Just Knowing

[Living4Him03]

Before you were married or even when you first began dating, did you know that your spouse was the one you would marry? Did you just have a feeling that this person was who God intended for you and have a certain peace about it? Did you tell them about it or keep it secret til later? Did they know you were the person they would marry too?

Just wondering cuz, well, the first day I met my guy after only a few hours spent together, we decided to begin getting to know each other for the purpose of eventual dating. When he first suggested this I was a bit hesitant, because I thought man I only know him a little ( I should add that we had spent quite a while talking, so I knew he was a Christian and I knew he was not like most of the men I meet ) and he already wants to be the only guy I"m considering dating. However, I heard the Holy Spirit saying "go ahead, it's okay, I'm with you" ...I don't know if that meant that my guy is in my life for another one of God's purposes or if he is the man I will marry someday, but I think it's just interesting to hear stories of what people think about when they first meet their spouse and when you "just know".

 

[IslandBreeze]

I can't speak for everyone else, but when my now-husband and I went on our first date I knew that I knew that I knew he was IT. I told my mother when I got home that night I was gonna marry that boy. A year and a half later, we said "I do."

 

[Cordy]

I knew I was going to marry my husband before we started dating. We were good friends, and I thought very highly of him. I would think to myself “he is going to make such a good husband for some girl”, but I honestly never considered it would be me. I was trying to set him up with different friends and such, and I seriously dated other people. One day at work, I was thinking about my future, and it clicked… it was him I wanted to marry. I knew that he had liked me in the past, but thought that he had moved on. I remember only hoping that there might be a potential that would still consider me for a deeper relationship. When I got home, there was a letter waiting for me. In the letter, he confessed his feelings for me and his desire to pursue a romantic relationship. It is that moment that I knew this was going to be my husband.

I had reassurances all the way through our relationship as well. I have had wishful thinking before, but this was different. I would have to take up 10 posts to explain what happened how things came to pass.

I didn't tell my husband about these experiences until after we were married. I didn't want him to make any moves or decisions based on what I thought God was telling me. That way when we did get married, and the other things I was told came to pass, I knew they were of God.

Having said that, I have also had every other boyfriend I had prior tell me we were supposed to be together… dreams, visions… the list goes on. I didn’t have that conformation in my heart with these other guys, so I didn’t follow their lead here. Because of my experience on being on this side, I was careful not to do the same to my now-husband. I would highly suggest keeping any revelations in your own heart. If they are from God, they will confirm themselves.

 

[Living4Him03]

With my guy, the night before the afternoon I met him, I had finally given romance over to God and had given up trying to do things my way. However, I was lonely so I asked God to bring a Godly man into my life. I didn't ask to be able to date him, but I did ask for someone I could really get to know and date if it is in God's will for me to date. I have always been a big supporter of the U.S. Navy because my grandfather was in the Navy. My grandfather was a good Christian gentelman and he always made all of us laugh so much. I have always said I want to marry a man with a similar personality as my grandfather. I also like guys who are really tall. I also have always wanted someone genuine who really has a close relationship with Christ.

Now, the very next day I was introduced to him. We hit it off from the start. He was funny and a Christian and very intelligent. He also had just gotten discharged from the Navy. His voice sounded like an old movie star ...I can't explain and he was sooooooo handsome! We talked for a long time off by ourselves and decided that day to pursue a friendship possibly leading to dating. He asked me to not put him on this long list of guys to get to know. I promised he would be the only one on my list and he promised the same to me. Normally I would not just go and agree to something like that, but I knew he was worth knowing and God gave me a peace about it.

He has been living in a town a few hours east of here and going to grad school. But, recently he was offered a job in Dallas and he has decided to take the job. He has to wait for the background check and all that good stuff but otherwise he has got the job. I had asked God to give him a job wherever he willed for my guy to go. I prayed God would give him a job where he could be most useful in God's purpose. I don't know if he is the man I will marry but I do have an inkling that he is. I will wait to see what happens to see if it is confirmed someday. For now I am happy with God taking His time to write a beautiful love story for us, whether together or with other people. I haven't told him these thoughts so dont worry!

 

[Jenna]

lol I didn't have a clue. I think that some of my problem was that I had just come off of a long term relationship that went up in smoke. So, my head wasn't really on straight... and I didn't realize what I had.

 

[Jengi]

I don't know how early I knew, but it was really early on in our relationship. I think that God cleared the way for our relationship. Everything came so easily in our relationship. We just clicked from the very beginning. I had no doubt in my mind that we would get married.

A few weeks after we began dating, I took him home to meet my parents and as we drove off my step dad told my mom he wasn't wearing a tux to the wedding. My mom told him that she thought it was a little early to worry about that but yes he was going to wear a tux. Not too many months later we got engaged. I guess I wasn't the only one who knew we were meant to be together.

Take your time, if God has truely brought you together, he will lead the way.

 

[Tangnefedd]

I met my husband when I was 15 and he was nearly 18. We just knew we were meant to be together from the start, and we married 4 years later. 35 years we have been married!

