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I've been suffering from severe social anxiety as well as depression for the past 8 years, in secret, and I've just within the past few months reached my breaking point, I can't handle hiding it anymore.

All through high school and so far through college I've never had any close friends, everyone misunderstood me and thought I was always feeling great but never wanted to talk to anyone. But the truth is I've felt horrible and just want to have some friends to be around, and be an interesting person as well as show others my interest in them. Things built up so bad that it eventually got to the point where I could literally keep count of the total number of words I would say in a day.

I met the girl of my dreams on this website in fact, it was a miracle, or so I thought. Everything started getting better, but she left me for someone else. The one person, even more than family, that I felt comfortable and myself around, my best friend and hope-to-be love of my life, left me, after all that praying and all that suffering and all that patience. What's even worse is I feel blamed for everything, when all I was wanting to do was love and care for her. My problems got in the way at times though, and I wasn't forgiven for it. Instead it was just rubbed in my face.

Long story short I became miserable enough to the point of where I just could not function at school anymore, and I've had to withdraw :(. No close friends, I lose my one good friend and my one love, always miserable, always tired, no one understands what I'm really going thru because I've always hid it, I had to leave school, I have no money, no car, no job, and as if all that wasn't bad enough, my own parents aren't too supportive in this anymore. They tell me they're on my side, but they don't show it. They constantly get angry at me for the way I am. They use to get angry at me for being so quiet, then they'd get angry at me for having trouble in school, and now they're angry with me for sleeping so much and being kind of angry myself at times, when I'm busting my butt trying to pull myself back together. They're just making it worse.

Everything is just falling apart. Sometimes I wonder if I'd still be here if it wasn't for me accepting Christ, which I am very thankful for. Suffering from social anxiety so bad I get afraid to go talk to friends or people because I feel like I'd be bothering them or keeping them up at night as well by concerning them with my problems. So I tend to sit and suffer in silence constantly, and have been for the past 2500 days. Once my girlfriend broke up with me, especially after telling me she wanted to marry me and that she'd never be leaving me no matter what, and that she asked me to please believe her, I just lost control of things. On most days now the only support I find is in God's Word. I could really really use a hug lol :(
 
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Tell your story. Just get the pain out. Let the tears roll. We will listen. We will pray if you like. Best of all, there are lots of hugs to go around!

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I need a hug.
Im tired of being let down. people saying words but not following it by action. for people not accepting you, if you perform in this world you gain acceptance. of not being able to communicate with my dad. he's not interested in me, so i neednt bother trying to talk about how works going or stuff thats going on in my life. for never giving me the love that i needed when i was young. wasnt his fault i know but i just wanted him to be interested in my life to be able to share deep things.he can only see things in his world. not able to have relationship with my mother that i really wanted. i only met her for the first time this year after 31 years. she cant give me the love i need cos she has the mental age of a child. its all so sad. i just wanted love. i just feel theres something missing...i need a hug.:( lol xxx
 
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i really need a hug at the moment.
i coach cheerleading, and one of my favorite cheerleaders is moving to north carolina tonight. im so upet. im really gunna miss her. shes was like the best one on the team, too. shes was always so happy and hyper all the time. im really gunna miss her a lot. i struggle with depression, and it makes me feel even worse about the whole thing, too. thanks for reading this.
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I've been suffering from severe social anxiety as well as depression for the past 8 years, in secret, and I've just within the past few months reached my breaking point, I can't handle hiding it anymore.

All through high school and so far through college I've never had any close friends, everyone misunderstood me and thought I was always feeling great but never wanted to talk to anyone. But the truth is I've felt horrible and just want to have some friends to be around, and be an interesting person as well as show others my interest in them. Things built up so bad that it eventually got to the point where I could literally keep count of the total number of words I would say in a day.

I met the girl of my dreams on this website in fact, it was a miracle, or so I thought. Everything started getting better, but she left me for someone else. The one person, even more than family, that I felt comfortable and myself around, my best friend and hope-to-be love of my life, left me, after all that praying and all that suffering and all that patience. What's even worse is I feel blamed for everything, when all I was wanting to do was love and care for her. My problems got in the way at times though, and I wasn't forgiven for it. Instead it was just rubbed in my face.

Long story short I became miserable enough to the point of where I just could not function at school anymore, and I've had to withdraw :(. No close friends, I lose my one good friend and my one love, always miserable, always tired, no one understands what I'm really going thru because I've always hid it, I had to leave school, I have no money, no car, no job, and as if all that wasn't bad enough, my own parents aren't too supportive in this anymore. They tell me they're on my side, but they don't show it. They constantly get angry at me for the way I am. They use to get angry at me for being so quiet, then they'd get angry at me for having trouble in school, and now they're angry with me for sleeping so much and being kind of angry myself at times, when I'm busting my butt trying to pull myself back together. They're just making it worse.

