Is marriage based on sin?

[Asvin]

Sexual attraction is a gift given by God, and it is not a sin. Nothing in and of itself is evil, but it's the state of the heart that matters.

It's not wrong to feel an attraction toward someone. That's natural. It becomes a sin when you start using it as an excuse to stare in the wrong places, or to entertain fantasies in your head.

Dating is probably partially to blame for the blur in the line between attraction and lust. In the old days, if you wanted a wife, you asked for her hand, you become engaged, you build a house to live in, then you make it official.

Now when we find someone we want to marry, we flirt, which leads to dating, then we develop this intimate bond with the person while we're still trying to figure out if we're going to marry them. Then you might start living together, sleeping together, one of you might get pregnant, and you may still at this point decide to break off with this person (these are the things you shouldn't do, BTW). Finally, you propose, have a ceremony, and then you're married.

The old ways of doing things were much simpler, and purity was still something of value.

Yeah I am with you on that one. Today's society is just out of control when it comes to marriages, divorces, and children who have no idea who their biological parents are!

 

[Asvin]

You Love your children but you do not "lust" after them. Your Love for your wife should be similar with the added benefit of sex. Lust has to do with wanting to take advantage of another person (coveting what you shouls not have.).

"wanting to take advantage of another person"? I am not so sure that's what lust means. It has to do with fantasizing with someone in a sexual way.