Is there that one person?

[mountainman1234]

do you think that there is just one person on the face of the earth that you were meant to be with?
do you think that we are compatible with a number of people?
is there a middle ground there?

i'm just shooting off some questions to get the conversation started, my thoughts will show up sometime

 

[GeorgiaGuy]

I believe that you are compatible with a number person, not just one. However, I do believe that God knows the One that you will marry.

I don't know where this "One" business came from, or how it gained popularity. Was it Hollywood?

 

[mattkimsey]

Maybe they're more than one person for some people but after you find the one you love the most your love grows and grows untill you find out you could never replace that person and you would'nt trade em for anyone else.....as a result they are the 1 person on Earth for you.

 

[Blank123]

I think that for most people there is just one person you're supposed to be with. But then there are people like Elizabeth Elliot, who has found three guys that were the "one".

 

[Bks Finest]

i wish i could find that 1 person

 

[jay_swift]

There are many people that any given person are compatible with, that is sometimes a cause of marital problems. People feel like they didn't marry their "soul mate". I say there is no such thing.

My last relationship was great, I really could have married the girl - but I think the timing was wrong, and the situation we were in was bad. So now I'm looking for someone else that I could feel the same way about. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

 

[plum]

i don't think God sets out just one person, no. I think at the point (or points in some cases) when you are ready for that special relationship, God has prepared someone else perfectly fit to you right then and He brings you together.

If there was only one person right for each person, then my mother's plain outta luck in her current dating relationship. When my Dad died, her chances of being with her 'soul mate' died with him according to that theory.

Depends on the person and what God has planned.

 

[Stanfi]

I think there is more than one.

 

[Apollonian]

I believe that you are compatible with a number person, not just one. However, I do believe that God knows the One that you will marry.

I don't know where this "One" business came from, or how it gained popularity. Was it Hollywood?

Hollywood only has a part to do with it. The concept of "The One" is really a rather well documented trait of the "Idealist" temperament according to David Keirsey and Myers-Briggs typology. If I remember correctly, INFJ's and INFP's are especially attuned to the concept of "the one".

As far as I am concerned, from an objective perspective the statistical and demographic analysis alone should be evidence enough that the idea is fabricated. However, that 'fabrication' can become very real if a very well suited individual is made available to you. Hence, once a person finds a "The One" - he or she may very well become in reality "the one", meaning the one that he/she will marry.

The answer is either yes or no, all depending on perspective.

-Apollonian
20/M INTj

 

[fishstix]

Regardless of whether there are one or more than one possible choices, you can only have one at a time. So in effect, it is the same eventual ideal outcome either way. Thus, we would do well to search for the one since we can only choose one. For those people whose first "one" dies, then perhaps there is another "one" for them at another point in time. That idea is still compatible with either the theory of there being only one or the theory of there being many possibilities, as the second "one" may not have even been in the running the first time around.

 

[Chino]

I think that there's more than one person for everyone just because, there's a lot of people in the world. I think the hardest problem in finding that one is that he/she may speak another language, lives on the other side of the city/state/country, or that you don't have the opportunity to meet that person. Besides the odds are against it, 1 person out of ~3 billion? I'd rather believe that some becomes the one than is the one.

 

[fishstix]

I think that there's more than one person for everyone just because, there's a lot of people in the world. I think the hardest problem in finding that one is that he/she may speak another language, lives on the other side of the city/state/country, or that you don't have the opportunity to meet that person. Besides the odds are against it, 1 person out of ~3 billion? I'd rather believe that some becomes the one than is the one.

If there is one specific person that God has in mind for you, I'm sure he has it planned better than that

 

[Onwardclimb]

AMEN FISHSTIX!!!!!!!

 

[Onwardclimb]

I am 100% CONVINCED that this is a question ONLY GOD can answer, and it differs with His plan for the individual!!!!!!!

To me, the one is the person that God chooses for you, and over the course of your life, various circumstances (death/adultery/you or the other person using your free will to reject God's choice etc...) could cause HIM to choose a different person for you, or He could keep sending you the same person (in all cases except death--although that would be kinda cool in an eerie kinda way , j/k-LOL ). If you do have more than one, then I agree with fishstix that you woN'T get them all at the same time. The widow(-er) argument is a weak one to me, because you never know what God has in store for them. True, HE could choose another person for them, but He doesN'T have to. And if the widow/-er was the deceased's ONLY spouse that God chose for them, wouldn't that mean that for them it was ONLY ONE.

I doN'T believe in the "there are many ones, but you have to choose one" theory. Quite frankly, IF it were true I'd feel VERY CHEATED , because I'd want to enjoy being with ALL of my "ones" !!!!!!!

God bless,
Onwardclimb