Everything is just falling apart. Sometimes I wonder if I'd still be here if it wasn't for me accepting Christ, which I am very thankful for. Suffering from social anxiety so bad I get afraid to go talk to friends or people because I feel like I'd be bothering them or keeping them up at night as well by concerning them with my problems. So I tend to sit and suffer in silence constantly, and have been for the past 2500 days. Once my girlfriend broke up with me, especially after telling me she wanted to marry me and that she'd never be leaving me no matter what, and that she asked me to please believe her, I just lost control of things. On most days now the only support I find is in God's Word. I could really really use a hug lol :(
*hugs* Lord, place Your hands upon SolitarySoul. He is broken-hearted, lonely, and struggling in life. Be the friend he has always needed. Show him You have a plan in works for him. He is here on earth to do Your will. He just hasn't realized that yet. Mend his broken heart and bring healing so a special girl will come into his life. Let him be motivated to return to you and reach the sky's limit for his goals. Make Your way back into his heart to light the way for him. Lift him up for he is weak and weary. Carry him for he needs You Lord. Be his shelter and strength to let him move on. Let him achieve all You have put in Your plan for him. Give him hope when there seems to be no hope at all. Let him rely on You oh Lord and find comfort. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
 
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I need a hug.
Im tired of being let down. people saying words but not following it by action. for people not accepting you, if you perform in this world you gain acceptance. of not being able to communicate with my dad. he's not interested in me, so i neednt bother trying to talk about how works going or stuff thats going on in my life. for never giving me the love that i needed when i was young. wasnt his fault i know but i just wanted him to be interested in my life to be able to share deep things.he can only see things in his world. not able to have relationship with my mother that i really wanted. i only met her for the first time this year after 31 years. she cant give me the love i need cos she has the mental age of a child. its all so sad. i just wanted love. i just feel theres something missing...i need a hug.:( lol xxx
*hugs* Lord, be with Jo1 this day. Show her that she has already been accepted. You accepted her even when she was in her mother's womb. Hold her close and bring comfort to her. Let Your love fill her so that her heart is overflowing. Let her realize she is loved. You watch her and take care of her even if her parents have never shown an interest in doing so. Let her cling to You. Be the Father she needs and wrap Your arms around her. Lift her up and show her she is wanted and she is special. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
 
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i really need a hug at the moment.
i coach cheerleading, and one of my favorite cheerleaders is moving to north carolina tonight. im so upet. im really gunna miss her. shes was like the best one on the team, too. shes was always so happy and hyper all the time. im really gunna miss her a lot. i struggle with depression, and it makes me feel even worse about the whole thing, too. thanks for reading this.
-Kathleen
*hugs* Lord, wrap Your arms around kathleenmary. She is feeling down right now. Bring comfort to her because it is always hard to say goodbye. The pain of missing someone is a hard and bumpy road, so be there with her to move on and know she can get by. Let her know tomorrow the sun will shine and it will be a new day. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
 
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*hugs* Lord, wrap Your arms around kathleenmary. She is feeling down right now. Bring comfort to her because it is always hard to say goodbye. The pain of missing someone is a hard and bumpy road, so be there with her to move on and know she can get by. Let her know tomorrow the sun will shine and it will be a new day. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
thank you so much.
 
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I've been suffering from severe social anxiety as well as depression for the past 8 years, in secret, and I've just within the past few months reached my breaking point, I can't handle hiding it anymore.

All through high school and so far through college I've never had any close friends, everyone misunderstood me and thought I was always feeling great but never wanted to talk to anyone. But the truth is I've felt horrible and just want to have some friends to be around, and be an interesting person as well as show others my interest in them. Things built up so bad that it eventually got to the point where I could literally keep count of the total number of words I would say in a day.

I met the girl of my dreams on this website in fact, it was a miracle, or so I thought. Everything started getting better, but she left me for someone else. The one person, even more than family, that I felt comfortable and myself around, my best friend and hope-to-be love of my life, left me, after all that praying and all that suffering and all that patience. What's even worse is I feel blamed for everything, when all I was wanting to do was love and care for her. My problems got in the way at times though, and I wasn't forgiven for it. Instead it was just rubbed in my face.

Long story short I became miserable enough to the point of where I just could not function at school anymore, and I've had to withdraw :(. No close friends, I lose my one good friend and my one love, always miserable, always tired, no one understands what I'm really going thru because I've always hid it, I had to leave school, I have no money, no car, no job, and as if all that wasn't bad enough, my own parents aren't too supportive in this anymore. They tell me they're on my side, but they don't show it. They constantly get angry at me for the way I am. They use to get angry at me for being so quiet, then they'd get angry at me for having trouble in school, and now they're angry with me for sleeping so much and being kind of angry myself at times, when I'm busting my butt trying to pull myself back together. They're just making it worse.

