, for example). I'm not sure I'd like my child of any age listening in on that!

 

[faithopelove]

My son is grown now, but I never even introduced him to my dates I didn't want him to get attached to someone who may not be around long. From the time my husband died in 1996 until my son went into the millitary in 2000, I only dated a couple of times.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I definitely wouldn't have my kids around anyone for at least a few dates to make sure that there is potential for the relationship. And then I still don't want my kids getting attached to anyone until we're about engaged.

My current bf has been out to dinner with my family and to the house for Easter dinner, movies with the kids,etc. My daughter enjoys it when he's around, but doesn't ask for him so I think we're in a good place right now.

 

[OhhJim]

They do make good chaperones.

I've been on dates with her kid(s) and invited them several times. Several of my favorite computer games were introduced to me by a girlfriend's teenage son.

 

[Pats]

I won't introduce my children to anyone I'm dating.

I don't plan to unless we are getting very serious about our relationship. Mostly because I don't want them to get to know some one who is not going to be around.

But also, my last husband was abusive and I think the mere idea of my dating is strill stressful for my son.

 

[porterross]

I would never consider involving my child unless I knew there was a chance for committment, which hasn't happened until recently. Of course, I am not a dater per se, so it has never interfered or made her feel as though there was someone else I wanted to be with more than her.

It's tough to be a single parent. There's no way around it.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Brining children on dates is just wrong, why subject them to get attached to a person who might not be around in a week, in a month or a year.

I have seen this from a different perspective, my kids have been introduced and spent time and ended up attached and loving girlfriends of their Dad, when a breakup happens kids are not ready to deal with that kind of emotion.

Until you are sure it is a for sure thing kids should not be brought into the mix.

We as parents are here to protect our children innocence and feelings.

Sure it is not the easy thing but it is better for the children.

Plus it is a lot of pressure for the other party when kids are involved.