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is it wrong to be involved with someone in your church?

DYOLF

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What a testimony,this is so uplifting.As many as are lead by the spirit of God these are the children of God.
 
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DYOLF

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There's a reason why your parents do not want you to date within.As Pastors they have to rule their own house hold well.What they do not want is a situation where say a relationship goes wrong,the politics and gossip that goes with it.It is difficult to have an independent relationship if you are a PK in the same church,getting a girl people expect too much from you.It also depends on the size of the church and the smaller the church the worse the problem.Please note that your parents are not saying do not date Christians but just within your specific church.

If you however see someone you like,you can pray a lot about it before you make a move.Once you are sure God is in that relationship you can approach your parents and they will not hinder you.Let God direct you,just remove the flesh from the whole decision making process.
 
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I think it because say you started to go out with this guy. He got into some difficulty and needed help from the pastor (your father or mother), some how other people in the church may decide to misconstrue what is happening and think he is getting extra or something. Plus if it goes wrong between you and you both needed spiritual support throughout it could get tough. Its about setting boundaries. Certainly it considered wrong for a pastor to be involved with someone in the same church he is pastor at even if its a justifiable relationship. They have to tred very carefully. So it the same for anyone in the Pastor's family.
Is the relationship serious at all. if so can you not talk to your mother about the guy and see if there is a way you both can persue a genuine relationship in a 'tasteful' way. If its just dating for dating sake, then no. But if you think there is some real love there then talk to your mother and doors may well open
 
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Being a PK is a pressure put on you that you had no choice in. You are held to a higher standard and your parent's livelihood partly depends on how you act. Whether this is right or wrong isn't the issue.

Church is the place to meet potential mates. If you feel disconnected from people because your a PK that will distance you from God in the future. Whatever the fear is of your parents I urge you to stay honest and real now. Your actions will affect them but most importantly they will affect you.
 
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If your parents say no, then you should do what they say. Then you're honoring G-d by being obedient to your parents. I know , parents make a lot of rules we don't like...but, we must obey. I do think church is one of the best places to meet people. But you're parents , being pastors , must have a legitimate reason.
 
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