I am almost 21 and about to enter into my senior year of college. This summer I am working in a YMCA center in Colorado, and am finding myself having a hard time sort of finding my place. I came out here not knowing anyone and even though I have met several people, I haven't made a whole lot of friends. The majority of the people I have come into contact with are Christians, but in my experience, they are the toughest crowd to break into, especially when they come in pre-formed groups, as many of the people here have. Last summer I worked for a National Park service in Yellowstone where I was surrounded by very non-Christian people. But I felt more accepted there than in youth group or church setting. I did not need to do anything to be included, they just opened their hearts to me and let me be me. However, here I just find myself feeling lonely many times during the day and wishing I could go back home to California. I feel as though there is a mold that I'm expected to fit into that I just don't. I will admit that I can be socially awkward when I am uncomfortable, so needless to say, my bubbly side has not really come out yet, which makes it even harder to make friends. What can I be doing to not doubt God's promise to provide for me, and if there are tips on how to better integrate myself, please share! I'm turning into a hermit!
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Just Not Fitting In
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David09
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Yeah try using FB and all that stuff but don't try too hard. I had a hard time making friends too and I don't really have that many but the ones I have are really amazing. What I found was that if you stress too much about this nothing good will happen. Your in college, you have career goals, focus on that stuff, keep yourself busy. Things will fall into place.
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I know how you feel, I moved down to attend College and left everything behind. I am now a 2 hour plane flight away from everyone I love. I joined a church down here but it is massive! There's no way to make friends it seems, even though they are lovely people. I find that I made some of my friends through Uni, just by sitting next to them and being friendly.
I think the hardest part for me was knowing all the friends I had at home and I was expecting those friendships down here too. I just really gave it up to God to point me towards someone who would fill that gap. Not everyone I meet I instantly click with, just got to keep trying and not be afraid of looking silly! Haha.
It does take time however
I think the hardest part for me was knowing all the friends I had at home and I was expecting those friendships down here too. I just really gave it up to God to point me towards someone who would fill that gap. Not everyone I meet I instantly click with, just got to keep trying and not be afraid of looking silly! Haha.
It does take time however
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Just be yourself. Don't be a fake, 99% of my school is preppy kids. I have a small group of friends but I am happy with them lol.
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