It is not good for the man to be alone!

[steve21]

The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18.

I am fairly severely disabled with Cerebral Palsy, which basically means that I use a powered wheelchair to get around, have poor coordination of all my limbs, and a speech impairment. I am now 44 years of age. Outwardly, my body may not be the ‘norm’, but inwardly, I have the same needs, hopes, desires, and fears as everyone else may have. I guess, ultimately, I am looking for that special soul mate and companion, someone to share life’s highs and lows with. I long for companionship and physical intimacy. I have been asking the Lord for a soul-mate, wife, and lover for over twenty years, but I am still lonely and single. This has undermined my confidence to keep trying to find that special relationship.

Please pray that the Lord would perform a miracle and bring a very special lady in to my life very soon. Someone who will just understand me completely and can accept me just the way that I am. Someone who I can love and support to the best of my abilities. Pray that I would have the faith and confidence to pursue and develop a relationship with the right lady. Pray that I would have peace as I wait upon the Lord's timing.

Thank you,
Steve.

 

[odiear3rd]

God Bless you Steve. I Pray that God will send the Helpmate that He chooses for you. Lord, do not bring him a unbeliever but a Born Again Believer who will Love Steve in the Love of God. Let my brother be able to Discern which one is from You, Lord. May his heart and not his eyes be the judge in this. Steve wait upon the Lord to Provide. Don't get ahead of Him. Again, God Bless you.

 

[tigger67]

I will pray for you.

 

[hypostatic]

Praying!

 

[Mainliner]

I will pray for you.

As did I.

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

Praying for your intentions ~

 

[Linus]

Praying for you brother in the name of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. Thank You Lord!

 

[gloryseven]

Loving Lord Jesus, please comfort this man and help him deal with his situation and lonliness at this time. Please hear his prayer and bring a friend to share his life. Amen.

 

[kericson]

Praying in agreement. May God bless you abundantly. In Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[wondering1]

Praying!

 

[Stephanie7]

Father God I pray that You will bring Steve the soulmate that he has been waiting for for so long. Your Word says that You didn't want man to be alone so You created a woman for Adam, a helpmate and gave him Eve. LORD, this man is waiting. Send him a woman who will love him, understand him, care for him and honor him. I pray and ask that You will send her soon, and that Steve and his woman will be blessed together and forever, In Jesus Name, Amen

 

[Canadian33]

Ahhhh Steve buddy my heart goes out to you bro. I really feel for you. I know that sometimes it takes a long time for prayers to get answered. I know I was praying for about 7 years over one issue I had before it finally got answered. So just keep praying. First off you might have to face the fact that prayers not always get answered in the way in which we hope they would. Like when it comes to dating say for example even the best of guys have a challenging time. Then there's always the other side of the coin. You find a girl and if she wasn't put there by God, you might find yourself in an unbearable situation. Maybe she uses you, maybe she annoys you, maybe she breaks your heart. So there's that side of the coin too even if you get your wish. What it sounds like is you need some company. So there's a variety of safe and normal things you can do that could help. Like I'm not sure if you've tried some stuff like "online gaming". Like video games online. Especially the ones where people play games and talk to each other while playing. They can be really fun and offer a bit of socializing. When I use to play I found the social part fun because I could go on there, be playing having fun and strike up a conversation with a group or just one other party in real time and it was fun. So there's a variety of those. There's a variety of stuff like "second life" another social game you play where you meet people and chat and have fun. Never tried it but I'm sure it's a great way to interact. Another thing you should do is get a massage. Perhaps weekly if you're feeling down. Like I read something about how the act of human touch is super important in life. You need it to feel good and even survive. So find a massage therapist who could come in perhaps weekly and massage your back, and chat with you. It's a great way to relieve stress and feel good. And all those are "external ideas" which you should try. But ultimately you need to deal with the "internal issues". You've set this idea up in your mind by now perhaps as the end all be all of life. Listen, you need to take it down a bit. It's not the end all be all of life if you met someone. You got to start to build up the idea that "your okay". That you're comfortable with who you are. That you're needs are being met. That you like yourself. Just focus on those. You don't need someone in your life before you can finally start to enjoy life. Just enjoy what you have. Listen, you have a life. You've been given the ultimate gift. It's not perfect. But the truth is, no bodies life is, regardless of how they look. Everyone has their own set of problems. But you just got to gain control of your mind. Don't let it control you. And reprogram your mind by telling yourself positive affirmations, and prayers. Eventually you'll reach a point where you wont' have this obsessive need for someone to make you feel better. You can do it on your own. It's all in the mind. I'd tear down that fantasy you have about needing someone. Often that's when it will actually appear. Once it's no longer a fantasy. Once your comfortable and confident and happy. Then someone will show up. Because only then you'll be ready to actually give them what they need. Because relationships are not one way. You have to be fully ready to give them what they need as well, in terms of companionship. So again that starts by getting your mind to the point where you no longer "need anyone". By getting to the point inside where you are a "complete person". Listen, I'm in no position at all to consider the issues and challenges you must go through on a day to day basis. But again just try and stay positive. Try some of those things I mentioned. Start getting a massage weekly so you can have someone releaving the tension. And or try some of the online stuff to build a relationship. But just keep praying brother. "Dear Lord, thank you for this man. Thank you Jesus. Dear lord comfort him, and help him to find new ways of thinking. Help him to find his ultimate peace in you from now until he meets you face to face. And please bring into his life the companion he desires. Amen"

 

[SplendidTree]

Praying!