- Sep 11, 2006
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I have this best friend....
I dated him last year, and things were a mess.
I jumped in too soon after another relationship.
I went on a break with him back in April because I had alot to figure out. Throughout the summer, we kept in touch and hung out a few times but if we ever talked about dating again, it was always "later".
Well, school came back and I kind of thought that maybe we would get back together because my heart was mostly fixed and things were better, but we didn't. There was still some apprehension there, but we are at least like best friends.
All fall, we've gone in and out ... sometimes he thinks maybe there could be a relationship but I don't know....earlier on (a few months ago) I made a post about how I was considering getting back together but there were things we would have to change that were challenges.
sometimes I do but he doesn't. This is kind of frustrating. We still really care about eachother, but there are hindrances.
His job is taking over his life, and he says he needs to balance his time. He also wants to work on personal problems.
I respect that he needs to work on stuff, but its hard to be patient.
I have some problems also.... my fuze is a little short and so is my faith sometimes, thats one thing I want to fix.
Its hard for me to get motivated to change mine.
I know if we could straighten all that out, I think that God would put us back together...I just get that feeling.
But how to get there without freaking out?
What we really need is focus.... we need to sit down and read our bible together, pray together, not hang out too much, but make quality of the time when we do, and really respect each other... but that's hard when he's stressed out from work
and I'm stressed out from school.
I feel like I'm losing him.
He says I'm not....
but last year, he would have done anything to have a chance with me. I was shutting him down because I was broken-hearted from someone else. I've said and done things I regret.
Now all the things I did wrong seem to be biting me in the butt because even though the problems with him now are not my fault,
his uncertainty about anything is painful.
I dunno what to do.
I dated him last year, and things were a mess.
I jumped in too soon after another relationship.
I went on a break with him back in April because I had alot to figure out. Throughout the summer, we kept in touch and hung out a few times but if we ever talked about dating again, it was always "later".
Well, school came back and I kind of thought that maybe we would get back together because my heart was mostly fixed and things were better, but we didn't. There was still some apprehension there, but we are at least like best friends.
All fall, we've gone in and out ... sometimes he thinks maybe there could be a relationship but I don't know....earlier on (a few months ago) I made a post about how I was considering getting back together but there were things we would have to change that were challenges.
sometimes I do but he doesn't. This is kind of frustrating. We still really care about eachother, but there are hindrances.
His job is taking over his life, and he says he needs to balance his time. He also wants to work on personal problems.
I respect that he needs to work on stuff, but its hard to be patient.
I have some problems also.... my fuze is a little short and so is my faith sometimes, thats one thing I want to fix.
Its hard for me to get motivated to change mine.
I know if we could straighten all that out, I think that God would put us back together...I just get that feeling.
But how to get there without freaking out?
What we really need is focus.... we need to sit down and read our bible together, pray together, not hang out too much, but make quality of the time when we do, and really respect each other... but that's hard when he's stressed out from work
and I'm stressed out from school.
I feel like I'm losing him.
He says I'm not....
but last year, he would have done anything to have a chance with me. I was shutting him down because I was broken-hearted from someone else. I've said and done things I regret.
Now all the things I did wrong seem to be biting me in the butt because even though the problems with him now are not my fault,
his uncertainty about anything is painful.
I dunno what to do.
