Hi Everyone,
I'm new to these forums and i'm struggling a bit. I'm 29 and been married for nearly 2 years. My wife had an affair 6 months into our marriage and it lasted 6 months before I found out. We both moved to Hong Kong for my work and thats where it all came out. She ended the affair and ended contact with the other guy and we decided to get couples therapy. Over the last 6 months things improved and we both began working on the things that contributed to our marriage been tough. A month ago, she found out her ex-lover was dating again and she got jealous and started doubting us again. I was extremely hurt by this as I was working my butt off fighting for us, and her commitment to making our marriage work just flopped to the ground. We both decided then and there that she needed to go home back to Australia and have some time off from me.
After we decided that, she still had another 4 weeks together before she went home and things took a turn for the better and she came back around and it seemed like she was back on track. But I still felt it was wise for her to go home and figure herself out and figure out exactly what she wants. She has now gone home (a week ago) and i'm finding it extremely hard. I'm anxious, nervous, needy and I really want to talk to her everyday. But we decided to not talk for a few weeks. Now because of the lack of communication I am becoming paranoid and thinking she is going to contact the other guy and see him.
What makes things harder is I am still in Hong Kong for another two months and whilst I do have some friends over here, its not the same as having my family and friends back home around me. I'm struggling and although my faith is in God and i'm talking to my Pastor back home regularly, the seperation and been apart is really hard.
Can anyone offer any advice or tips on how to make this 2 months apart from eachother any easier or manageable?
Thanks, I appreciate it so much!
Patty
I'm new to these forums and i'm struggling a bit. I'm 29 and been married for nearly 2 years. My wife had an affair 6 months into our marriage and it lasted 6 months before I found out. We both moved to Hong Kong for my work and thats where it all came out. She ended the affair and ended contact with the other guy and we decided to get couples therapy. Over the last 6 months things improved and we both began working on the things that contributed to our marriage been tough. A month ago, she found out her ex-lover was dating again and she got jealous and started doubting us again. I was extremely hurt by this as I was working my butt off fighting for us, and her commitment to making our marriage work just flopped to the ground. We both decided then and there that she needed to go home back to Australia and have some time off from me.
After we decided that, she still had another 4 weeks together before she went home and things took a turn for the better and she came back around and it seemed like she was back on track. But I still felt it was wise for her to go home and figure herself out and figure out exactly what she wants. She has now gone home (a week ago) and i'm finding it extremely hard. I'm anxious, nervous, needy and I really want to talk to her everyday. But we decided to not talk for a few weeks. Now because of the lack of communication I am becoming paranoid and thinking she is going to contact the other guy and see him.
What makes things harder is I am still in Hong Kong for another two months and whilst I do have some friends over here, its not the same as having my family and friends back home around me. I'm struggling and although my faith is in God and i'm talking to my Pastor back home regularly, the seperation and been apart is really hard.
Can anyone offer any advice or tips on how to make this 2 months apart from eachother any easier or manageable?
Thanks, I appreciate it so much!
Patty
