Just waiting

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Hi

Somebody I used to work with is dying of cancer and probably won't live out the week.

I'm already upset and she hasn't even passed away yet. I don't normally get that badly affected by death or maybe I just bury my emotions but I don't want to break down when I get the news. Waiting is the worst part I think.

I'm not really looking for answers or anything, maybe just support. Thanks for reading.

 

[CFSecretGiver]

 

[BigToe]

Anticipating death can be harder on us than the actual news of someone's passing. You say all you want and need to say and I'll be here listening.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Thank you,
I'm at work so now I really just need to not think about it so I can concentrate and not be distracted. That probably sounds awful.

 

[BigToe]

No it doesn't. You're human. You have responsibilities as an adult. You have a daily routine. You also have the right to want to be able to tend to those things without worrying about other stuff. Nobody wants to be bothered by bad stuff. It wouldn't distract us in such a way if we did. Distraction can be a healthy way of protecting yourself too. We all need breaks from the junk in our lives from time to time. A period to recoup from the stress and worry we can get bogged down with. Don't feel bad about needing some time to just not think about bad stuff. You're human.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Today I was busy enough to stay distracted for the whole day. I can't really think about my friend too much otherwise it'll just get me so down that I won't be able to function.

 

[womanofvalor]

I would like to recommend a book that helped me a lot when my dear daughter passed last year.
It's called "Closer to the Light" by Melvin Morse, MD
It really gives a good perspective on what happens when people die. It is aobut near death experiences of young children. But it will give you new insight as to what Heaven is like.
I hope you can get a copy and read it. It might take away some of the fear you are feeling now.

 

[SunMessenger]

Hi

Somebody I used to work with is dying of cancer and probably won't live out the week.

I'm already upset and she hasn't even passed away yet. I don't normally get that badly affected by death or maybe I just bury my emotions but I don't want to break down when I get the news. Waiting is the worst part I think.

I'm not really looking for answers or anything, maybe just support. Thanks for reading.

I understand. I am praying for You.

 

[UnitynLove]

I know how you feel. Even Jesus cried when Lazarus was dead. But he knew the same God that gave him life could also restore it back to him in death. Trust and lean on God and make the best of your friendship with her/him. I will pray for you and them.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Thank you.
She's Jehovah's Witness.

 

[BigToe]

Are you making sure to take care of yourself?

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

I'm doing fine.
She was confused the other day and her eleven year old daughter was scared and crying. That's what breaks my heart, when her mother won't be there to see her grow up. She has two sisters in their twenties but their relationship is not the best.
I know I'm rambling but I need to get it out and then try to refocus so I can do my work well and not be distracted.

 

[angelkiss]

I am sorry that you are going through this, and my prayers are with you. s and es!!

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Thanks angelkiss.

It won't be much longer, she's in the hospice and the family have been told not to leave.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Just got the news that my friend passed away.
I'm doing okay, just trying to process it slowly so it doesn't overwhelm me all at once and I can still function. Please keep her family in your prayers.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

To be honest I'm a bit disappointed by the lack of replies after my friend passed away. I'm doing okay now so maybe I shouldn't even be saying this but I could have really done with the support last week when I got the news.
I do appreciate the support I did get though.

 

[BigToe]

I'm sorry, I was out of town and away from the internet.

Are you taking care of yourself?

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

No need to be sorry BigToe, I'm doing okay now, thanks.

 

[BigToe]

Good, I'm glad. *snuggles* Still stinks you have had to deal with that. But I'm glad you're doing ok right now.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Thanks BigToe, your concern is appreciated.