Is what i am doing wrong should i change?

[RR5282]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

 

[lil_hermie_jobo]

As long as you have breath, as long as you are alive, its never too late.
I know how you feel when you say "I was never really into the whole God thing"
I just became christian this year but the other 21 years of my life were pretty much whatever I wanted them to be. I can only speak for myself , as anyone for that matter, and to be honest with you I never felt happiness or understood it like I do now.
I dont want to come across like some extremely underpaid councelor but I've done the things you say you're invovled with. I never really felt like my life had any purpose or any reason for being here. For probably a good 8 or 9 years of my life I suffered from severe depression and in those 8 or 9 years I did the drug scene and thankfully I'm not dead right now from most of my experiences. I dont believe it was a coincidence that during my most vulnerable moments in my life I suffered from depression because I tried to fill all those voids with "things" instead of God. I dont think its an accident that you are questioning right now. I know it took a lot of mistakes for me to realize that God was there with me reaching out His hands to lift me up out of all of it , even if I didn't want Him to be or admit that He was. Brief history for what its worth :
I grew up never knowing my father because he committed suicide before I turned a year old. My family (mom and sis) was poor and on welfare which didn't exactly let me "fit in" with the popular kids who's parents could afford nice things for them. Over time the different forms of abuse , I felt, drove me to doing drugs, to having sex, to outright hating God and blaming Him for everything that I was doing to myself. I figured, hey if He's some all powerful God why is He letting my life fall apart, why should I care then?
I guess out of all my rambling I want you to gather and understand one thing at least... satan is real and so are his attacks on our potential relationship with Christ.
what better way to destroy something than with its foundation (home). If a building has no support, it cant stand tall. ever.
God has been "into" you the entire time , reaching out His hands asking you to let Him take it all away. Its a matter of trusting that He wont hurt you. Its a hard thing to do and I still struggle with things, we just have to learn to let go and let God.

 

[RR5282]

thankyou for your post it means alot to me. i can really relate to you i lived with my mom as well my dad really didnt care to be in my life im not in with the bad crowd i just dont like to say no because i have no reason not to i mean its not like i dont try to stop its just hard im sure you know how that its i have no reason to change and i try and get a reason with a guy and thats where the sex comes in i dont know i just feel like **** because my conscious is saying im doing the wrong thing but its like i dont care i dont know like i think im bisexual and im not sure if its wrong or what is wrong so i do it i guess im just lost

 

[lil_hermie_jobo]

thankyou for your post it means alot to me. i can really relate to you i lived with my mom as well my dad really didnt care to be in my life im not in with the bad crowd i just dont like to say no because i have no reason not to i mean its not like i dont try to stop its just hard im sure you know how that its i have no reason to change and i try and get a reason with a guy and thats where the sex comes in i dont know i just feel like **** because my conscious is saying im doing the wrong thing but its like i dont care i dont know like i think im bisexual and im not sure if its wrong or what is wrong so i do it i guess im just lost

Its my belief that our conscience is a deep set voice of God that we are born with and that determines right from wrong. It is also my belief that over time our conscience can become corrupt through different things, sort of like an old weathered tree that loses color over time because of its outside conditions even though it still has life it changes.
God gives us life, not death. He isn't here to condemn us or to ruin anything for us. The bible makes it very clear that the enemy (satan) is only here to steal , kill, and destroy. But (this is the good part) Jesus has come so that we can have LIFE and live it to the full. His plans for us are to help us, to build us up, to give us strength, to show us LOVE and HAPPINESS not to create doubt of self-worth or identity.
I believe that we will never know who we were created to be and that we will never find peace until we accept who God created us to be. Again, I can only speak for myself.

