just curious if anyone else has a simular situation...

[A2597]

So, been dating my SO for close to two months. Going great (Aside from finals keeping us apart...)

But it's interesting...I'm pretty darn certain she's the girl I'm going to marry. Known her ~8 months, and honestly, she's not the person I would have expected to choose...just the one the Lord led me to.

So it's kinda weird actually, it's like I already know that I'm going to marry her, and this whole courtship thing is just filler so I get to know her better...and I can't explain how I know, or why I know that it's going to happen, since as I said, she's not the girl I would have picked for myself. (But as was evident in another thread...God gives us the person thats best for us, not what we THINK is best)...

so I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has been in a situation where they just "knew"...no reason, and even in their own minds someone confused as to how they knew...and how it played out.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I was sure God had brought me and one of my ex-bf's together. We clicked, were compatible, and started courting seriously quickly. Obviously it didn't turn out, hence my referring to him as ex. I was devastated because I didn't see it coming and it was a "God thing" you know.

 

[Wandering Cat Lady]

Oh yeah, that's my story AND my SO's story. Neither of us was looking, both of us had known eachother for about 2 years, and neither of us would have EVER ever ever thought of the other. And here we are, 5 months away from our wedding and it's so incredible how deep, unique, wonderful, and yet...definitely unwarrented our bond was/is. I was taken by surprise as was he, but it has all worked out so perfectly

 

[wikawika]

i completely understandwhat you are saying...and it is hard to not worry that is just you and not god but just keep taking everything one day at a time and what he wants to happen will happen its incredible to have that where you see it wasnt what you initially thought about but God reveals that the relationship and that person is beyond what you ever imagined...

 

[Nobility]

Frustratingly... Sort of.

He knew, I didn't want to for a long time though. However even when I didn't love him, I had a strong feeling (thought) that we'd end up married... 10 months later we were engaged after 2.5 months dating.

 

[A2597]

Right now I'm just enjoying a God-Centered relationship...I'm leaving it up to God as to when/if I propose...(The "if" feels more like my own obstinence though...really weird)

oh well...future should get interesting!

 

[Paddington]

Yes.. I think I've just always known me and my boyfriend were supposed to be together, and that it was going to last. It's just a matter of waiting until it's possible now

 

[Heaven81]

I believe that God speaks to us in his own special way. You might feel very strongly about something, but maybe confused at how it came to be..I think it's God tugging at your heart. But, you will know when its HIM rather than you...

 

[Bunnymedic]

Shortly after meeting/dating my bf I 'just knew'.
I cant really explain it...but I do really believe now (but not before)that when you meet 'the one' you just know.
Its something that is impossible to explain untill you've been there.
Ive been in two long term relaionships before (4 and 1/2 years and the other 3 years)In neither one did I ever 'know'.I just thought that you meet a guy,fall in love and make the most of it...never expecting things to be perfect,just doing the best that you can.
But its so different this time....10 times better than anything before...
Its just a waiting game for us too now.

 

[Bunnymedic]

I agree thats very true
When God brings that person into your life,He gives you that peace,that knowledge/security in your heart,and you know that it was God who brought you together

 

[miss_klara]

I liked my boyfriend for about a year before we started dating. So I thought he was great, but I never actually believed my crazy crush would come of anything. And in his opinion... I was his friend, and unfortunately (in his eyes) one of the members of his 'fan club'. He didn't think anything would come of my crush either, because he didn't feel that way.
After a discussion over coffee, which I initiated (and which he saw coming, and planned to turn me down) our friendship amazingly evolved to the next stage, and within 10 days he was surprising us both by telling me he was in love (after having been in 3 relationships before, all of which were longer, and never 'falling in love' with any of those girls). After one month, he admitted he was already considering proposing. So, crazy as it sounded, against all odds, we knew we were meant to be. It absolutely blew my mind, especially the fact that he was so sure when just over a month ago, I was his friend whom he wasn't even interested in.
Crazy things happen. And before this relationship, I didn't believe in knowing from the start. Maybe that's why God unfolded things the way He did, because neither Chris or I believed in committing our hearts so heavily in such a short period of time. I think it works differently for everyone, but definitely don't disregard any feelings you have that 'this could be the one'!!

