I've heard that...

[jesus_is_my_life]

Okay, well, this is something that I've heard from a really great pastor (he's awesome, teaches nothing but the WORD ) and I do actually believe this is true. I've heard that God has created MORE than one person that you are compatible with and that it is our choice as to which one of them we choose to give our hearts to (even though He plays a HUGE part in this ). And I agree with this because when people's spouses go to be with the Lord, they can get remarried--some do and some don't. So, that MUST mean that there's more than one person you're compatible with like that. But, my question is this: How do you know which one of them to choose? I mean, how do you know which one of those people that God has created you to be compatible with to choose? I'm sure that your life would be very different with each person. Of course each relationship would be centered around Christ for sure.

But, how do you know which one to "pick"? Does it make sense what I'm saying? When you're faced with choices upfront?

 

[jenptcfan]

What difference does it make which one we pick? I mean if God creates two people who are perfectly compatible with me, what difference does it make which one I pick?

I don't think we're necessarily faced with the choices up front though. If I meet a man who is completely compatible with me and he and I decide we are God's will for eachother, I'm not going to say "Hold that thought...I think I'll wait around and see if there are some other people who are compatible with me too!" Know what I mean?

 

[songz777]

Hiya J.I.M.L,
Well as a chap who hasnt actually dated a woman yet ( I dont believe in date and try girls ...would cause too much hurt) but I believe in these words I BEING IN THE RIGHT WAY THE LORD LED ME ..first God is FIRST, i love for Him and focus upon Him. 2nd I am always on the look out for that potential woman, and if i see someone who may be,,, I take a deep breath pray and step out on the water and talk to her (im shy so thats hard lol) as i talk to her do i feel a real sense of God being there with us, as If im talking to God and her at the same time. Do I feel really relaxed with her, do we have things in common,, socially and spiritually? Does she love Jesus like I do (or quite near) Do we have some common intrests? Can we laugh together? Do i feel in my heart that this is could be the one? God says IN ALL YOUR acknowledge Hima nd He will direct your paths.. so I pray Lord you know all things please Guide me right..
I guess I would take note of how much she wanted to talk about me and not about helself. You also look for the PEACE of God ... do you feel very peaceful about this man? (woman for me), Can you really relate to them and open up? Does he really want to work and be involved in the Lords work as you are? Does this person bring out the best in you, pray for you, send you a txt message or email with a verse or thought to encourage you? Th best thing to do is be friends at first (as you should be) and TRUST GOD to reveal to you things about Him that he may be trying to hide..to put it blunt you want to see him at his WORST lol ..Im sure others will add to this forum of yours who have PROVED Gods goodness in guidance and I look forward to what they say.....Bless you JIML hope this helps JOHN:o)

 

[jesus_is_my_life]

Thank you SO much, songz! That's awesome...

I know what jen's saying, too though. I guess I wouldn't be like alright hold on I need to see if there's someone else out there that I'd like to date, lol! That's not me anyway, but that's a good way to look at it. I'm just wondering that what people do when they are torn between two people that are "perfect" for them or does that never happen? (but I know it does ) I guess just go with the peace in your heart, huh? Not a bad idea...hmmm....

 

[fishstix]

I guess the key would be not to pick someone who you think is right for you but who in reality isn't. A lot of people seem to do just that.

 

[LifeInYou]

If I meet a man who is completely compatible with me and he and I decide we are God's will for eachother...

Hmm...but wouldn't that make it your will for eachother, not God's?

I've yet to meet a couple who is completely compatible with one another. God uses relationships to help develop our character. If there are no challenges, there can be no growth. I do understand, however, that people do get along better with specific types of people. I believe there are *many* people out there who are suitable for us, and that God merely permits our decision on whom to marry, He does not have a specific person/will in mind. We can know what type of person would be an appropriate choice by reading the Word and asking Him for discernment.

 

[jenptcfan]

Hmm...but wouldn't that make it your will for eachother, not God's?

No, because if I come to the conclusion that a person is who God wills my husband to be, it will be after much prayer and seeking God.

 

[Jedi]

I've heard that God has created MORE than one person that you are compatible with and that it is our choice as to which one of them we choose to give our hearts to (even though He plays a HUGE part in this). And I agree with this because when people's spouses go to be with the Lord, they can get remarried--some do and some don't. So, that MUST mean that there's more than one person you're compatible with like that. But, my question is this: How do you know which one of them to choose?

I’ve heard this conclusion before, yet I’m very hesitant to side with those who claim its veracity. If this is true, then no one really has a “soul mate,” but only potential mates (kind of takes a whack at the romanticism of it all if you ask me). God in His omniscience knows who I’m going to marry, and this is who I consider my “soul mate” – not every possible young lady I could have hooked up with, as I’m sure there are plenty of young ladies who are compatible with me. When I pray for my future wife, I pray for the young lady God knows I will one day marry – not all the other possible girls I won’t actually end up with (which will be a very large number).

The idea of remarrying after your spouse dies is an interesting concept. Perhaps there are primary & secondary soul mates; the primary are those we get married to first, secondary are those we would get married to second, and so forth (many people having only a primary soul mate). Now mind you, the only way this makes sense through the hand of God intending for a second soul mate is for the primary marriage to end through death. If a couple gets a divorce (something not approved of by God, though possibly some times the lesser of the two evils), then there’s two possibilities concerning their previous and future spouses: Either (1) the person they married was not their soul mate, thus the horrible end to that marriage or (2) the person was their soul mate and for some odd reason or another sin wedged itself between them to the point of divorce. In all practicality, it’s quite difficult to tell given our limited, human perspective.

This is the view I favor most, since it means that right now, at this very moment, I have a young lady I am destined to be with; we have each other already, even if we have not yet met. Besides, God’s choice as to who I should end up with would be far more credible than my own. If God set before me ten beautiful women and said, “Pick whomever you choose and that one will be your wife,” I would simply fall down before Him and ask Him to choose for me. His wisdom over my own, as mine is far too near-sighted.