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Does job status come into play when choosing a potential mate? WHat if the person you like makes more than you? How do you feel about that?
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Well I would certainly want to know that she's either working or going to school!
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That's one of those things that I'd like to say wouldn't bother me, but I'm sure it would bother me a little if a girl made twice as much as me, however unlikely that would be 
(I say that because chances are a woman making twice as much as me probably wouldn't be interested in me in the first place)
That being said, I think we do tend to get hung up on the money topic too much in relationships. There are more important ways to contribute to a relationship or family than just monetarily. For me, the ideal situation would be for us to make about the same amount of monies so that in case either of us lost our job, we could stay afloat. And plus, the thought of being DINKs at least for a few years is very appealing to me.
(I say that because chances are a woman making twice as much as me probably wouldn't be interested in me in the first place)That being said, I think we do tend to get hung up on the money topic too much in relationships. There are more important ways to contribute to a relationship or family than just monetarily. For me, the ideal situation would be for us to make about the same amount of monies so that in case either of us lost our job, we could stay afloat. And plus, the thought of being DINKs at least for a few years is very appealing to me.
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AB-SO-LUTELY. I have no tolerance for people who leech off of family, friends, or the gov't (and hence MY taxes). If you're able minded and able bodied, get off your keester and get a job and KEEP a job. Not just for the monetary gain to yourself, but because laziness is despicable, and giving back to society in whatever form your job takes is essential and profitable to everyone.
OK, that being said lol...I will not date a man who doesn't have a steady job, unless he's laid off or something else TRULY beyond his control, and even then he needs to be actively seeking something new. I have known TOO MANY men who either didn't have jobs or wouldn't keep jobs because they were nothing short of big, lazy, babies.
I don't have any kind of "requirement" for how much a man needs to make in order for me to be accepting of him. I'd rather date a man who works his behind off at a minimum wage job and has a heart of gold, than to date a millionaire with a gigantic ego.
It's not about money. It's about responsibility and your duty to contribute to society.
Would I date a full time student who didn't work? Hmm. I can't imagine a 30 something year old man going to school full time .. who'd be paying his bills? His parents? No, I couldn't respect that. He'd have to at least have a part time job to pay his own bills.
OK, that being said lol...I will not date a man who doesn't have a steady job, unless he's laid off or something else TRULY beyond his control, and even then he needs to be actively seeking something new. I have known TOO MANY men who either didn't have jobs or wouldn't keep jobs because they were nothing short of big, lazy, babies.
I don't have any kind of "requirement" for how much a man needs to make in order for me to be accepting of him. I'd rather date a man who works his behind off at a minimum wage job and has a heart of gold, than to date a millionaire with a gigantic ego.
It's not about money. It's about responsibility and your duty to contribute to society.
Would I date a full time student who didn't work? Hmm. I can't imagine a 30 something year old man going to school full time .. who'd be paying his bills? His parents? No, I couldn't respect that. He'd have to at least have a part time job to pay his own bills.
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Inka, is it just me or did you change with your name and become a big conservative activist when before you seemed pretty apolitical.
Weird. No problems with it but weird.
Weird. No problems with it but weird.
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I made my name change completely public, both on the thread and in my title lol. I did not go from apolitical to conservative...I've always been conservative. I am not an activist of any sort. I have my views, and they are solid. We have a lot of political/moral threads going currently. Maybe that's why you've seen me talk more about such matters.
And I am not weird.
And I am not weird.
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Maybe thats it. . . just never seen you talk about it that much and now you are all over the debate threads like white on rice.
I'm sorry your life is so boring then.
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traingosorry
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Luther - play nice!
It does matter to me. I'd like the person I am with to make as much as I do or more than me.
Of course I don't mind supporting the other person, but I wouldn't want to be the only one paying for our lifestyle. It is a bit of a factor I look at when meeting prospective men but what is more important to me than how much they make, is how ambitious they are. I want a guy to be doing something he enjoys, because if he is just working a job just to get by, I want to know why he doesn't want to try to do better.
It does matter to me. I'd like the person I am with to make as much as I do or more than me.
Of course I don't mind supporting the other person, but I wouldn't want to be the only one paying for our lifestyle. It is a bit of a factor I look at when meeting prospective men but what is more important to me than how much they make, is how ambitious they are. I want a guy to be doing something he enjoys, because if he is just working a job just to get by, I want to know why he doesn't want to try to do better.
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Well, I just earned a Master's degree and that puts my earning potential in a pretty high range and I am only 24 years old. My ex-fiancee had big issues (insecurities) with the fact that I was so well-educated and was going to make so much money and he didn't finish college and was only making 18 to 20k a year at his job. But I wasn't dating him because I wanted his money or anything like that. I felt like God had called us together and I knew he was a hard worker and God would eventually honor that by giving him the desire for a better job.
I would always tell him that money is just a tool. God can provide us in anyway he wants with ot without the involvement of money and we should be humble enough to accept that provision. I also believe that when you get married, the money becomes "ours" not mine and yours, so it should be a blessing if God provides you with a great income whether it comes from the man or woman.
