is it wrong

[only4u]

For a long time now I have been wanting people's attention. I just love having people focusing on me on something great. Then when people focus on something else... it makes me feel like I have to do something else to get them back on me. Then other times if someone is in the spotlight I am really happy for them. Then those feelings come back that everyone has to have their attention on me. It just really feels great to have people pay their attention on you once and a while. I want to have my focus more on God and being in His spotlight, but it sure is nice from other people.

 

[heymikey80]

Briefly, it's not wrong to enjoy the attention from other people.

But it's wrong to "go after" a great deal more attention from people than anyone else who's in your same state or situation.

This is a really big question, and I know I didn't grow up learning this stuff. It wasn't clear to me why it was wrong to compete for attention and get more attention than others who were equal to me.

But God put people in as equals for a reason. We're supposed to be brothers and sisters, encouraging one another. It spreads the attention around among equals, so that the neglected people are given more attention, and the attended-to people give attention as well as get. So they get trained in encouraging one another.

There're all sorts of "one another"ing passages in Scripture trying to help you capture this vision: Eph 4 &5 come to mind. It's not a "king of the hill" game to get the most and best attention and training. It's more like "we're all in this together".

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

For a long time now I have been wanting people's attention. I just love having people focusing on me on something great. Then when people focus on something else... it makes me feel like I have to do something else to get them back on me. Then other times if someone is in the spotlight I am really happy for them. Then those feelings come back that everyone has to have their attention on me. It just really feels great to have people pay their attention on you once and a while. I want to have my focus more on God and being in His spotlight, but it sure is nice from other people.

I have a friend who does that, and her behavior description fits a psych disorder that I studied at school. She gets to the point of depression when people are not focused on her...To tell you the truth she gets on my nerves a lot. She interupts people when they are performing in front of an audience just so that the attention can go to her...She also laughs and talks real loud when someone else is speaking...and all the while she never gets the idea that she needs to be respectful of others too. She does really foolish things to herself in order to get attention. A lot of people just pretend to be laughing with her. She's old enough to understand, but I guess she doesn't want to. I hope this is not you.......I don't have the guts to tell her to be quiet....but someday someone will.....I'm starting to dislike being around her because she's like that.....she wants my attention all the time and acts like a child with a bobo....and it really gets on my nerves sometimes....I can be goofy sometimes, but there are times where I'm serious....I think that she get pretty depressed when her day is not turning out like she wants, with a lot of goofing and attention.....it's a psych thing, this is not normal, because it interferes with a person's well being.

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

You're suppose to get attention, but not on an hourly basis....you should practice solitary....every human being should at least have some time when they do things with only themselves...you know when we get older, that attention don't come so easily...we become more responsible, and independent...soon we will have children of our own and they will need our attention....so practice being by yourself sometimes, you can pay attention to yourself....when you're looking for attention, sometimes you're only looking to see if people accept you or not....and it help to know that not everyone will accept everyone....so pay attention to your needs and some wants before you think about satisfying someone else's wants.

 

[christandisrael]

For a long time now I have been wanting people's attention. I just love having people focusing on me on something great. Then when people focus on something else... it makes me feel like I have to do something else to get them back on me. Then other times if someone is in the spotlight I am really happy for them. Then those feelings come back that everyone has to have their attention on me. It just really feels great to have people pay their attention on you once and a while. I want to have my focus more on God and being in His spotlight, but it sure is nice from other people.

I agree

 

[TexasGirl06]

Technically speaking....

We are supposed to be living our lives in a manner that draws attention to the Living God !
That's what it means to glorify Him.

When they look at us, they are directed to Him.

A lifelong goal of a Christian. To Glorify God.

Be Blessed.

 

[flybywire]

Having the attention of others is great sometimes, but going after it just to be in the spotlight just doesn't sit right with me. I agree we should glorify God and draw peoples attention to him, but would it not be better to do that in other ways other than attention seeking?

Jesus never went out of his way to attract peoples attention, what made him stand out was his difference to everyone else. It was because of that difference that made people start asking questions.

There are a few instances in the bible which state that Jesus told the people He healed not to say anything once he had healed them.

 

[millerrod]

1 Cor13:4-7 defines Love, one of these manners - characteristics is [ Love seeketh not her own ] according to the Bible God is Love , Gods way is Love, Christ is our example of Love and the Holy Spirit is Love dwelling within us , we should try not to step on the manners of Love, when we seek the attention of others we are in error of 1 Cor13:4-7.