Earlier this week I asked my bf to tell me what it is he believes in and he said he would send me an email trying to explain it and that I should tell him what I think. I asked him to tell me why the church was a place he didnt agree with and he told me that he had issues with; hypocrisy, suffering etc all the sorts of the things non-Christians have issues with. So I read this email and basically my bf bases his life on the teachings of some Indian guru. Some of the stuff this guru was saying was putting Christianity in a bad light so I put him straight about those things right away. I also sent him in my reply a file about what Christianity is all about. I also sent him a file answering some of the questions and issues he had. I told him to read it and get back to me.
I also sent a second email that same day saying that my faith was the most important thing in my life and that even though I love him the fact the was not a Christian meant that our relationship effectively had no future. I told him that ultimately when I date it is with a view of marriage and the way things are now; we could never get married in the future. I explained again about the sex b4 marriage thing and said that I was confused and the decision I would have to make would be hard.
Yesterday we spoke and hard a really long talk, and he said that he sees how important my faith is to me and he doesnt want me to be compromising my faith by dating him. He also said that he loved me and knew that I loved him but he didnt want to feel that in the relationship I was never going to be really happy because I knew deep down that the relationship was wrong. One thing he always said to me throughout the relationship was that as long as I was happy he would be happy too. Yesterday I said does this still apply if it means that he gets hurt in the process. He said even though it was had thing to have to cope with - yes.
He told me that he was sorry that he wasnt the man I wanted him to be, but he couldnt promise that he would change. He needs to search and discover the truth himself. For his honesty I am grateful because the last thing I want is for him to say things to please me.
The whole thing was so hard, because the decision was mine but I knew that it was the right thing to do. It didnt feel like it was though- Ive been crying all day but I know its what God wants. I told my bf that I always believe that if we are meant to be together we will but now is not the right time.
I just feel WEIRD. I know Ive done the right thing but right now I feel for him because I know he is hurting. We have agreed to keep working on our relationship (friendship wise) because we are best friends and we will always be close but right now Im giving him space.
Right now I dont even feel like I want a bf and its not because I cant have my guy, but right now I feel that if its not the man God wants for me, why waste my time and cause I dont want to have to go through this pain again, ever! If my guy is the man wants me to be with he will prepare him for me until the time is right, if he is not then I will put it down to experience and accept whoever God gives me.
To all of you, who read my threads, gave advice and most of all prayed, I thank you. I appreciate it.
Valencia xxx
I also sent a second email that same day saying that my faith was the most important thing in my life and that even though I love him the fact the was not a Christian meant that our relationship effectively had no future. I told him that ultimately when I date it is with a view of marriage and the way things are now; we could never get married in the future. I explained again about the sex b4 marriage thing and said that I was confused and the decision I would have to make would be hard.
Yesterday we spoke and hard a really long talk, and he said that he sees how important my faith is to me and he doesnt want me to be compromising my faith by dating him. He also said that he loved me and knew that I loved him but he didnt want to feel that in the relationship I was never going to be really happy because I knew deep down that the relationship was wrong. One thing he always said to me throughout the relationship was that as long as I was happy he would be happy too. Yesterday I said does this still apply if it means that he gets hurt in the process. He said even though it was had thing to have to cope with - yes.
He told me that he was sorry that he wasnt the man I wanted him to be, but he couldnt promise that he would change. He needs to search and discover the truth himself. For his honesty I am grateful because the last thing I want is for him to say things to please me.
The whole thing was so hard, because the decision was mine but I knew that it was the right thing to do. It didnt feel like it was though- Ive been crying all day but I know its what God wants. I told my bf that I always believe that if we are meant to be together we will but now is not the right time.
I just feel WEIRD. I know Ive done the right thing but right now I feel for him because I know he is hurting. We have agreed to keep working on our relationship (friendship wise) because we are best friends and we will always be close but right now Im giving him space.
Right now I dont even feel like I want a bf and its not because I cant have my guy, but right now I feel that if its not the man God wants for me, why waste my time and cause I dont want to have to go through this pain again, ever! If my guy is the man wants me to be with he will prepare him for me until the time is right, if he is not then I will put it down to experience and accept whoever God gives me.
To all of you, who read my threads, gave advice and most of all prayed, I thank you. I appreciate it.
Valencia xxx
Its hard to let go like that... but with obedience comes rewards. You did the right thing. Don't compromise what you know is truth for anyone... even if you want to spend forever with that person. 