 

[jehovahway]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

I DONT THINK THE FIRST QUESTION SHOULD BE SHOULD I CHANGE
Because what you are doing can and will bring satans angels into your life.
We haft to remember what Jesus said to satan.
Satan you dont care about truth are spirit things All you care about is
peoples flesh.
From this we can see that satan can and will draw people into a relationship
with him and his angels.Thru flesh things.
That goes out of the bounds of Gods order of things.Thats why we have
the bible to show us when were moving out of Gods will into a trap
that satan has set up for us to follow.
I am a christian been one for35 years i operate in gift 7 which alows me
to see satans angels on people.
The people that i know that arent christians Go to bars use drugs and party
all the time.Everyone of them had satans angels on them and once their
on you only a christian with the power of God operation in their life can get them off of the person.

The more we yeild oueselves to the prompt of satans angels the greater
hold of our life they will get.

And of course they wont us in hell with them.But jesus Christ has offered
us something much better than flesh things and hell.

There is nothing wrong with sex in Gods order of things its when we listen
to satan and his Angels that we have a big problem with God
Because satan speaks into our mind God speaks into our Spirit

Thats why i dont run with everthing hitting my mind.

 

[CWLite]

Sounds like you have been ready for a life change for while now. If these pleasures, short lived pleasures, actually made you happy you wouldn't have posted. When we look at material things and substances for gratification and pleasure, we end up disappointed. The further you go down that road, the further the walk back, cause where you are headed there is a dead end. I don't mean to come on strong, but it is life changing decision that you need to make, a fork in the road if you will. There are only two roads life, life and death, which road shall you take?

I believe that you know the answer.

 

[thereselittleflower]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

Hi

Why don't you come over to One Bread One Body . . it is the Catholic forum here at CF . . .

I think what is happening is you are feeling the tug of God on your heart . . . you were baptized . . and God is now calling you . . . it doesn't really matter if you understand it or not right now . . what is important is that you respond to that tug of God . . .


It doesn't matter how far away you have gotten from God . . . You can never get so far away that He can't call you like He is doing now . . . it is because God loves you and is callilng you that you are feeling this desire to change. . . .

Don't ignore it and don't wait for a 'better' momment . . .there is no better time than now.


Please come to OBOB One Bread One Body here at CF . .
http://www.christianforums.com/f26-one-bread-one-body-catholic.html



there are several Catholics there who can really help you with this.


Love and peace in God!

 

[stray bullet]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

RR- I struggled/struggle with a lot of stuff too. I know that for me personally, waiting for change was very easy, but it didn't get me anywhere.

In order to actually change, you need to initiate it. I don't think we can get out of our old ways just by waiting for something to happen. i know how you feel- I was very worried about being ready to start the rest of my life. I didn't know if I could do it, if I should do it or if I'd be able to go through with it.

What I do know is that, from my experience, you have to start taking steps. A big one for me recently was reconciliation/confession. It wasn't easy by any means, but I went in, told God how sorry I was for my past sins and professed that I wanted to make things right again.

For me, this did wonders. It wasn't a solution, but it was part of the solution. It was a moment to throw away all my mistakes and bad habits and start from zero. If you are comfortable doing this and would like to return to being a Catholic, I certainly recommend it.
It won't end your problems, but it'll help and most importantly, give you a place to start over.

If that is something you aren't comfortable doing, try to find some other way of initiating the first steps.

 

[ukok]

Just to re-iterate what others have said, why don't you come over to the Catholic Forum at CF ..we won't eat you, we 're not cannibals

And welcome to CF

God Bless.

 

[Karl - Liberal Backslider]

Do you think what you are doing is wrong?

 

[SpaceMonk]

i dont know i just feel like **** because my conscious is saying im doing the wrong thing but its like i dont care i dont know

If you're feeling that what you do is wrong for you then it is wrong for you.

If you don't know, then seek - look into things and learn.

Sex, drugs, etc, are not real love, just a distraction.

 

[Miss Shelby]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

The fact that you're asking these questions tells me that the pot smoking and sex isn't fulfulling you in any meaningful way. Something is missing isn't it?

Change doesn't happen when we're ready. Change happens when we take action to change, even if we don't feel like it. If you need to talk to someone, you can pm me if you want to.

