Just a quick rant

[OhhJim]

I had a very inexperienced (Christian) girlfriend, once. We spent a lot of time arguing about the way things were, that she didn't think should be that way. We even went to a (Christian) counsellor, who assured her that things were normal.

Give me the experienced one, any time. I'd rather be compared to real-life men than to her fantasies.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

There are also non-christian guys who want inexperience so they can "leave their mark," so to speak.

ya for sure, but quite a few want you to be experienced

 

[JPPT1974]

I had a very inexperienced (Christian) girlfriend, once. We spent a lot of time arguing about the way things were, that she didn't think should be that way. We even went to a (Christian) counsellor, who assured her that things were normal.

Give me the experienced one, any time. I'd rather be compared to real-life men than to her fantasies.

I rather be compared to real-life women than to an man's fantasies.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I rather be compared to real-life women than to an man's fantasies.

me too sister

 

[JPPT1974]

You & I think a lot like don't we my friend!

 

[sweetlambofgod]

we sure do, you know what they say, great mind think alike

 

[Niels]

*sigh*

These things are relative and hard to pin down. I'm sure there are some who are more innocent than you, just as there are some who are less innocent than you. Also, what one may find innocent, another may not. To compound things, some people think/pray deeply about both sides of an issue before reaching a Godly decision/worldview and candor. An outsider might not notice what goes on behind the scenes... and misinterperet this wisdom as a naive kind of innocence, which it needn't be.

 

[vibrant]

gain this bit of experience: do not make anyone make you feel bad about yourself.

you don't engage in certain types of activities, experiences, or substances for a reason. i think that there's a difference between being naive and gullible, and demonstrating prudence and self-control, tempered with knowledge of how we're supposed to conduct ourselves. the Bible states that "Like a gold ring in a pig's snout, is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion" proverbs 11:22. you have your discretion, so your beauty is truly fitting.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I would say that what he said is great and a huge compliment to you

 

[winglovesall]

Agree!

 

[koban4max]

I think both needs to be experienced...

 

[winglovesall]

experienced or unexperienced -- I still accept who she is!

 

[koban4max]

well for you though, right?

 

[winglovesall]

Yep -- acceptance of differences!

 

[koban4max]

THey don't accept me...lol

 

[winglovesall]

What's happened?

 

[koban4max]

U know...they think I'm not good enough to date...

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Are you sure he was meaning 'sexual experience' though? Just it seems everyone jumped onto this particular bandwagon, and didn't think past that.

He could mean that you are innocent, in the way that you could be too trusting, too 'black and white' - any way, not just in a 'sexual/dating' way.

Just give him the benefit of the doubt - and ask him what he meant! You could be surprised!

It just irritates me when people jump on one bandwagon (esp when it COULD refer to sex), and don't try and consider what other ways he may have meant it.

I was experienced in the world LOONG before I actually had sex or any 'physicality' in my relationships - and I'm SO thankful for that. It can actually be really hard to communicate with people who are very innocent in the ways of the world (ie they've been too sheltered in their lives - I have this struggle with girls I went to school with - they have no 'real world' comprehension - just what the 'Christian' box they live in tells them), so he may have just meant it like this.

Something to think about, anyway...

Sasch

 

[winglovesall]

Hm...

 

[treerootbill]

Just for the record I prefer girls without experience - and also did before I started taking christianity more seriously.


Stick with your morals.

"Like a gold ring in a pig's snout, is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion" proverbs 11:22.

This is an excellent quote Vibrant.