I am 51 and have been dating a 60 year old divorced man for two months. He lives about 30 miles from me so I visit him on the weekend. We sleep in the same bed but don't have sex-he knows I am a virgin and want to remain so until marriage. The thing that is bothering me is he claims to be a christian but he wants me to give him "hand jobs"-massaging his penis "Petey" to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]! He knows I have trouble occasionally masturbating and says it is no worse than my masturbating myself. I have never done this with any of the guys I have dated (have never seen an uncovered penis in person before this guy). I do not lust while doing it and he says he does not either and he claims it helps the prostate as men who don't [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] regularly tend to get prostate cancer. I don't want to lose him but I don't want to go to hell, either! He says no one is perfect and just ask for forgiveness. I don't think God wants us to live in willful sin. What is your opinion?:o