It hurts...

[*Miau*]

Hey - To all of you who consider having a long distance relationship, I'd like to say that it really hurts.
I'm in a LDR with my English boyfriend, I, myself, is Danish, so we have an ocean between us. We both think it's very hard being apart like this, but we love each other very much, so we try to make it work. We have loads of plans for the future together, which we think is important when we live so far apart, and we are very commited to each other as well.
When people ask me about how I manage being away from him for so long, I tell that God helps me through - and He and my bf give me strength to carry on - because I know we will have a great future together.

So to those who are in the same situation as I am, or if you're considering an LDR: God is here, and He is just waiting for you to ask for His help. And it is possible to stay in a relationship with a person who is far away - it just takes a bit of effort, and you need to be strong for each other, because it hurts alot. - But it's worth it
God bless you all

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John 15:7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you

 

[GirlForChrist]

I understand what you speak of...My boyfriend lives 1000 miles away

 

[Omid]

Hey, thought I should share my experiences with you.

I was just recently in a LDR, and have been even one before that. Both ended tragicly, and hurt me very much. My first, broke off when I heard she got pregnant and cheated on me. The second, which I fell in love so deeply hurt me even more!!! I was traumatized, which so turned me to christ as I willing to kill myself.

I'm not trying to say, that this relationship of yours will end up the same, but I want to make it clear to you not to dream in deeply in this fantasy of the picture perfect connection across the sea.

Yeah, the most important thing is that you won't experience the physical (not sex, but hugs & kisses) part of this relationship. So in replacment it takes alot of effort in keeping both sides bounded, through emails & chat conversations...which take alot of time. Now, there're success stories, and I pray that yours will be so...

 

[JahRawks]

I'd just like to add my two cents in here, I'm currently in a LDR, and it's not the most wonderful thing in the world to have my best friend living 500 miles away from me, but ya know something, to me, it's one of the best ways to get to trust someone, because in an LDR you have to trust your significant other more than you do in person, and communication is so much more important, it's hard yes, but if you can stay commited to loving each other no matter what, it can be an amazing experience. God Bless-
Nathan

 

[*Miau*]

Thank you very much, Omid. I hope you will find happiness soon. I'm very glad to hear that you turned to christ. He helped you to get through it, right?

Nathan, You are so right when you say that trust is much more important when you are so far apart. Just as well as a very good communication is essential to make it work.

God Bless you - and take care

 

[BLESSED822]

Im can so relate....i to am in a LDR...i will admit from time to time it does get hard...it doesnt so much hurt because well i do love him with all my heart.....it's not as hard as i thought it would be, but its hard mentally....when he needs a shoulder to cry on, i cant help...all i can do is listen....most times listening is good...but i just want to let him know that i will always be here.....but all of that will end soon, we'll be together soon enough

 

[Omid]

Yeah, *Miau* he's currently helping me overcome grief, and let me find the path of life again, since I had been displaced from this message.

I'm glad to have someone listen to my pain, and able to heal me with the essence of hope & wisdom, and surely he'll provide with happiness as long as I keep myself true to him.

God Bless, Omid

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

I would not change my relationship with Nathan (yes, the Nathan who posted above). By being so far apart, I've gotten to know him more. Yes, it hurts, but I think the way we've grown together has been worth it. It'll make or break a relationship. For me, it's made it.