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Is regifting ethical?
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DeathMagus
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You have no moral obligation to do anything in particular with a gift you receive.
You have no moral obligation to meet any sort of requirements when giving a gift.
That should just about cover it.
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Interesting. I was taught to be, or act, appreciative for any gift given to me and to at least act like I used it. ie Aunt Martha is coming over so go put on the bunny sweater she got you for Christmas.
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So you should lie?
In the interest of sparing feelings a small lie can be acceptable is what I've been taught.
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If I get a gift I don't want I usually just say I like it, put it somewhere, and never speak of it again.
I guess re-gifting is efficient, but I've never done it. In some ways it makes sense, because if someone gives you a gift you don't want, it's a waste of their money. If, however, you give that gift to someone else, you save your money in buying them a gift, and so their gift did indeed provide value to you.
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I guess re-gifting is efficient, but I've never done it. In some ways it makes sense, because if someone gives you a gift you don't want, it's a waste of their money. If, however, you give that gift to someone else, you save your money in buying them a gift, and so their gift did indeed provide value to you.
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I concur that small lies are acceptable. However - making a lifestyle change - wearing a sweater you hate - is more of a lie than I think can be justified in the name of politeness.
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I don't see how it could be immoral. You're still giving a gift which you may find meaningful for that person.
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When one gets a gift that one doesn't want, the best thing you can possibly do with it is to gift it to someone who might actually want it. Seriously, would it be better to have allowed a loved one to have wasted precious resources on something that is just going to collect dust or get an early trip to the landfill?
And, if one must tell a little white lie to keep from unnecessarily hurting someone's feelings (although this has never come up when I have regifted), there is nothing wrong with that either.
And, if one must tell a little white lie to keep from unnecessarily hurting someone's feelings (although this has never come up when I have regifted), there is nothing wrong with that either.
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If it is a gift that you know the other person will probably enjoy more than yourself it can be a very positive expression.
You could even make folks happy.
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Yes, regifting is ethical. There is nothing wrong with giving stuff away to other people instead of hoarding things you don't want or need.
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I call it recycling. If the giver asks what happened to it I can say I enjoyed it and then passed it on to someone who could make better use of it than I. Our society is so wasteful. Finding a good use for a gift is, to me, much more important than keeping it. After all, it was the thought that counted, and I appreciate that they wanted me to be happy.
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The relationship that prevents me from regifting is my relationship with the people I give gifts to.
I do not want the person receiving a gift from me to get something for which I am just a conduit — that’s not the relationship I want to have with the person to whom I give gifts.
It does not bother me to donate the gift to an organization, or to just give the gift to someone I know and tell them up front, I received it as a gift, but can’t use it, and would they like to have it? The person then can decide if they want it. If I am correct about the tastes or needs of my friend I ask, they will welcome the transfer of the item — not as a gift — but as something they would like or need and appreciate that I thought of them.
And when that friend receives a real "gift" from me, they know I selected the item with them in mind — because they know I would just offer it to them had it been a gift I received.
I can post my address so people can send me gifts to see how I actually implement this policy! (I am just kidding)
I do not want the person receiving a gift from me to get something for which I am just a conduit — that’s not the relationship I want to have with the person to whom I give gifts.
It does not bother me to donate the gift to an organization, or to just give the gift to someone I know and tell them up front, I received it as a gift, but can’t use it, and would they like to have it? The person then can decide if they want it. If I am correct about the tastes or needs of my friend I ask, they will welcome the transfer of the item — not as a gift — but as something they would like or need and appreciate that I thought of them.
And when that friend receives a real "gift" from me, they know I selected the item with them in mind — because they know I would just offer it to them had it been a gift I received.
I can post my address so people can send me gifts to see how I actually implement this policy! (I am just kidding)
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It's obviously not the right kind of fruit cake. There's fruit cake and then there's fruit cake. One can't beat a good homemade fruit cake. They're delicious. My dad's fruit cake is so good that neighbors request it every year.
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Is getting yuor Grandmother's wedding ring regifting?
I hope my question serves as an answer, as this is a regift that often is treasured far more than anything new.
If something is 'regifted' because it is given to someone who will want it, then it is good. If it is a getting rid of junk to fulfill an obligation then as I see it the obligation was not fuilfilled.
I hope my question serves as an answer, as this is a regift that often is treasured far more than anything new.
If something is 'regifted' because it is given to someone who will want it, then it is good. If it is a getting rid of junk to fulfill an obligation then as I see it the obligation was not fuilfilled.
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