- May 10, 2011
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If a wife or husband has a headache, stomach ache, is in their "time of the month," they are too tired, or they just don't feel up for it for some other reason, I personally think it would be selfish to force oneself on their spouse. I think there may be more of an "obligation" while the wife is of "child bearing years" but even then, I personally believe that in a healthy marriage, one should respect the feelings of their spouse and wait until they are ready for lovemaking. I think it would be more pleasurable and fulfilling if both are "in the mood."A husband and his wife should yield to each other and do things for each other and not be selfish.
Otherwise, the situation can get abusive and people can form resentments or "keep score" on other's behavior.
In my personal experience, I remember my spouse after I brought home a big bag of Chinese takout and a brand new CD "I don't know why you're getting in the shower, you ain't getting nothing." I felt so sad and rejected I really wanted to cry because I was trying so hard to bring in some romance. So with sex, resentments can form whether or not you are giving in to your partner.
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