Is this bipolar or communication difference? help

[todd92371]

Hello all,
I really need your opinion about something. My girlfriend lately has felt extremely depressed after our arguments. I will say something to her and she doesn't know what to say. I'm learning this part. She needs time to think and formulate a response. It makes me feel she doesn't care. I keep pushing and pushing and she feels cornered, attacked, then angry and then depressed. She feels like she doesn't meet my needs and this leads to depression for her. I realize now I need to back off and give her time to think things out. Do you think this is something related to my bipolar condition or is this simply a communication difference that needs to be worked out?

THANK YOU,
Atticus

 

[Alaskamomma]

Hi Atticus,

We can't say one way or the other if she has bipolar disorder. No one here is qualified to make that judgment. Bipolar is more than just being depressed and being angry although those are components of it. It is a wide range of emotions from feeling elated and high on life, to rapid thinking, full of energy to anger outbursts and to crying spells that happen for no reason. Depression weighs so heavy one cannot even get out of bed at times.

If you are worried about her mood then you may want to suggest to her in a loving and caring way that she seek psychiatric help. If I were you I would google more about bipolar and have her there with you so you can read the signs.

Wish I could be of more help, but I just simply cannot.

Best to you!

 

[Alive again]

So if I follow correctly, you are diagnosed with BP. You're question is whether pushing her for an answer is related to bp??? I am not sure any of us here could answer that question accurately. But if it is related and if it is not, either way, you can learn to adapt and control this pressure so that there are less incidents. We as humans are not perfect and old habits and patterns can die hard, but with a illness symptom, you can use many techniques to remind yourself (and even her when appropriate) that she needs time. With a communication issues you can learn this skill and others.


I am not sure this helps or is even clear! but hope it gives you something to think about.