Michelle

 

[GodFlute2]

Wait till you really want to change. If you try any other time it won't do any good. God will only forgive you if you really mean it & are sincere about it. If that time is now then, have at him.

 

[carmi]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

Partying, sex and drugs - from what I have heard, people do this to have fun, to have excitement, to enjoy themselves. For some reason, people think being a believer is boring. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Eventually the party is over, and most likely you experience a hangover, severe headache, maybe hurt because you fell and don't even remember it.

More often than not, the person you had a great time together leaves you or hurts you until you feel the need to leave. You experience a broken heart.

Smoking pot gets you but that does not last long.

Being a believer is being high. You are really high because you are lifted up, lifted out of situations.

There will be hard times and difficult times, but no hangover. Because God carries you through this.

There will be endings or difficult times in your relationship with another person, even heartache. But you still have God who does not leave you - He is in you.

And did I mention that you can get very high? See, your party friends might leave you or move on and you are left alone. Your partner might leave you and you are left alone. You might even lose your job, your home. I once found myself stranded, without a job, without a roof over my head and in a foreign country. The classic "now what" question. On the outside it looked as if I could not sink any lower (I was keenly aware that passers by might think of me as a run-down prostitute or drug addict in the gutter). I had a great time in the Lord, though. I stayed like this for a week. No headache, no heartache. I did not even call the few people I knew and knew they would help me. It was just me, God and the park bench - we partied for several days but He never parted from me. I had no money, no food - when I finally called home and the ticket came and I flew back, they thought at first I had been lying to them because I looked so well.

What changes for you - once you are a believer - is that you don't have to go to a party, don't have to have sex, don't have to take drugs to get you through a low point, make you feel better, escape loneliness.

I knew people who smoked pot. They explained to me why they take it. They described what they experienced. I already felt that - without the pot. And I did try it - just to see. It make me feel worse - and not because I had a bad conscience. It brought me down from the high I was on.

 

[mhess13]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

I think, actually I know that you should give your life to Christ. Trust Him. Acknowledge that you have sinned and need his mercy and trust in him as your savior. You will then be assured of your eternal destiny. Christ will change you. Come as you are and let Him do the work in changing you through His Holy Spirit. We are powerless to change ourselves, we will always fall back into sin. There will never be a good time to change, there will never be a time when we are ready, and we are powerless. Trust Christ TODAY!

 

[Faith In God]

I am a 22 just got out of college, and have done alot of partying i lost my virginity and have done some drugs stuff like that. I still have sex and have it often and i smoke pot. I just never was into the whole god thing i kind of want to change but im not sure if im ready should i try and change or just wait till i think im ready.

Don't wait! Now is the day of salvation! The only thing that keeps you from plunging into death is God's hand that itches to do justice but wants to still do mercy upon you! You aren't guarunteed another breath of life. Unless you repent, you will perish. Please don't wait on salvation...

 

[psalms 91]

the fact you posted this and asked tells me the spirit of god is calling you. dont fight it but enter into his rest. god doesnt call us to be perfect but to love. once we are saved and understand what god did for us we want to please him and the holy spirit will clean us up.. please dont ignore god. blessings and i will be praying for you.

 

[TheMainException]

If you wait until you think you are ready...you may not ever be ready, or you might end up in the wrong room with the wrong guy who gives you something lethal and you end up dead. That would not be cool....I think you need to get things right...sex may be good...but it can be even better if you wait.

 

[InspiredHome]

God meets you where you are, no matter what you've done. He's always been there for me though I have disappointed Him time and time again. Each time, He draws me to Him, wipes away my tears and relieves me of my burdens. I am renewed.

 

[Sketcher]

You should definitely change and return to God. I think you know what you've been doing is wrong, and you probably know how it hurts you and ravages your life. So kiss it goodbye. Jesus is calling you home, and the sooner you answer, the less these things will chain you down and destroy your life. You don't need to give in to the sex and drugs anymore, you can have a life in Jesus where you're free from them and the death they bring.