Eph 2:1 And you were dead in the trespasses and sins
2 in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience-
3 among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.
4 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us,
5 even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ-by grace you have been saved-
6 and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus,
Whenever this comes up I am always drawn to this passage. Basically I think it's saying that yes, we were dead in a temporal sense (after all, we are sinners). It's also says that by nature we were children of wrath. But it doesn't say that we were actually children of wrath.
It's possible that I'm reading too much into this, but if we were children of wrath and then when we were justified temporally this changed, then God's wrath fell upon/was planned for someone whom Christ died for.
However, if we were by nature children of wrath, but not actually children of wrath, this problem is averted.
That probably wasn't nearly as structure as it was in my head, but there you go.