Is this abuse??? :(

[justaspeck]

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[fallupchik]

so here is what i get from this.....verbal abuse and maybe even physial and mental..... i think that maybe your parents are going through something and they're taking it out on you, and that's not a good thing

 

[SolitarySoul]

Yes that is abuse. A lot of people don't realize that abuse does not just have to be physical ... parents can abuse a child severely without even touching them. How old are you? Is there someone you can talk to about this? Have you tried confronting them and telling them what they are doing? As crazy as it sounds, they may not even realize they are hurting you so much, they may just be driven by anger and think that you are the cause of it.

Depression is a very serious condition, but it is far too oftenly misunderstood. It sounds like they don't understand that depression is something that you can't help. I'd try to explain to them if you havn't already, and if it helps, print off some information explaining it. I found some good information here, it actually has an animated video showing how the lack of natural chemicals in the brain can cause depression, making it more like a disease, rather than something that can be controlled by ourselves:

http://www.depression.com/understanding_depression.html

If they wont listen to you and the information you find, then you should talk to someone about this. They may call themselves Christians, but from the sound of things they are not living Christian lives, they are making things worse and dangerous for you. It's not your fault you have depression.

I'll pray for you.

 

[ChristianKnight]

MY parents are not the nicest people in the world... they are christian and they are together though, so i should be happy. i am constantly getting yelled at at my home if i do something they dont like... i am a good kid and dont do anything like drugs or drink. Both my parents call me a screw up and say i am the cause of all our family probems. My sister hits me every day multiple times and she hits hard because of what she does. I just take it because she is younger, but i dont like it. the last time i got fed up with her and hit her back 1 time because i was sick of it and them my mom came into my room screaming at me and cornered me and hit me.... Then she pushed me on my bed and screamed at me for 20 minutes. I told her i didnt want to talk to her and it just made her more mad. Then my dad came in and said i was angering him, but he used more harsh words. I dont understand it... I get hurt for getting hurt. my mom has hit me more than once. i dont like it.... but guess i should be happy because my parents are together.

My parents are bugging the crap out of me. They keep getting more and more controlling and restrictive and on my nerves. I am probably jsut really sensitive, but whatever. Like, my mom came in my room during break and I was on the internet and it was 2am. I wasnt tired because i had slept all day. She gave me this speech saying it was unacceptable after they told me i could do whatever whenever in my room as long as it is quiet. I said to quite being a control freak and to let me grow up and become an independant person if they really cared about me. I turned off the computer and went to bed. The next morning my dad stormed into my room at 6am, turned on the lights, threw something at me and told me to wake up. He said i was a brat and a few other not so nice names and that i was inconsiderate. He cussed me some more and stormed out. That afternoon he told me if i was disrespectful to him or my mom again before i moved out I would be kicked out the day i turn 18, lose all the money my grandparnets and I have set aside for college, and have to pay for everything myself.

MY mom has hit me a couple of times, but at this point i am used to it... I probably deserve it. I just dont know anymore, i am sick of my house... last night I cried myself to sleep and i Self harm more and more. I dug my fingernails into my arms all over today and hit myself until i bruised. I am so sick of this. please tell me, is this abuse or am i just overreacting because i am depressed??? any suggestions? Thanks

justaspeck

Must be tough speck.I know I'm still new here and can't say "I know what you mean" but myself and all the others also know our different kinds of suffering even our Lord did(more than we do).My God grant you a salution.

 

[justaspeck]

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[sistagirl]

yes it is abuse both physical,emotional and mental abuse.........i want you to remember and kno your NOT AloNE.........have faith and remember that nothing can separate us from the love God has for us When their hitting you causin pain and numbness When their screamin out HATE may u not be filled with bitterness or hate towards your parents as a result of this but may almighty God fill YOU with LOVE his love that he has for U so u can show them by Forgiving ure parents and love them even more and pray for them that they come to kno god and walk in a stronger relationship with him God is carryin you he is liftin u up higher and let him heal ure scars KNO that ure NOT the HOPELESS,USELESS person this world makes you out to be because in the eyes of our almighty your worth much more to him like gold ure a new creation i will be prayin for you ure sista in christ SiStagirl BIG BIG BIG ONES TO U FROM ME

 

[ChristianKnight]

speck,Christ our Lord is with you.

 

[justaspeck]

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[lostchildhood]

thanks for the replys... i dont want to admit it is true, I just want my parents to love me

hi

yes that is verbal, physical abuse , how old are you. no child deaves to be yelled at like that or told they are no good and your mom has NO RIGHT TO HIT YOU LIKE THAT talk to a teacher, couslar or a trusted aduted, do not make the mistake i did and be a punching bag growing up, god bress lostchildhood i am still haveing nightmares

 

[justaspeck]

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[iluvteddygeiger]

MY parents are not the nicest people in the world... they are christian and they are together though, so i should be happy. i am constantly getting yelled at at my home if i do something they dont like... i am a good kid and dont do anything like drugs or drink. Both my parents call me a screw up and say i am the cause of all our family probems. My sister hits me every day multiple times and she hits hard because of what she does. I just take it because she is younger, but i dont like it. the last time i got fed up with her and hit her back 1 time because i was sick of it and them my mom came into my room screaming at me and cornered me and hit me.... Then she pushed me on my bed and screamed at me for 20 minutes. I told her i didnt want to talk to her and it just made her more mad. Then my dad came in and said i was angering him, but he used more harsh words. I dont understand it... I get hurt for getting hurt. my mom has hit me more than once. i dont like it.... but guess i should be happy because my parents are together.

My parents are bugging the crap out of me. They keep getting more and more controlling and restrictive and on my nerves. I am probably jsut really sensitive, but whatever. Like, my mom came in my room during break and I was on the internet and it was 2am. I wasnt tired because i had slept all day. She gave me this speech saying it was unacceptable after they told me i could do whatever whenever in my room as long as it is quiet. I said to quite being a control freak and to let me grow up and become an independant person if they really cared about me. I turned off the computer and went to bed. The next morning my dad stormed into my room at 6am, turned on the lights, threw something at me and told me to wake up. He said i was a brat and a few other not so nice names and that i was inconsiderate. He cussed me some more and stormed out. That afternoon he told me if i was disrespectful to him or my mom again before i moved out I would be kicked out the day i turn 18, lose all the money my grandparnets and I have set aside for college, and have to pay for everything myself.

MY mom has hit me a couple of times, but at this point i am used to it... I probably deserve it. I just dont know anymore, i am sick of my house... last night I cried myself to sleep and i Self harm more and more. I dug my fingernails into my arms all over today and hit myself until i bruised. I am so sick of this. please tell me, is this abuse or am i just overreacting because i am depressed??? any suggestions? Thanks

justaspeck

I was abused so I know how it feels. I didn't tell anyone because my dad said it was our little secret. The abuse continued for three years until I told my mom who had no idea. I think that you should talk to an adult that you know you can trust and tell them all that has happened...don't leave anything out no matter how much you want to not talk about it. You should also not take it out on yourself it's not your fault that your parents are unintelligent and blame you for all your problems..it sounds like they have a lot of problems and there is no way you are the cause of all of them! Please take my advice and stop hurting yourself and tell an adult that you trust.