Just thinking out loud.

[eatenbylocusts]

I met this guy online over a year ago, talked on the phone, but never went out until last Summer. I enjoyed talking to him, but after a few hours I was ready to go home. The next day I had another first date which turned into a courting relationship. I didn't want that date to end and I drove home with a smile. I felt the chemistry right away and fell in love with him, but he ended the relationship about 4 months ago.

So I went out with the first guy yesterday again and I enjoyed our time together and I think that there might be some potential, but that spark that was there with my ex-bf is just not there. It's not that the ex-bf was a hunk or anything-I fell in love with the God-serving man who I was so compatible with. This other guy knows how serious I was with my ex-bf and he is saying all the right things and complimenting me. He's already calling for another date and I just don't know how long I should wait for those sparks to start.????

 

[MN John]

Sometimes it's fast and sometimes it's slow. Until you have a reason to stop seeing him, just get to know him and see which direction you go.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Sometimes it's fast and sometimes it's slow. Until you have a reason to stop seeing him, just get to know him and see which direction you go.

Thanks John. I like your new outfit by the way. I don't want to hurt him though, and he told me yesterday that he was feeling the chemistry. I was honest and told him I'm not sure yet, but I would like to get to know him better. I haven't been thinking of my ex romantically, but last night and today he's been on my mind again.

 

[MN John]

Honesty and lots of communiation are very important. I'd suggest making an agreement to check in with each other on some regular basis when you can both tell your thoughts and feelings. This will allow you two to continue the inquiry without either feeling that they are being led on or leading the other on with false hopes.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Sounds like a good idea. Just from the way this last date went, I think he'll be asking me these questions anyway.