Just feel awful...

[Hope_0004]

Hey guys... I don't know where to begin. I just guess I am feeling sorry for myself, really. But I can't get excited about anything lately. My jobs has it's ups and downs, and sometimes it's great, but right now's not one of those times. Also, I recently moved and almost everyone is married with a young family... I like my friends, but they are all home with their families by 6 or 7. I also don't like the place I am living, but luckily I'm moving at the end of the month. And I miss my friends from where I used to live, who are still there for me, but their lives are moving forward without me now. Finally, and this is dumb, but I don't have a lot of time for myself anymore and I just haven't felt pretty in forever, like I used to.

I recently started dating this guy, and I am afraid that my bad feelings and insecurity are going to ruin our relationship. I am always wondering if he likes me (for no reason, because he doesn't make me think otherwise) and I'm just sick of myself, so I figure he'll feel the same way too soon. But I really don't know what to do.

Sorry, I sound like such a baby, I just don't know what to make of it.

 

[auerpower]

Dont be sorry, everyone gets into ruts like that...you should treat yourself to something that you have been wanting, just spoil yourself. Then read the bible, and just be still and try to listen to what GOD may be trying to tell you. Try to have a positive attitude, sometimes it is hard to do though, so just try to be the best you that you can be. You are in a season right now...and seasons will always change, without fail. Good luck, and remember if you need someone to talk to, you have many Christian friends right here that are here for you...and even better you have a god that will love you and listen to you no matter what. Have a great night... and good luck, Wayne.

 

[fishstix]

Hey guys... I don't know where to begin. I just guess I am feeling sorry for myself, really. But I can't get excited about anything lately. My jobs has it's ups and downs, and sometimes it's great, but right now's not one of those times. Also, I recently moved and almost everyone is married with a young family... I like my friends, but they are all home with their families by 6 or 7. I also don't like the place I am living, but luckily I'm moving at the end of the month. And I miss my friends from where I used to live, who are still there for me, but their lives are moving forward without me now. Finally, and this is dumb, but I don't have a lot of time for myself anymore and I just haven't felt pretty in forever, like I used to.

I recently started dating this guy, and I am afraid that my bad feelings and insecurity are going to ruin our relationship. I am always wondering if he likes me (for no reason, because he doesn't make me think otherwise) and I'm just sick of myself, so I figure he'll feel the same way too soon. But I really don't know what to do.

Sorry, I sound like such a baby, I just don't know what to make of it.

Of all those things, probably the easiest one to do something about is the not having time for yourself and not feeling pretty. Make some time for yourself - schedule it into your week if you need to, like you would any other appointment. I don't know what makes you feel pretty, but there's probably something you could do that would help you to feel better about yourself. For me, volunteering helps me improve my self image Think about something healthy you could do that would help you. Then do it.

More importantly, make sure that you are making time for God - regularly and even if you don't really feel like it. If that isn't happening; everything else tends to spiral downwards too.

 

[trust_faith]

Hi.. Pray for you. DUn worry. sometimes God just put us on a rocky road to learn about life. Pray for him. Have faith in Lord. He will guide ya along the way...

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Hey sis,

I don't mean to come across as rude or harsh, but please do not complain about your job. I dropped out of grad school over a year ago to look for work, and I still have not found one single job. There are a lot of job seekers out there who would be eager to have your job.

My strong advice is for you to start keeping a Gratitude Journal. Write down five things that you are grateful for each and every single day. It could be a sunset, your morning coffee, a stranger's smile, etc. Keeping a GJ really does change your perspective on life.

DW

 

[songz777]

The Lord is with you, your pain will lead you into blessing and greater maturity. I have had much pain in 20 yrs, but It does get easier because you grow closer to God.
There is Hope and there is the goodness of God, His time and ways are best. Seek His kingdom first and then things will be added.

 

[reverie_maiden]

Hey girl! I understand what you mean by not finding time for yourself and not feeling pretty. I downgrade myself a lot and had tests done on me to find out I had unusually low self-esteem. So, I have advice for you that helped me...and maybe it could help you or give you insight to something that could make you happy. When I am feeling down, I turn on my favorite song and sing out loud to them, I dance when no one is watching, and I do some yoga which gets me relaxed and then put in a good chick flick to watch. To make yourself feel pretty...try on some dresses and keep on the one that you think looks the best on you. For the heck of it....put on lipstick and some eyeshadow, jewelry that matches, and do something with your hair. If people ask why you are so dressed up...just say you felt like it or you needed it!

 

[JPPT1974]

The Lord is with you, your pain will lead you into blessing and greater maturity. I have had much pain in 20 yrs, but It does get easier because you grow closer to God.
There is Hope and there is the goodness of God, His time and ways are best. Seek His kingdom first and then things will be added.

I have had much pain nearly all my life but also it has gotten easier since I have grown with my Jesus and there is new hope and a new future for us in Christ.

 

[JPPT1974]

Hey sis,

I don't mean to come across as rude or harsh, but please do not complain about your job. I dropped out of grad school over a year ago to look for work, and I still have not found one single job. There are a lot of job seekers out there who would be eager to have your job.

My strong advice is for you to start keeping a Gratitude Journal. Write down five things that you are grateful for each and every single day. It could be a sunset, your morning coffee, a stranger's smile, etc. Keeping a GJ really does change your perspective on life.

DW

Praying that you will find a job that suits what the Lord wants for you as well as for those without a job like myself to find the right job.