"Is this normal?"

[JRSut1000]

A friend of ours wrote "You are so BEAUTIFUL! I fall in love all over again every time I look at you!" on his wife's wall and she replied in her own status "Is this normal? To fall in love with your spouse over and over again? How refreshing it is..."

So question, do you all find it normal and is this the norm for most Christian marriage? Do you think that should be the norm?

 

[Athene]

I think he's waxing lyrical tbh I'd take it as him expressing his continued love and desire for his wife.

I don't think it's physically possible to fall in love over and over again with somebody you see every day. If you're in love then you've already bonded and to fall in love again you'd have to fall out of love, then fall back in.

 

[favoritetoyisjoy]

I've said many times (though not here) that "My wife has won my heart many times even though once was enough". It doesn't seem to be the norm but many have (or had) that potentially.

 

[favoritetoyisjoy]

I think he's waxing lyrical tbh I'd take it as him expressing his continued love and desire for his wife.

I don't think it's physically possible to fall in love over and over again with somebody you see every day. If you're in love then you've already bonded and to fall in love again you'd have to fall out of love, then fall back in.

I don't think you fall in love all over again. It's more like you didn't think your spouse could so completely knock your socks off like they still do. Hard to describe.

 

[JRSut1000]

I think I understand, it's just meaning the feeling isnt always there but it comes back frequently because the love is real.

 

[favoritetoyisjoy]

Sometimes I've thought in that awesome moment when she has made some incredible demonstration of her love and character "Oh my word, I could not possibly have done any better than this, it couldn't get better than this!" And I really meant it, like my cup was running over by tsunami.

 

[JaneFW]

I think he's waxing lyrical tbh I'd take it as him expressing his continued love and desire for his wife.

I don't think it's physically possible to fall in love over and over again with somebody you see every day. If you're in love then you've already bonded and to fall in love again you'd have to fall out of love, then fall back in.

^^^ this

She's a lucky girl that he loves her enough to endure the raised eyebrows from his friends, but I don't think that you can or do fall in love over and over, and anyway - how scary if some time he fails to have that "feeling".

 

[dallasapple]

I think he's waxing lyrical tbh I'd take it as him expressing his continued love and desire for his wife.

I don't think it's physically possible to fall in love over and over again with somebody you see every day. If you're in love then you've already bonded and to fall in love again you'd have to fall out of love, then fall back in.

YES!..LOL!!If after you fall in love with them ..then you hate them..then you fall in love again..then you hate them again then you fall in love with them again LOL!!!

No serioulsy sometimes my love feels..well..GONE..then it comes back hard just like the new stuff but deeeper because ..I dont know why..

Also its possible hes describing his love deepening..after he thought it couldnt be any deeper..so its more like hes fallign MORE in love with her..that can happen..or hes overwhelmed with the feeling that it seems liek its all over again ..

Heres a good song that relates..

Alicia Keys - Fallin' (With Lyrics) - YouTube

This actually describes how I feel about my husband..(pretty darn accurately)

Dallas

 

[JaneFW]

This actually describes how I feel about my husband..(pretty darn accurately)

Dallas

I love that song.

 

[dallasapple]

^^^ this

She's a lucky girl that he loves her enough to endure the raised eyebrows from his friends, but I don't think that you can or do fall in love over and over, and anyway - how scary if some time he fails to have that "feeling".

Mmm..not so scary when it keeps comign back over and over..(and this too shall pass)..

Dallas

 

[Athene]

I don't think you fall in love all over again. It's more like you didn't think your spouse could so completely knock your socks off like they still do. Hard to describe.

that's attraction though, not love

When it comes to attraction, I've experienced times when I've looked at my husband and been attracted to him because he's looking particularly handsome.

 

[SPB1987]

A friend of ours wrote "You are so BEAUTIFUL! I fall in love all over again every time I look at you!" on his wife's wall and she replied in her own status "Is this normal? To fall in love with your spouse over and over again? How refreshing it is..."

So question, do you all find it normal and is this the norm for most Christian marriage? Do you think that should be the norm?

I think it is a wonderful thing to say. It is more symbolic of describing how much he really loves her.

 

[tannicv2]

A friend of ours wrote "You are so BEAUTIFUL! I fall in love all over again every time I look at you!" on his wife's wall and she replied in her own status "Is this normal? To fall in love with your spouse over and over again? How refreshing it is..."