 

[A2597]

It's crazy....
I mean, I was in a relationship that lasted a whopping 6 months before this one. I once made the unfortunate statement that that relationship was a mistake. It wasn't, it was a learning experiance for us both. Yea, I screwed up in it, but as much as I wished that she was "the one" I knew she wasn't...

so took a break of almost a year off from dating...even considering it. reached the point where I said "Well God, you're first in my life, and thats not going to change, girl or not"...and like...a few days later I started wanting a girlfriend again...and that pull just got stronger and stronger, so I started to beg God to make certain that HE was first in my life....but still I was being pulled towards wanting an earthly relationship.

so, got ready to ask one girl out. Turns out she got a boyfriend like, a month previous and I didn't know that. (Thanks for the answer Lord! LOL) Ditto for another girl I had been thinking about asking out.

And then God just sorta slapped me in the face with a "Hello, she's right in front of you" moment....and it's been insane. Confusing at times...but it's like I knew ahead of time that she was the one...then I got to really get to know her...and it's scary how compatable we are...how many views we share, just...how well matched.

And we're both despertly trying to take everything about this relationship slow...but neither of us want to. My roommate has commented on how humorous it is for him when my girlfriend and I are together, because it's so obvious that we both want to go slow, but then again, we're both aching for the relationship to just fast forward...

confusing...entertaining...amazing...more confusing....but just plain cool in the end...

 

[miss_klara]

Amen to all that!!! ^ ^ ^

 

[sunshinejennii]

Oh this SO relieving! I've been with my boyfriend Matthew for 4months now, had a crush on him, but well thats the key word, crush, i didn't think I had any real feelings for him, whereas he'd developed a major desire to be my boyfriend, by the time that came out I really really wanted to persue a relationship, we talked about it, agreed to pray and a week later were going out. After 2months he told me he loved me, and now he's already saying he wants to marry me, and I feel the same way. I know that so many times he's almost blurted it out, and he knows if he asked me tomorrow I'd say yes. And it's scary!!!

 

[Tuffguy]

So, been dating my SO for close to two months. Going great (Aside from finals keeping us apart...)

But it's interesting...I'm pretty darn certain she's the girl I'm going to marry. Known her ~8 months, and honestly, she's not the person I would have expected to choose...just the one the Lord led me to.

So it's kinda weird actually, it's like I already know that I'm going to marry her, and this whole courtship thing is just filler so I get to know her better...and I can't explain how I know, or why I know that it's going to happen, since as I said, she's not the girl I would have picked for myself. (But as was evident in another thread...God gives us the person thats best for us, not what we THINK is best)...

so I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has been in a situation where they just "knew"...no reason, and even in their own minds someone confused as to how they knew...and how it played out.

Yup. I knew my fiance was the one even before we really started dating. Its hard being friends with a girl when you know you're going to marry her, and she doesn't yet! LOL

 

[A2597]

Man...as sunshinejennii said...this is reliving! LOL

There was a large part of me that was worried I was/am rushing into things...(Not that I have any intention of proposing for a good long while yet! LOL) Just...the thought that I somehow KNEW this already was almost disconcerting! LOL

So no to while away the next 10 months and start saving up.

 

[javaluver]

Oh ya. Our story is very similar. I really think that if you bring everything before God He lets you know pretty soon whether your SO is the one He has chosen for you.

 

[Blank123]

well there's really no doubt in my mind that God brought the two of us together, i just think God has made that very clear to both of us. I can't say if we will get married one day i think time will tell if that is the reason God led us together but i wouldn't be in a relationship with him unless that was something i was serious about and i saw that as a very real possibility. But regardless of whether God meant this relationship to last for a lifetime or a season i am just so thankful he's in my life right now.