Just got a phone call need some advise

[pray_for_us_all]

i got a phone call this morning at work, from a person (my grandmother) telling me that my wife was planning on leaving me, she said that she had been talking to my sister and brother (my wife is close with them) and my wife had told them she was saving money to move out on, i dont know what to do, i spoke to my wife, she says its all untrue and i need to stop listening to my family. but in the last few weeks i can feel us growing apart were havent been fighting or argueing. but i can just feel us. im talked to her about that and prayed about it, i was even thinking she may be having an affair its just like she didnt want me touching her. but i talk to her and she says they are all wrong that were fine, i told her i was calling our pastor to see if he could counsel with us tonight she told me not to there was no need. she said we would talk tonight and not to worry. i told her i was coming home early (she has a doctors appointment) to help with the boys she said not to just wait.

im really upset i run a puppet ministry from our church and this weekend we are stepping out in faith to spread the gospel for the first time. we have shows lined up for saturday and sunday i dont need this coming againist me .

please help

thanks danny

 

[kayd1966]

I am praying for you...call your pastor anyways...even if you and your wife don't go to see him, speak to him about you what you have heard and your fears so that he can pray for you both.

 

[llghoney]

I would wait & see what your wife has to say tonight. You may call your pastor for prayer also but you need to see what your wife has to say.

 

[Honibee]

I'm praying with you as well. I think it's wise to involve your pastor, and trusted older men who can see you through this.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Is there anything to add? I'm sorry, but that first post, with the evasiveness, the lack of desire to be touched and the "everything's fine" just set off warning bells in my head.

 

[pray_for_us_all]

update, i left early from work and went to talk to her, i found her in town and she said i told you everything is fine you didnt need to come home, then she left to take the boys to the doctor, i followed her up there and she ran from me and lost me on the roads. the i waited at the hospital for her she went to security and told them i was going to hit her and she had a protective order againist me, which i didnt know when i got the order it says that i hit her with a jar and a belt and they i beat the kids until they have bruises and i scream at when they cry. these are all just lies, then as the day goes on i found out that she has been picking this guy up from work and taking him to down and the days he didnt work she would pick him up and be gone all day with him. and she told people everywhere that i was beating her and they i wanted to have sex yesterday morning and she wouldnt and i slapped her. those are all just lies. and them last night a friend of mine drives past the guy we have suspected house and the car is setting there. from what i hear she is offically living in the house next door to him. i never seen this coming i guess i didnt want to because everyone else i know did. her dad told me he knew i didnt do that, and several members of her family told me they would testify that i am not like that. and to boot the guy just got out of prison 4 months ago and has a history of drugs, etc and takes anger management classes. i cant talk to her or anything until next week at the hearing for the protective order, so please pray that the truth will come out. ive talked with the pastor several times he has met me at the church and talked to me and prayed with me im just in prayer about it i would forgive her if she came back. i love her and my boys. my wife told my neice the guy told her a while back that she could move in with him if she left me. please pray with me. i filed for a divorce this morning in an attempt to get the boys my pastor told me i had to protect the boys.

danny

 

[llghoney]

I will be praying for you!!!! When I read this my heart sank! I don't understand why she is accusing you of hitting her? Has she ever done this in the past?

 

[Rhoni10]

I will pray for you! I hope you do get the children as they don't deserve to be put through that!

 

[kayd1966]

I am praying for you...my brother went through a similar thing two years ago...please make sure that your lawyer is on top of everything that needs to be done to get the chilren and make sure that you have good letters of reference from everyone that will give you one stating that you are an excellent and comitted father and husband. A father getting the children is difficult these days but it is possible if you have all your ducks in a row.

I'm praying for you and your family. and praying protection over the children...they are always the loosers in situations like this but God can and will protect them.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

That's just horrible.