Especially as Christians, we cannot measure our worth by how much money we make in our jobs and should not stop God if he draws us to someone who makes less or more money than we do. What is important is that that person is sold-out to Christ and being obedient in what God has asked him or her to do.
If God has told someone to go to school full-time and makes provision for that, then so be it. May that person be blessed because they have sacrificed their pride and relied on God, trusting in his plan. Many people are in jobs that they have chosen for themselves and never sought after God about what he wants, and they are held captive by the money they are making.
So, I think we should all make a conscious effort to stop thinking like the world, and swallow all our pride and be in a relationship because God has drawn two people together for His greater glory.
I would always tell him that money is just a tool. God can provide us in anyway he wants with ot without the involvement of money and we should be humble enough to accept that provision. I also believe that when you get married, the money becomes "ours" not mine and yours, so it should be a blessing if God provides you with a great income whether it comes from the man or woman.
Especially as Christians, we cannot measure our worth by how much money we make in our jobs and should not stop God if he draws us to someone who makes less or more money than we do. What is important is that that person is sold-out to Christ and being obedient in what God has asked him or her to do.
If God has told someone to go to school full-time and makes provision for that, then so be it. May that person be blessed because they have sacrificed their pride and relied on God, trusting in his plan. Many people are in jobs that they have chosen for themselves and never sought after God about what he wants, and they are held captive by the money they are making.
So, I think we should all make a conscious effort to stop thinking like the world, and swallow all our pride and be in a relationship because God has drawn two people together for His greater glory.
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I still don't understand why modern women are sometimes so concerned with if a guy makes more then they do.
I completly understand wanting a guy to have a job, like I said I don't think I could date someone who for an extended time was neither going to school or working.
But the problem with worrying about how much a guy makes is sometimes the most important work out there doesn't make that much. Doctors are about the only morally important work out there that makes what they deserve.
Police Officers don't make what they deserve
neither do firemen
neither do most pastors
neither do most teachers
Like Ink was talking about, it has to do with work ethic.
I completly understand wanting a guy to have a job, like I said I don't think I could date someone who for an extended time was neither going to school or working.
But the problem with worrying about how much a guy makes is sometimes the most important work out there doesn't make that much. Doctors are about the only morally important work out there that makes what they deserve.
Police Officers don't make what they deserve
neither do firemen
neither do most pastors
neither do most teachers
Like Ink was talking about, it has to do with work ethic.
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traingosorry
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I totally get your way of thinking Supplanter, but I don't know that I would want to hook up with a man who's thinking "Ah, God's got me covered, I'll just stay in this job for the rest of my life."
I wouldn't pass up a man if he was in a lower paying job but LOVED IT, but I would definitely think long and hard about the guy who was just settling because he can't be bothered to make a change.
I wouldn't pass up a man if he was in a lower paying job but LOVED IT, but I would definitely think long and hard about the guy who was just settling because he can't be bothered to make a change.
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traingosorry
I'm what Willis was talkin' bout.
All of these guys are in their careers because it's something they are passionate about - and that makes for a happy man. That's worth more to me than the paycheque he brings home.
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Supplanter
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Luther,
I agree. See my post right before yours.
neither do most pastors
neither do most teachers
Like Ink was talking about, it has to do with work ethic.[/quote]
I agree. See my post right before yours.
neither do most pastors
neither do most teachers
Like Ink was talking about, it has to do with work ethic.[/quote]
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Supplanter
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Yeah, I don't mean that sort of man at all. Obviously, that is not passionately pursuing God. I'm all about the pursuit of what God wants and I hate complacency. It is just fear taking on a seemingly benign form and all we know that fear is not of God. I always ask people what makes them so sure they are suppose to stay in one job all their lives.
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JonMiller
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I am sort of focused on work right now. I am thinking that at some point soon I should be less focused on work and more focused on finding a mate. A couple years ago (and for times in the last couple years) I haven't been very focused on work. However, a couple years ago I was focused on drinking/playing video games/spending time with freinds and in the last couple of years I have mostly wanted to relax when I wasn't focused on work.
I think after I graduate, I will definitely be sure to spend some time focusing on finding a mate.
JM
I think after I graduate, I will definitely be sure to spend some time focusing on finding a mate.
JM
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IamHeather
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Well, for me, it is all about values. What I mean is, I could not care less how much money they make or what kind of job they have, but that their value system matches mine. Because of that, I'm not sure I would want to date someone who's too "capitalist." At my core I am a bit of a peace-lovin-hippie who wants to make life better for the people who live on the earth so I guess I just want someone who is more of a match for me in that regard.
Well, for me, it is all about values. What I mean is, I could not care less how much money they make or what kind of job they have, but that their value system matches mine. Because of that, I'm not sure I would want to date someone who's too "capitalist." At my core I am a bit of a peace-lovin-hippie who wants to make life better for the people who live on the earth so I guess I just want someone who is more of a match for me in that regard.
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not necessarily. though if they arent in college and have no plans of finding a job, and seem to have no direction in life, i would have to look long and hard at why before i would continue pursuing them because im certainly not gonna be supporting someone who is just so lazy they expect me to do everything. If they make more than me, all the better. It means we will have more to give to missions and etc.
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