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Just What Do You Mean "Self-Righteous"?

mkgal1

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I just came across this article:

Just What Do You Mean Self Righteous

In a nutshell, this is what it says:

Here then are seven symptoms of self-righteousness, and what can be done to curb and stamp it out.

1. Unteachability.
2. Pride in Obedience.
3. The self-oriented mind.
4. "Doing God a Favor".
5. Lack of compassion.
6. Self-pity.
7. Justification of sins.

In Philippians 3:4-9 the Apostle Paul plainly defined the difference between human self-righteousness and God's righteousness. Paul began by listing the various things he could be "proud" of. He then went on to show in verse 8 that he counted all of these past glories as nothing — as so much dung!

In verse 9 we read why he had given it up, "[To] be found in him [Christ], not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is [comes] through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is OF God by faith."

Paul recognized the difference between self-righteousness and God's righteousness. Before his conversion, Paul had been self-righteous. But after his conversion he became filled with God's righteousness as a result of the faith of Christ in him.

In Romans 10:1-3, Paul showed the difference between the Israelites' righteousness and God's righteousness. Lacking the Holy Spirit, the Israelites tried to establish their own righteousness, which became self-righteousness.

In verse 3 we read, "For they being ignorant of God's righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves to the righteousness of God."


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mkgal1

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An example of someone being "self-righteous" (that comes to my mind) is the teacher that had seduced one of his students into a relationship...all the way to the point of moving her (then 18 years old) into an apartment with him. He left his wife and daughters the same day. When being interviewed, he continued to say, "I didn't break any laws. I resigned my job (so, he wasn't her "teacher" any longer)....she was 18 when we had sexual relations....we are just following our hearts." And he feels justified....he believes he did NOTHING "wrong". At minimum....he carried all this out while being married. (He's facing criminal charges from 14 years ago, BTW....I think his pride has finally caught up with him. Pride comes before destruction....right?).

That's different than "God-righteous".
 
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I disagree here, MK Gal.

I think that this is an example of a death wish. How many parents are going to want to kill him thinking, 'But for the grace of God, that could have been MY daughter.'

Put me in mind of this video from You tube

Cleaning my Gun - YouTube
 
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mkgal1

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Have you listened to that song, UK Fred? Why would "many parents want to kill him"?
 
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Yes, I did listen to the song. I thought it was hilarious.

Why would many parents want to kill him, I do not know, but I know that was the reaction to a teacher at my daughter's school who was caught romancing one of the 6th formers (seniors). My little psychology suggests that it might be due to breaching trust and what are seen as societal norms making paedophilia a taboo.
 
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mkgal1

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I misunderstood....I thought you were talking about the music video when you said, "most parents would want to kill him".

Is killing the "right" response, though....isn't *that* self-righteous...not God-righteous? When we do things like kill and then claim it's for noble causes....that seems like justification of sin, to me. That also seems like Saul---who *was* self-righteous when he was murdering Christians.

I agree with what the mother did....she began a campaign to reveal how wrong this relationship was.....partnered with a local politician to enact a new law that *does* make this illegal--no matter the age of the student (up to high school, I believe). Eventually, with all the notriety in the press, another female came forward admitting to this happening to her (with the same teacher) 14 years ago. He was arrested for that. He had eluded to this not being the first time in one of his TV interviews. He's admitted to what he was accused of. When he was arrested, the student's mother called her daughter, and her daughter was wanting to come home. She broke up with the man when he called her from jail. IMO...that's a much better ending than another person being jailed for attempted murder. Let our legal system handle that.....that's what we have it for.
 
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is self righteous another word for narcissistic?
the seven attitudes that you wrote are very familiar to a narcissistic.
my poor brother has been married to narcissistic/self righteous woman for the past 32 years and now she's filed for divorce.
in her words, "i wasn't raised to be domesticated, i am an educated woman, it's been a year get over the loss of your father, and your too needy." if that wasn't enough she left the kids with my brother too.
WOW!
 
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I'd say that self righteous and narcissistic can be related or connected and probably often are present in the same person, but no they aren't really the same thing.

To be honest the "i wasn't raised to be domesticated, i am an educated woman" part sounds like militant/extremist feminism more than anything else.
 
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I think basically, what it comes down to is, that being "self-righteous" is following another gospel, another "jesus", or another spirit other than THE God.

 
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