Job Status

[sweetlambofgod]

yes it does. I want someone who can support himself, thats not my job to support him. Plus I like to go out, so if he doens't have money for that, that wont work well for me. I want a guy who is going somewhere in life, either working at a good job or going to school so he can get a good job.

 

[CoachR64]

I am attracted to women who are educated and driven. So a woman with a career or pursuing a higher education to further or begin a career is a pretty key for me.

I don't care if she makes more money then I do or not. That is not the point. I want someone with goals and is driven to meet those goals. Her career may be in education, just like mine. I know the pay sucks in that field, lol, so it is not about the cash. It's about having goals and going after them. I am really attracted to girls that have jobs in fields that help kids.

Coach

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I work in a Daycare

 

[California Dreamin']

I still don't understand why modern women are sometimes so concerned with if a guy makes more then they do.

I completly understand wanting a guy to have a job, like I said I don't think I could date someone who for an extended time was neither going to school or working.

But the problem with worrying about how much a guy makes is sometimes the most important work out there doesn't make that much. Doctors are about the only morally important work out there that makes what they deserve.

Police Officers don't make what they deserve
neither do firemen
neither do most pastors
neither do most teachers

Like Ink was talking about, it has to do with work ethic.

I take strong offense to "firemen".
I'm not a man.

 

[Niels]

Job status is subject to change... sometimes without the approval of those it happens to... so I would rather look at the big picture. There's a big difference between a bum, and a person who was laid off.

 

[Trashionista]

Its not really about how much money is being brought in. Then again, I'm a student - so everyone's really working part-time/full-time jobs and we're generally not living like Donald Trump.

But it isn't really about the money. Does the person get up and go, even if its working at McDonald's [nothing against McD's employees]? Do they have a sense of pride in their work? That to me, is the real issue more than anything else.

 

[justaGUYnamedROB]

I take strong offense to "firemen".
I'm not a man.

Of course not. You're a chick.

 

[deliciousBass]

I take strong offense to "firemen".
I'm not a man.

I take strong offense to you finding it offensive.

 

[California Dreamin']

Of course not. You're a chick.

That's even worse.

 

[California Dreamin']

I take strong offense to you finding it offensive.

I prefer firefighter.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

I do expect the person to be working, largely as I am still for the guy being the primary bread-winner. I don't require it to be some high paying job though.

 

[Periann]

Yes it does matter to me. I want to be with someone who can support themselves and is driven and focused in achieving what they want-whether it be opening up a restaurant, becoming a cartoonist, or becoming a doctor. The goal doesn't matter (for the most part), it's the attitude behind it. I wouldn't want to be in a serious relationship with someone who lacks a purpose driven life.

 

[SH89]

Police Officers don't make what they deserve
work ethic.

Police Officers make like 60-80k in LA;some make 100+K. Then again, that's really only the LAPD.

For me, I don't care at all. I would marry somebody who makes $0k(home-maker) or 100k.

 

[CoachR64]

The job title is fireman. I am not going to go all PC because someone thinks that degrades women. Just like someone who clears tables is a busboy. It has nothing to do with gender, it is just a job title.

Coach

 

[mina]

I don't care how much money a guy makes. I do care if he's a productive member of society with some sort of direction in life and has a job and doesn't just sit around in his underwear all day. I also care if he is using his money wisely and giving to God first- no matter how much or how few it is. I wouldn't even mind if the guy i married wanted to be a stay at home dad, but since i very much want to be a stay at home mommy we would have to battle it out.

 

[overit]

Does job status come into play when choosing a potential mate? WHat if the person you like makes more than you? How do you feel about that?

Yes, it does. I like guys who make at least what I do or more...preferably more as I work for an airline, I get great perks not great pay....we'll share advantages LOL.


He has to be established in his career, have goals and be in motion with those goals. I do have a minimum requirement, any less then $50 a year is a no go.
Brutal honesty, but hey....the OP asked.

 

[CoachR64]

Overit,

Just a question: Is that 50K rule a hard and fast rule? I know there are exceptions to every rule, so I was just curious as to how set and stone that is?

For example, if you ran into a guy that made $40K a year, but was a great Christian role model to your kids, treated you with absolute respect, was driven, worked hard, insert any other great qualities here, would you make an exception to the rule?

I as that because I used to be a guy that had all of these unrealistic standards. Many of which truly didn't matter in the long run. I had to learn how to over look some things that I once thought were so important, but truly aren't in the long run. A lesson I am still learning.

Coach

 

[California Dreamin']

The job title is fireman. I am not going to go all PC because someone thinks that degrades women. Just like someone who clears tables is a busboy. It has nothing to do with gender, it is just a job title.

Coach

Maybe where you live, but it's firefighter here.

 

[overit]

Overit,

Just a question: Is that 50K rule a hard and fast rule? I know there are exceptions to every rule, so I was just curious as to how set and stone that is?

For example, if you ran into a guy that made $40K a year, but was a great Christian role model to your kids, treated you with absolute respect, was driven, worked hard, insert any other great qualities here, would you make an exception to the rule?

I as that because I used to be a guy that had all of these unrealistic standards. Many of which truly didn't matter in the long run. I had to learn how to over look some things that I once thought were so important, but truly aren't in the long run. A lesson I am still learning.

Coach

Nah, not set in stone, just an "ideal"....BUT there would have to be other qualities, potential career advances coming, or perks that equate to a certain value if it were less then that.

Example, as I said my job isn't exactly great paying, BUT the perks I get up add a LOT of value to my job, flying for free, hotel, rental car, amusement park discounts, free concerts, free sporting events, decent medical...all of these things add 'value' to a job.
I'd have to see him wanting to advance in his career, not happy making a certain salary and just cruising through life. So, again, that "rule" could be flexible depending on other circumstances and surrounding issues, careerwise and in his life and how he treats me, absolutely.

 

[CoachR64]

Thanks for the answer. I don't like dating sites, but I have browsed a few just to see what they were like. And I always see so many girls that have huge limits set on how much money their potential spouse must make. Some girls will put things such as $250K+ or something.

It always seemed really shallow to me. It seemed they were putting material possessions as such a high priority. But, I really like the way you answered it. It's an ideal, but there are so many other factors that can change that.

I feel the same way. I have an ideal of what I am looking for, but many things could change that ideal if the person just seemed to be right.

Coach