Just found out I got issues

[looksgood]

Yeah I got issues lol. I took a personality test for relationships. It fit me to a T. It was 500 questions long lol. And it was supposed to be used like a match making thing. Anyway, it said I needed A feeling of security. And suddanly I got an email that was introdusing me to someone that matched me. I read the profile and it seemed great, even our jobs were the same.

But the only next thing to do was open comunications up. There was nothing stoping me. BUT this is where my problem comes in. I all the suddan got scared. I was actualy afraid of finding a relationship. I don't mean with this girl, I mean in general. I realised I am afraid of it. The profile said I needed a feeling of security. And it was right. Because I was afraid of a relationship because I am afraid of geting hurt.

I always thought I am not afraid of commitment...but now, I see that I am. Because there is no security when it comes to another person. No telling if they are using you or if they will leave you later for something "better".

This is actualy the main reason I am still single I think. It is not because I am too dence to see the signals that I HAVE goten from others. It is because I subconsciensly afraid of it, and that causes me to block out the signals subconsciensly.

This is bad too. Because I feel such a STRONG want to love someone. But at the same time fear it so much. I am afraid it will work. And afraid it wont work. I don't understand this. I am just afraid of a relationship, even though it is all I want in this world. To the point that I feel at times I would rather die than want it anymore and not have it.

Someone here relate to me? Can anyone offer help? I want to get over this fear.

 

[mina]

I think everyone has some sort of issues. And it's hard to trust other people in a deep emotional relationship within the relam of romance. But you have to take risks to get anywhere. I guess it's just important to get to know the person really really really well before you make a lasting commitment with them. Kinda like get to know if they can be trusted.

 

[looksgood]

I think everyone has some sort of issues. And it's hard to trust other people in a deep emotional relationship within the relam of romance. But you have to take risks to get anywhere. I guess it's just important to get to know the person really really really well before you make a lasting commitment with them. Kinda like get to know if they can be trusted.

Thats part of my problem. You know how many friends I have? I have 2 and only 2. That is because I never could try to make friends. It is almost like I am afraid to even BEGIN to get to know someone. Even as a friend. To say nothing of geting to know someone with the possability of more than friendship.

 

[mina]

yeah i understand that. I have no friends at all. It's hard to get to know people. So I don't know the answer. It's like a circle: I have to get to know people to learn how to trust them, but I can't get to know them because I don't trust them. and around and around we go.

 

[looksgood]

yeah i understand that. I have no friends at all. It's hard to get to know people. So I don't know the answer. It's like a circle: I have to get to know people to learn how to trust them, but I can't get to know them because I don't trust them. and around and around we go.

But ya know, maybe we could talk with God first? I was praying tonight (lots of brokeness and repentance). I turned things over to God. And I thought, if I could just talk with God first, and see what He thought about someone...maybe that would help. It would help me to trust someone as long as God told me to. And would be good to stay away from those He tells me to.

 

[ChristianDee]

Don't worry, there are others out there in the same boat.

Actually, I do worry alot too since I don't have a friend to my name at all. Sure I can chat with a few people over the internet but as for meeting people, the shyness factor always takes over or as I guess some people call it..."nice guy syndrome"