Is this normal?

[dusky_tresses]

I don't care for people much. Yeah, is that normal? Sounds a bit strange I'm sure. Before someone misinterprets what I'm saying, I am saying that I don't care for people much. That doesn't mean I don't care about people, or that I don't like humanity and am a raging misanthrope-- I'm not. What I am saying is that right now I don't care for them.

I don't know if it maybe has to do with the fact that over many years I have struggled to make friends to no avail, either offend people without realizing what I did or that I was even near offensive, or that I just got married this summer and would rather focus on building a better relationship with my husband instead of chasing after others, or whatever.

My husband thinks I'm being a weirdo because I used to be a very social person-- I had a lot of friends I kept in contact with, and who also kept in contact with me. I went out a lot more, etc. Now...I just don't care anymore. Poor H is all worried that we're going to become a pair of moles living underground within a year only to come up during the first day or spring for the rest of our lives. I don't think so but I've also learned that people SUCK.

Why do I think people suck? Well, if I'm not offending them, then I'm letting them take advantage of me. I've learned that people don't care to make relationships anymore. They take what they wanted or could get from you, and then they stab you in the back and never talk to you again.

Maybe I'm just super disillusioned or something, but is it normal to feel so apathetic? Does anyone else feel this way?

 

[Bellicus]

Yes, it is normal. You are just honest, that is the only thing that is unnormal about what you say. Most people just pretend and try to look like they care, but they don't.

 

[MysticAngel]

I don't think you're weird. It sounds like your past experiences with people has affected the way you perceive them, and it's understandable. There are some great people out there, and I'm sure you will get to meet them and form some wonderful friendships, provided you give them a chance.

 

[dusky_tresses]

I have no issues with giving others a chance...but I hardly get to have one myself!

 

[MysticAngel]

Well, I hope you're given a chance soon!

 

[dusky_tresses]

I hope so too. My poor husband can only stand so many back-to-back Sci-Fi DVD episodes...

 

[Rhamiel]

I do not like about 80% of the people I know, I try to be polite to everyone, honest and have Christian love for them, but I do not really like them. I have a small group of friends who I trust a lot and a girl who I just started seeing, she is so super friendly and I hope her good nature rubs off on me a little bit lol
but yeah
most people suck, they do not make any sense, they do not think about why the believe what they believe and many of them are rude

 

[dusky_tresses]

I don't think I have a problem with liking people. I mostly like alot of the people I met, and even if I couldn't see myself being friends with them, I still can get along well. The problem I tend to face is that I don't have much faith in people.

I know one of my weak points is trying to stay positive. It can be hard though when everytime you are positive, it gets sucked away or struck down by someone disappointing you, or you find out that you upset them beyond belief and they won't even give you a hint as to how and why.

 

[Alizera]

That sounds kinda like me. I get along great with people...I just prefer to kinda hang out by myself. I've kinda learned that if you depends on people, most of the time you'll just be disappointed so I'm pretty independent.

I do have a few number of friends that mean the world to me, though.

If you're happy just staying the way you are, why change?

 

[Rhamiel]

I still can get along well. The problem I tend to face is that I don't have much faith in people.

sounds normal, most people get along with me, i try to be polite and deferintial

 

[ephesus32]

It looks like your meeting the wrong type of people. I don't think you should be friends with everyone, make acquaintences with them. But then you should have your very close group of friends. I don't know, it might change once you're married.... so I guess you should make friends with married couples. Just a suggestion.

 

[frenzy]

It's something other people experience, but it isn't usually very healthy. I think talking to a counselor about it would be a great idea.