 

[bwaby007]

I didn't know for sure that my husband was to be the one. I had a funny feeling about him...one that i wanted to spend EVERY WAKING MOMENT with him....so i just kind of took everything day by day and waited to see what was in store for me. I didnt tell him how i felt right away, but eventually i did, and it made us grow even closer. We were both just too scared to let the other know what we were feeling beause we were too scared to get hurt or let down. And the funny part is how we even got together....we were both at a wedding (not together though) and i caught the boquet and he (of course) caught the garter........and we lived happily ever after!

 

[Svt4Him]

Nope, didn't know.

 

[mamaneenie]

When I met my husband I didn't even like him, he didn't think much of me either. We were always arguing with each other, then it turned into playful teasing and then one day we decided we would go out for dinner (just being friends of course) and then one thing led to another. We were friends for about 2 months, then he told me he had romantic feelings for me. I didn't at all, but I thought he is really nice as a friend and I don't want to lose him as a friend. Somehow or other, we stayed friends and I developed romantic feelings for him in return. 6 weeks later (after he told me how he really felt) we were engaged. Have been married for 3 years next month and we have a 2 yo son.

 

[HeatherJay]

I knew without a doubt. LOL, it's really funny, because if I heard anyone else tell me this story, I'd say, "yeah, right."

I was getting ready to go out on a first date with another boy when Mark came over to the house to visit one of my roommates (a male roommate). My date was almost an hour late so Mark and I ended up talking and hanging out for most of that time. I was starting to get worried that my date wasn't going to show up, and Mark said, "Don't worry, if he doesn't show up then you can just go out with me." I laughed, and in that moment I had this thought...I HEARD it loud and clear in my head, "This is the guy I'm going to marry." That thought did NOT come from me, let me tell you. I had just broken up with a cheatin' man and I was NOT getting serious with anyone for a while. The thought was so shocking to me that it was funny...I laughed out loud at it, literally.

I didn't tell Mark about it, of course...lol, didn't want him to think I was hearing voices or something. And I didn't really push for anything...I just let things unfold. After a week, I KNEW I loved him (and I'm not the type to fall easily...I'd only been in love with one other person), and after a few weeks he had dinner with my parents. My mom and I walked him out that night and, after he left, my mom asked me, "well, what do you think about him?" I told her, "Mama, I'm going to marry him." I expected her to not take me seriously and laugh at me...she didn't, she just looked at me and said, "I believe you." Still hadn't discussed marriage with Mark, though.

A couple months later, he asked me to marry him. YAY! After we were married, I told him about that first night I met him. He looked at me and said, "Well, why didn't you tell me sooner??" LOL, I love him so much!

Love, Heather

 

[Living4Him03]

Thanks for the stories everyone! It's fun to read them all!

 

[PottersClay]

Yes, I knew within 48 hours of knowing my husband that this was the man I had been waiting for all my life. We were best friends within 15 minutes and were already talking marriage a week later.

A great deal of prayer went into it because marrying him meant being uprooted from where I lived to move half way across the country and away from my family. You see, we first met in a Christian chat room.

Now this isnt something I'd recommend as a way of meeting, but the Lord does move in mysterious ways.

I traumatized my poor sister by telling her two days after we talked for the first time that I'd be marrying him. That might not sound so bad, but we hadnt even met in person at that point! But it didnt matter, I knew. I not only knew we would be married, I knew it would be that fall (we met in June!).

In the end, we were married only four months after meeting. Honestly, we'd have gotten married sooner, but it would have freaked our families out too much.

 

[DaveKerwin]

I definitely did not "just know". I did, however, just know that I wanted her to be my wife. I prayed that she would be my wife and persued her, and it worked!

"Just knowing" is a bit hokey to me, I guess I don't hear God instantly like others do. I do believe God brought us together, and worked in our lives, but I did not "just know"

 

[St3ve]

My story is very similar to pottersclay. I was not looking for a girlfriend, but had prayed a little while back, that if God wanted me to have a girlfriend, that he would show one to me. And similar to potterclay, me and my girlfriend me on the internet too. on irc, in the christian channel on austnet

we started talking there most nights, and on msn, then soon after that, she gave me her number and said call me, so i did. and it just went up and up and up from there. and i seriously think that i fell in love with her straight away. God told me that this was the girl he had planned for me. we're not married, but i hope and pray that we one day will be soon!!! we've been together for 5.5 months. its a long distance type relationship. i live in australia, nsw, and she lives in Perth. Ive been over to meet her, 4 months ago, and that was the best week of my life!! was so fantastic hanging out with this girl that i had fallen in love with.

She's coming over for a visit in 12 days!!!!!!
so that will be fantastic.

we talk every night on the phone, and most mornings too. we help each other in our struggles of life, and encourage each other in the faith.

as i like to put it.. its all "marriage material "

 

[hisbloodformysins]

No, but I thought he was a real nice caring guy.