Is there something more?

[Jesmincan]

Hey everyone,

I feel a bit silly posting this... but there's this guy at church that I've started getting to know over the last few months. He is so alive for God and that is so attractive, he is really very special.

I don't want to get ahead of myself, and I don't know if it's just me being silly, but I've started to think that I like him, and I really want to get to know him.

I don't know of any chances to see him outside of church and home groups, and I don't want to take the first step, so can I just ask for advice and prayer on this matter, that God would give me wisdom in this situation?

Thank you everyone, I really appreciate it

x

 

[ReesePiece23]

Organise a bible study group at your place and rope him into it.

Just remember to 'accidentally' loose everyone's invitations bar his. "Sorry Andy, but it'll just be us tonight."

 

[SnowyMacie]

Ashley?

 

[Neve]

His feelings aren't likely to be as deep as yours if he hasn't initiated personal contact with you. I guess you could try to rope him in, but be prepared for the outcome.

 

[keith99]

There are far more guys who are at least a bit shy than you might think.

Do not be reluctant to take the first step, but only take a first step that you are reasonably comfortable with (meaning push yourself a little past your comfort zone).

That does not mean asking him out. But it does mean talking to him when you get the chance and trying to talk to him 'alone'. Alone can be in the midst of a crowd at Church as long as it is just the 2 of you in the conversation.

You are concerned about being rejected. He may be feeling the same. Sooner or later someone has to take a chance, try taking a small one soon.

 

[Tess]

I agree with both Neve and Keith.

On the one hand, guys aren't mind readers, so don't be afraid to put yourself out there a bit and see how he responds.

On the other hand, when guys like you, they tend to make some effort.

Good luck!

 

[Jesmincan]

I agree with both Neve and Keith.

On the one hand, guys aren't mind readers, so don't be afraid to put yourself out there a bit and see how he responds.

On the other hand, when guys like you, they tend to make some effort.

Good luck!

Thank you so much everyone for your help and advice!

I might just be thinking about it all too much and just getting ahead of myself, but whenever we're at house group he does make an effort to come over and see me to talk to me, but I don't know if he's just doing it because that's what he's like, because on Facebook for example, I'm the one instigating the conversation.

I suppose I will have to take the advice of just keep trying to talk to him and get to know him more

Thanks again everyone ! x