Everything is just falling apart. Sometimes I wonder if I'd still be here if it wasn't for me accepting Christ, which I am very thankful for. Suffering from social anxiety so bad I get afraid to go talk to friends or people because I feel like I'd be bothering them or keeping them up at night as well by concerning them with my problems. So I tend to sit and suffer in silence constantly, and have been for the past 2500 days. Once my girlfriend broke up with me, especially after telling me she wanted to marry me and that she'd never be leaving me no matter what, and that she asked me to please believe her, I just lost control of things. On most days now the only support I find is in God's Word. I could really really use a hug lol :(

I feel you, man. I have SAD too and living with it is awful. You really don't have many close friends, if any, and when you lose one, it HURTS, big time. Well, I will keep you in my prayers and ask that God send you some support soon.:thumbsup:
 
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I need a hug myself too. I suffer from depression and social anxiety disorder. I get extremely lonely and feel pain all the time - this leads me to believe that people avoid me and ignore me which furthers my isolation. I just want to be "normal" and have friends and laugh and smile and feel secure when I'm out in public. These past months have been pretty rough and I feel like my medication is not as effective as it should be. Anyways, I don't want to complain too much because God has been good to me otherwise, it's just this area that remains to be resolved.

Thanks.

P.S. A big hug to ((((((reverie_maiden)))))) who has been encouraging a lot of people!!! Thank you!! I praise the Lord that He has given you such a caring heart!
(no need to get jealous joeman1 - I just want to say you are one lucky guy and God bless!)
 
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I need a hug myself too. I suffer from depression and social anxiety disorder. I get extremely lonely and feel pain all the time - this leads me to believe that people avoid me and ignore me which furthers my isolation. I just want to be "normal" and have friends and laugh and smile and feel secure when I'm out in public. These past months have been pretty rough and I feel like my medication is not as effective as it should be. Anyways, I don't want to complain too much because God has been good to me otherwise, it's just this area that remains to be resolved.

Thanks.

P.S. A big hug to ((((((reverie_maiden)))))) who has been encouraging a lot of people!!! Thank you!! I praise the Lord that He has given you such a caring heart!
(no need to get jealous joeman1 - I just want to say you are one lucky guy and God bless!)
*hugs* Lord, bless redman7353 richly. He truly needs you right now. Lord let Your touch melt away his pain. Be his friend when loneliness weighs heavily on him. Listen to him when he thinks no one else will. Show him that others are not avoiding or ignoring him, and that it is the devil distorting what is really there. Show Your grace in his life and let Your light shine upon him. Give him a reason to laugh and smile. Show him Your glory and power. He needs you oh Lord. Let him be more comfortable around others and draw joy from those experiences so he will do this more often. Let him know he is not alone Lord, and that you are his friend. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
 
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I will keep you all in my prayers.

For me I just can't stop worrying about things I can't control. My career is going down the tubes, I'm losing my apartment, and with the timing of it all it is causing me to lose my mind.

In my case, when the stress mounts I start to project my worries and rituals on things I can't control, disasters, diseases, etc. It becomes so consuming that I have to sit on the net constantly refreshing news sites to make sure the end of the world hasn't been announced.....
 
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*hugs* Lord, be with Jo1 this day. Show her that she has already been accepted. You accepted her even when she was in her mother's womb. Hold her close and bring comfort to her. Let Your love fill her so that her heart is overflowing. Let her realize she is loved. You watch her and take care of her even if her parents have never shown an interest in doing so. Let her cling to You. Be the Father she needs and wrap Your arms around her. Lift her up and show her she is wanted and she is special. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
Thankyou v much for that lovely prayer.xx
 
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I will keep you all in my prayers.

For me I just can't stop worrying about things I can't control. My career is going down the tubes, I'm losing my apartment, and with the timing of it all it is causing me to lose my mind.

In my case, when the stress mounts I start to project my worries and rituals on things I can't control, disasters, diseases, etc. It becomes so consuming that I have to sit on the net constantly refreshing news sites to make sure the end of the world hasn't been announced.....
*hugs* Lord, be with wiggsfly this day. Please let him place all his worries into Your ever loving hands. Let him step back and realize only You know the answers to his future. You alone have the wisdom that us humans could never possess. Lord, lift up wiggsfly and let him focus on his career. Give him new insight to motivate him in these coming days and years. Bring light into his life to carry on even though everything seems to be falling apart. When all is lost we must turn to You oh Lord. Only You can guide us into knowledge to get through all things, because through You all things are possible. Let wiggsfly have trust in You Lord to guide him through his struggles, so he may in turn shine in Your glory. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
 
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