was wondering if ROCD can take many forms? I feel as if mine has changed. When I first started experiencing ROCD. I had thoughts that I didn't love my husband and it sent me into a panic. I even had a panic attack and wanted to leave. However, now I get anxiety when I say to myself that I do love my husband. Is this normal? I feel almost calm whenever I say I don't love him to myself. Could it be I'm afraid of loving? I want nothing more than these thoughts to go away. I hate it and I'm filled with so much guilt and shame. When I cry, I really, really cry. I want to rip my brain out and scratch off my skin. I shouldn't feel this way about my husband. I feel like I'm losing my mind. My anxiety spikes when I'm with my husband or look at his photos. Is this normal? I want to be happy WITH my husband. I'm just not sure if this is even ROCD. I know love is a choice but I can't help but have anxiety when I tell myself I love my husband. I so badly want to love him and be around him as normal again. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thank you
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heyitsthatguy1247
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It sounds like your disorder is just trying to convince you the same old thing but in a different way. I'm not too familiar with ROCD, but I can tell you my OCD has definitely changed over the years. You get over one form of it and another one usually comes up.
You can tell yourself you don't love him all day and night, but none of that really matters because you do love him. You worry you can't love him because you do love him. And if you didn't love him, none of these concerns would've ever entered your mind in the first place.
Trust your heart on this one. Trust that part of you that cares deeply and longs for love. That part of you that you want to be. Because that's who you are. With OCD, you are what you're afraid you're not. And for you, it sounds like that is a loving person.
You can tell yourself you don't love him all day and night, but none of that really matters because you do love him. You worry you can't love him because you do love him. And if you didn't love him, none of these concerns would've ever entered your mind in the first place.
Trust your heart on this one. Trust that part of you that cares deeply and longs for love. That part of you that you want to be. Because that's who you are. With OCD, you are what you're afraid you're not. And for you, it sounds like that is a loving person.
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I've been having thoughts about my ex? Which I haven't thought about in a long, long time. Is this normal for OCD? I get thoughts like, "what if I still love him?" Or "what if I am attracted to him?" Even though when we were together I know I didn't! It makes me anxious having these thoughts. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thank you
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heyitsthatguy1247
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I think those thoughts are normal for everyone, with or without OCD. The difference is most would just brush them off, because they are just that: thoughts. A thought is meaningless without action, without choice. Especially so if you have a mental illness that is constantly flooding your mind with them against your will.
I know how anxious it can feel, the uncertainty of it all, but you have to let it pass. It might take a few days for the initial anxiety to fade, but it always does. In the meantime, you have to remember these intrusive thoughts do not represent you in any way. You have no control over them and you don't want them. They're just symptoms of having a mind.
I know how anxious it can feel, the uncertainty of it all, but you have to let it pass. It might take a few days for the initial anxiety to fade, but it always does. In the meantime, you have to remember these intrusive thoughts do not represent you in any way. You have no control over them and you don't want them. They're just symptoms of having a mind.
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