Just Wondering ... ... ...

[Sketcher]

Lately, I've been wondering whether what does a guy look at in a girl? How are girls being attracted to guys? Pretty girls? Girls with a very slim body? Or the girl's character? Or .... .... .... ....

I've heard so many times that guys are looking for girls whom are less smarter than them. Is that true?

OK, this might be a silly thread but I really wonder....please post your view.

Her body: This changes with every guy, so take it for what it's worth. Here's what I personally like. First off, curves. Not flab, but curves. I don't go for the stick-figure ladies. More of the average build. Also, she needs a pretty face. Big, bright eyes are nice, and some of the prettiest eyes I've seen were Asian. Soft cheeks, pouty lips, and a good smile.

Her mind: I want to be able to relate to her, and I want her to understand me. I don't want to have to dumb down what I'm saying every time I have to say something. So she has to have about the same intelligence level as me.
Common sense and prudence are absolute musts! A good work ethic and being prepared for the next day, month, and year are needed.

Her character: She must not be short tempered or argumentative. She needs to be patient and filled with grace. She needs to respect me. That means not rubbing stuff in or making me look bad in public. Christians should not do this to each other on any level, and romance is no exception. She needs a gentile and quiet spirit. She needs to love people, especially children. She needs honesty and integrity. She also needs to not be materialistic. She needs to look good, but 25 pairs of shoes are overkill. Having pants, skirts, shirts, dresses and blouses IN THE TRIPLE DIGITS and a jewelry fetish on top of that is a turn off.

Her personality: I like friendly women. Decently outgoing, but not chatterboxes. Not easily offended, and not the type that doesn't look before she leaps. She needs to be creative or at least well suited to be by my side, and help in my calling (I'm going to be an animator or cartoonist, maybe sell some fine art here and there).

And then there's the obvious sharing of values, is Christian and Biblically available, etc. Those are important, but extensively discussed elsewhere.

 

[songz777]

For me as one who has matured the more than many lol. I dont care about "the curves" so much now I dont care about the "bust size" I dont care if she carries a "few pounds" all I want in a woman is someone who trys to look after her self (as I do) a woman who has a sweet personality, caring affectionate, someone who dearly loves the Lord thats the mst important thing to me. The Lord is God over all He makes the unattractive very attractive! me included lol. You ladies fear not about how you look, it is God who moves a man to be attracted to a woman ( so i believe) and the other way around to, it is God who moves our hearts to be willing to be committed to someone whom others say no way to. A true man will see you for who you are within and not those measurements that society measure by. A true man sees the inner woman and not her body (although we cannot help but notice that)
Beauty is the eye of he who sees, and what i call beautyful another says ugly man. Im so glad that God is in control leave it to Him.
) John

 

[Kari8276]

"Beauty is only skin deep"... but UGLY (in all forms of the word) is to the bone!!!!!

 

[Glorianna]

It all depends on the guy. Every guy looks for different things in a girl, just like every girl looks for different things in a guy.

 

[theophilus05]

Every guy is different but there are two big categories to look at. Is he a Christian and is he going to treat you the way he needs to. It doesnt really matter what a guy looks for because you need to make sure that youre going to be ready for that guy that comes along for you. Finding the right person is as important as being the right person. If a guy is looking at outer beauty then hes pretty shallow (not to say that being attracted to someone doesnt matter). But it really shouldnt be a big deal although there are types of people you can be attracted to. But that type doesnt always have to be a body type. So, I guess the big thing for me is the person and their sense of humor (seeing as my humor is an acquired taste in some cases). I guess I should go back to what I first said and say every guy is different but you need to look for that good Christian guy that will treat you right and help you get to heaven.

In Him,
Matt

 

[Kari8276]

Every guy is different but there are two big categories to look at. Is he a Christian and is he going to treat you the way he needs to. It doesnt really matter what a guy looks for because you need to make sure that youre going to be ready for that guy that comes along for you. Finding the right person is as important as being the right person. If a guy is looking at outer beauty then hes pretty shallow (not to say that being attracted to someone doesnt matter). But it really shouldnt be a big deal although there are types of people you can be attracted to. But that type doesnt always have to be a body type. So, I guess the big thing for me is the person and their sense of humor (seeing as my humor is an acquired taste in some cases). I guess I should go back to what I first said and say every guy is different but you need to look for that good Christian guy that will treat you right and help you get to heaven.

In Him,
Matt

Amen to that!!

I ask myself that of every man I meet that has "date" potential... Which isnt many!

 

[VivDaGurl]

Wow....that shows how uniquely we were all made by the Creator! Each of us have different taste for their partner. Hhhhmm.....does that mean that we are made to suit only one person?

I used to go for guys who have really good look and a very sexy body but I began to realise myself that all these are really secondary and the primary thing is the inner self. It's like, a good look and sexy body will only last for the next 20 years or more but the inner self will be there for the rest of a person's life. Why do I say inner self is so important? When a person is in a relationship with another guy/girl and intend to change him/her to be the desired person they want him/her to be is not gonna be easy.... What do you think?

I don't even know whether would I ever meet someone in the near future.....

 

[Thornado]

I've heard so many times that guys are looking for girls whom are less smarter than them. Is that true?

Not for me at least. While I won't deny that outer apperance usually is what makes the first impression, I find intelligence very attractive in a girl.
Though, I guess it would actually be good if the above was generally true, as that would leave more smart girls for me and guys like Iggster.

 

[the_man]

Wow....that shows how uniquely we were all made by the Creator! Each of us have different taste for their partner. Hhhhmm.....does that mean that we are made to suit only one person?

In a pre-fallen world, yes. In the world we live in today, no.

I used to go for guys who have really good look and a very sexy body but I began to realise myself that all these are really secondary and the primary thing is the inner self. It's like, a good look and sexy body will only last for the next 20 years or more but the inner self will be there for the rest of a person's life. Why do I say inner self is so important? When a person is in a relationship with another guy/girl and intend to change him/her to be the desired person they want him/her to be is not gonna be easy.... What do you think?

I think a person possesing godly character (whatever that means to you) and a person that has a good look and very sex body (again, whatever that means to you) are not mutually exclusive (i.e. contrary to popular belief, it is possible for a person to posses both).

 

[Sketcher]

When a person is in a relationship with another guy/girl and intend to change him/her to be the desired person they want him/her to be is not gonna be easy.... What do you think?

Another thing I forgot to post is she has to respect me for who I am. The only one who really has a right to change me is God, and I give Him enough trouble.

 

[renaistre]

... It's like, a good look and sexy body will only last for the next 20 years ...

Unless he's an elf from middle earth. They don't really get old. But for the rest of us mortals, yeah, you're pretty much right.

 

[VivDaGurl]

Unless he's an elf from middle earth. They don't really get old. But for the rest of us mortals, yeah, you're pretty much right.

I like the way you said it!

 

[Radagast]

Lately, I've been wondering whether what does a guy look at in a girl? How are girls being attracted to guys?

Every man has a different answer. That's why we don't usually fall in love with the same girl.

I've heard so many times that guys are looking for girls whom are less smarter than them. Is that true?

Some guys are, some guys aren't.

-- Radagast

 

[JPPT1974]

Another thing I forgot to post is she has to respect me for who I am. The only one who really has a right to change me is God, and I give Him enough trouble.

God's ways are always the right ways my friend!

 

[Sketcher]

God's ways are always the right ways my friend!

That's right, but what I'm saying is that even though God's ways are right He has enough trouble trying to change me and we're talking about God, here. He has the power and the right to change who I am. Nobody else does. Try to get me to like chick flicks or turtlenecks? Forget it!