So question, do you all find it normal and is this the norm for most Christian marriage? Do you think that should be the norm?

Is this norm for Christian Marriage!? Not by a long shot. Should it be? Sadly some have a long ways to go.

As for the friend, it shows how much he loves his wife and I don't see anything wrong with this.

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

Well, besides my own present marriage, the only other healthy marriages I've observed are:

My great-grandparents, who were married as teenagers and stayed together through good times and bad until he died at a ripe old age. Although I was in high school at the time, I remember it so clearly, how she was devastated at his funeral. "I've lost my best friend." It was so sad to see. They stayed in love throughout every decade they were married.

Mike's aunt and uncle, who recently renewed their vows by returning to the same wedding chapel they had eloped to 50 years ago. Here again, they were teenagers, but it worked. They are still crazy in love. When he puddled up during the ceremony, so did EVERYBODY else in the room, because it was so beautiful.

I've seen other couples stay together until death, but I wouldn't call it healthy because they either fought all the time, or ignored each other.

Normal? I don't know. Typical? Sadly not. And I'm with tannic, above. Should it be typical? I wish it was.

 

[captaincarr]

There is nothing wrong with that.

 

[ImaginaryDay]

A friend of ours wrote "You are so BEAUTIFUL! I fall in love all over again every time I look at you!" on his wife's wall and she replied in her own status "Is this normal? To fall in love with your spouse over and over again? How refreshing it is..."

So question, do you all find it normal and is this the norm for most Christian marriage? Do you think that should be the norm?

I often feel a fondness for my wife when I look at her, which I guess you could say is one aspect of the love I have for her, and I tell her so often. But it is private. I don't often post these things on FB! Friends see the love we have for each other not so much by words, but in how we treat each other and the respect we both show toward one another. I admire so many things about my wife and I wonder if this is what the husband was trying to convey.

However, I also have a friend/couple (married) on FB who are CONSTANTLY saying things to one another similar to what was stated above and posting pics of each other which invariably winds up on MY wall as well... I often wonder the same thing (i.e. is this normal?). They often look (and act) like teenagers in the 'puppy love' stage although they have been married 30 + years...

 

[dinonum]

A friend of ours wrote "You are so BEAUTIFUL! I fall in love all over again every time I look at you!" on his wife's wall and she replied in her own status "Is this normal? To fall in love with your spouse over and over again? How refreshing it is..."

So question, do you all find it normal and is this the norm for most Christian marriage? Do you think that should be the norm?

I don't think it is the norm for most Christian marriages, especially long term marriages. In many of the churches I've been in and the couples I've met who have made it long term, they tend to have a "stick it out" story rather than a "fell in love" story. Their advice is about remember a vow, not cherishing a vow. It's about rolling your eyes at your spouse for things you don't like, rather than embracing them and loving them through those things.

We went to marriage counseling a few months ago and I think that our pastor was one of the first people to encourage us to fall in love again and again and not just wait for it to happen.

 

[makeitwork]

i love my husband more now than i did when we first got married.

 

[lovedovethe]

A friend of ours wrote "You are so BEAUTIFUL! I fall in love all over again every time I look at you!" on his wife's wall and she replied in her own status "Is this normal? To fall in love with your spouse over and over again? How refreshing it is..."

So question, do you all find it normal and is this the norm for most Christian marriage? Do you think that should be the norm?

Oh daughter to love this way is perfect truth...To see beauty this way and to nurture it...This is life...and it is not just a Christian way but it is the God way as we have just one God and well he set the foundations just so to do a mighty works at the trumpets....Ah but love precious...Jesus was precious and love was His game nothing else is worth doing what He did. Love the love you describe is worth it and more...To love a new generation as deeply as He did...This is the specialness in the preciouscness He Is. We should love as deeply as to not waste a drop of blood...

 

[A2597]

And here is why English is *not* a romance language...we have one word for "love".

Greek has many words for love, Agape, Storge, Phileo, Eros...

The marriage love will be all four really... Agape, a serving love. Storg, affection, Phileo, Brotherly / family, Eros - desire / passion.

Of those, Eros will be the one that ebbs and flows. There will be times it runs wild (erm, wedding night traditionally), and times when it is hardly there at all...but that's normal. So falling in and out of love with your spouse, in this sense, speaks to me of Eros...desire.