Is not settling for less than we think we deserve...

[Autumnleaf]

destroying everything we hold dear? It seems like many of us think we deserve the best of everything because we've been taught God only provides the best for us. So we nag our family and friends to cater to what we want and if they don't comply we punish them in one way or another which often harms or destroys the relationships. Is this an accurate assessment of what happens. If so is it what God expects from us?

 

[hisbloodformysins]

I think that people are just self centered.. and they are going to be that way whether christian or not, and if they are self centered people, they'll be self centered in their christian walk as well. The ability to think beyond self and actually be considerate of others is an advanced stage of developement/maturity, and a lot of people don't ever obtain it in their life times.

HB

 

[Lee_Lee]

hey,

I think this is the reason why there are so many people in their 30's who are still single- they think they deserve better and they keep searching by the time that they realise that they had a good thing to start with they have nothing.

By nature humans are always looking for something more, something better- most of the time people are either living in the past or in the future- it is one of the most difficult things in the world to live in the present and truly enjoy it.

I think that God wants us to find our satifaction in Him and the only thing that we should not be settling for is to be anything less then what God wants us to be (as outlined in the bible)...

Easier said then done tho...

anyways I'm babbling so I will be quiet now...

-LeeLee.

 

[FLANDIDLYANDERS]

That which we most cling to willinevitably slip right through our fingers.

That which we pursue will always allude us.

Recieve good gifts, that's part of what life and happiness and "the best" are about.

 

[nowhereville]

Last I checked, God called us to be content in all situations....

Not those we prefer.

There is entirely too much focus on sunshine, flowers, happines and what not.

Your difficult spouse may very well be your mission field as you may be the ONLY one who can reach them. Ohhh that's not for me - I demand they treat me perfectly and their walk better measure up too....

Jesus's life was not particularly easy and if he was our example, aren't we supposed to follow him?

 

[beehoney]

If so is it what God expects from us?

I don't think so. If we are to use Jesus as an example, it doesn't seem very Christian-like to make unreasonable demands of everybody just to have the best of everything for ourselves. We are to be giving, not demanding.

 

[analyzethis]

The irony is only God knows what is the best for us and He wants us to have it. Just because we know what we want, doesn't make it the best thing for us. We can never take or earn or catch or hoard the best things in life. Those things can only be given to us. Faith is knowing that what you have is from God and is the very thing that is best for you. Discernment is figuring out how to make lemonade out of the lemons.

So, yes, relentlessly pursuing what we think is the best for us can very easily cost us the things we hold most dear. All eyes on the GOAL.......

J

 

[Meshavrischika]

destroying everything we hold dear? It seems like many of us think we deserve the best of everything because we've been taught God only provides the best for us. So we nag our family and friends to cater to what we want and if they don't comply we punish them in one way or another which often harms or destroys the relationships. Is this an accurate assessment of what happens. If so is it what God expects from us?

No. I think that settling for less than we deserve that is destroying us... we marry inappropriately because we don't understand what is best for us, we don't complete our educations because of various reasons (alot related to self worth issues), we fail to lead the best lives we can because of laziness...

We do not hold ourselves to the standards of past generations (IMO) and we give less and get less from our family, friends, jobs and churches than ever before.

This does not dismiss that there are people in society that are me, me, me, me, me centered, but even this is settling for less than we deserve because it's normally rooted in worldly things... which mean nothing, and not in long lasting things which are generally ignored in this mind set.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I think there is a difference between not settling on the one hand and selfishness and narcissicism on the other.

 

[DonaldOrwinRenKern]

That which we most cling to willinevitably slip right through our fingers.

That which we pursue will always allude us.

Recieve good gifts, that's part of what life and happiness and "the best" are about.

That which we love we seem to destroy,
that which we destroy we seem to hate,
We seem to love when all we do is hate.

 

[nowhereville]

You know my spouse is ummm well a little relationshiply challenged - but you know what - it truly matters little to me when my focus is right.

Today I stopped wrestling with God about what he wants me to do and I told him I would do it.

Within four hours I UNEXPECTEDLY received:

I received 100 baskets and what nots for FREE for a ministry I have
My spouse got a welder in return for a repair with said welder
I got to bless a widow.
I received a 900.00 check.

Now, I guess I could whine about how my spouse is, but I think I will just delight in the fact that God is good and I am highly bless and favored of god.

 

[GQ Chris]

I don't nag my family and friends for what I want in my life, I look to God, take my own personal responsibility, and take a proactive, but yet cautious and well thought out approach. But most of the time all Logic almost goes out the window when I meet a young dame with potential.

 

[Mskedi]

destroying everything we hold dear? It seems like many of us think we deserve the best of everything because we've been taught God only provides the best for us. So we nag our family and friends to cater to what we want and if they don't comply we punish them in one way or another which often harms or destroys the relationships. Is this an accurate assessment of what happens. If so is it what God expects from us?

I think the problem is that people have some idealized version of what is "the best" and don't appreciate the wonderful things they have.

It's entirely possible that someone who has a horrible life in their point of view is living a life identical to mine with regards to relationships, success, etc -- but I think my life is wonderful. I think I DO have the best. And I think I am lucky to have that because I doubt I deserve it.