 

[pray_for_us_all]

UPDATE

thanks i appreciate all the prayers, ive been going from friends house to friends house all evening yesterday just having people pray with me. i learned yesterday that she has a belt i supposely hit her with, and a mark the size of it on her arm, i dont know how it got there usless they put it there she never showed it to me, my youth pastor said he seen them together a month ago and thought something was up they been praying about it since then, i really believe he is putting her up to it, i know i didnt do it, and she is saying i but the bruise on the boys eye and her own father will testify that he was when he did that and he hit the door facing trying to hoolahoop the more i see the more that it looks like its been planned for a long time. it just hurts so bad to know that she is with someone else and my boys are there, i still love her i love the boys with all my heart. so i have to go before a judge a week from today and tell them that i didnt do the bruises that they all claim and have the belt and pictures of. im just praying that good will bring the truth out in the situation.

thanks danny

 

[llghoney]

For start you have God & put God first in your life. Just like you know what you do & don't do so does he! The truth will prevail! I just pray for the safety of your boys. So she is with this guy right now with your sons right? Did she put a restraining order on you?

You are doing the right things by going to your friends & praying. Just keep the faith!

 

[kayd1966]

Sorry to hear this Danny but llghoney is right...make sure you are spending time in God's Word and on your knees. Put on the Lord's full armor for yourself and the children. They are going to need a lot of protection during this time and its protection that the Lord can provide.

I'm praying for you...what day do you go to court?

 

[heartnsoul]

I hope you find comfort in the fact that God knows and sees all. Your wife may try to outsmart man, but she will never outsmart God. So keep your heart close to God and know that all things work together for the good. I know it's difficult to believe that right now but given time, you will see the whole picture. Like everyone here, I am so sorry to hear of your horrible situation. May God protect you and your children. You're in my prayers.

 

[pray_for_us_all]

UPDATE AGAIN

as of now i have no idea where her are the boys are, she has been going to my sisters everyday so far and my sister has been keeping my informed. last night she couldnt get ahold of her and nothing today so far. to answer the question above yes she put a protective order on me and is with this guy right now she has been saying she hasnt seen him in 2 weeks. which her own aunt and my pastor both told me they seen them together saturday. any way yesterday she dropped the boys off at my sisters while she went to take care of some business, which she came back and hadnt done my sister said, anyway while she was gone a lady from my church is a bus driver and my brother rides that bus they were dropping some kids off close to where she is supposely staying and there she pulls in with him in the car, she called my sister and wanted to know if someone had seen her she told her yes everyone knows you were with jeff. now i keep hearing from people around she has been telling people for 2-3 weeks now that i was abusing her. i talked to her the morning i heard she was leaving and she told me everything was fine and that she loved me, then she tells everyone else that i told her i was coming home and bringing my belt. just keep praying for us pray for her to i do, pray for the boys that they are wrapped in the armour of god. im not asking you to pick sides even scripture speaks againist it im just asking you to pray for my boys safety as well as hers and that the truth will prevail. i left her a note at the house i heard she was going there today to get some stuff telling her i still love her and the boys with all my heart .there is nothing that cant be forgiven and if she needed to talk contact the pastor i told her i would take her back but she needs to get some counseling.

if god is for us who can be againist us

thanks for all the prayers

danny

 

[kayd1966]

I will continue to pray for you all ... have you talked to a lawyer about the whole situation? Please tell them that you wrote her a note...I'm not sure if they will encourage that ... my brother did write his ex a note and she tried to use it in court against him.

Start journalling everyday...write down everything you do that day and who you've spoken too and who you've seen. My brother still journals every day because he needs to make sure that he has all his facts straight when asked and sometimes we tend to forget exactly how things happen when our emotions are in the way.

Unfortunately...this is a hard time, and you probably want to just curl up and go to bed but this is the time that you have to be totally aware of everything that is going on around you and you have to stand firm in your beliefs and spend time in prayer.

I am praying for your boys.

 

[pray_for_us_all]

i have contacted a lawyer and on the note i just ask her to tell me what was going on, and told her i was praying for her and to keep the boys safe
and if she needed to talk to someone just contact the pastor

thanks danny

 

[llghoney]

I will continue to pray for your whole family!

 

[kayd1966]

Danny;

Is your wife a christian?

 

[pray_for_us_all]

i always thought so, she got saved and baptised the same day i did it really turned the marriage around or so i thought it was great we but i felt us growing apart, over the last 4-6 weeks i ask her several times what was the matter she would say nothing i love you i just dont feel good. i would ask her to go talk with the pastor with me she would say there was no need

thanks for the prayers

danny