I was wondering when your dating a Christian guy if it is okay to kiss, and nothing but a kiss?
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is kissing ok?
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DMMullinax
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I'd be careful even with that. I've come to realize that kissing can be an intimate thing too. At least drawn out kissing can be. It ends up bonding two people more than you'd think. Aside from an emotional bond, it's adding a physical one too. I'd just be careful how you approach it, because if someone ever wants to break up, it's going to hurt a lot more for both people. And the goal of dating now is to retain as much of yourself for your future mate as you can, while trying to find that person. Holding back on kissing while dating is a lot better alternative than having to deal with even more painful loose ends of past relationships because a lot of kissing was involved.
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HarborOrange
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I agree with this wholeheartedly.
I'm not against kissing in a relationship, but not for it either... People kiss far too much in today's culture, it's become nearly casual in nature. In reality, kissing is a highly emotional act that should be far more meaningful than just for affection or pleasure purposes. Go ahead and kiss, I don't see anything wrong with it. Just be careful that you don't let it become a casual thing. Also be careful to stay within moral boundaries. I'd recommend waiting for awhile before kissing in a relationship, wait maybe 6 months to share your first kiss with your significant other. That way, you'll know how the relationship will fair over time. Also, you'll know what your significant other's ideals/personality traits/desires are. Don't jump into it right away. After all, kissing is really the last step (physically) a moral person should take in their relationship. Anything beyond kissing gets into murky waters.
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I have never kissed before and my intents are on saving it for the one special person whom God may have planned for me someday. I personally believe that the first kiss should be at marriage.
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HarborOrange
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I agree with such a statement. Though, I feel that one can bend that a little bit if they feel pretty certain that the person they are with is someone that cares about them and wants to stick with them. I think it shouldn't be something done early in a relationship at all, though. I think waiting for marriage is wise, but I don't really have anything against it outside of marriage as long as the couple doesn't get carried away or make it a huge part of their relationship.
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Sailorgirl13
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We have to remember that kissing is normalised in today's culture as are intimate sexual relations.
For me a relationship should be built on more than physical attraction and ultimately kissing will provoke feelings and physical reactions simply because of the hormonal connection.
I.e. No matter how spiritual the relationship is ( based on morals, faith, trust, communication etc) kissing will have a physical reaction.
I agree that it shouldn't be done lightly or straight away because then it reduces the spiritual value of the bond....(following?).
Nevertheless, once that relationship has been established it is a wonderful way to deepen it, so long as it remains pure.
And there's always the danger of going too far because believe me, one you start making out it can be difficult to stick to your decisions "blushes" (but definitely possible)
Remember dating is pretty much to find a partner for life and means much more than society promotes.
For me a relationship should be built on more than physical attraction and ultimately kissing will provoke feelings and physical reactions simply because of the hormonal connection.
I.e. No matter how spiritual the relationship is ( based on morals, faith, trust, communication etc) kissing will have a physical reaction.
I agree that it shouldn't be done lightly or straight away because then it reduces the spiritual value of the bond....(following?).
Nevertheless, once that relationship has been established it is a wonderful way to deepen it, so long as it remains pure.
And there's always the danger of going too far because believe me, one you start making out it can be difficult to stick to your decisions "blushes" (but definitely possible)
Remember dating is pretty much to find a partner for life and means much more than society promotes.
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