Is it wrong for Christians to date multiple people at the same time who are Christians ?

[QuestionQuest74]

There’s no scripture against this since dating is not in the Bible. But I noticed some old school Christians think a Christian should date one person at one time I wanna know yall view on this topic.

 

[Freth]

I'm speaking from experience here. Dating more than one person will not have a good outcome.

• It quickly becomes unmanageable and impractical.
  • You won't be able to give each person the attention they deserve.
  • If you try to bond with more than one person it ends in disaster.

The most important reasons not to date multiple people at the same time:

• It hurts people.
• It hurts you.
• It goes against God's design; one man and one woman.

 

[eleos1954]

There’s no scripture against this since dating is not in the Bible. But I noticed some old school Christians think a Christian should date one person at one time I wanna know yall view on this topic.

I'm of the mind friends first ... a person can have more than one friend at a time. I guess it's how a relationship is perceived by one or the other. If one starts having a more serious intent about the relationship then I think it would be a natural occurrence for them to stop dating others ... or possibly ending the dating ... realizing they don't have a serious intent.

Dating and relationships are two different things. While you're still dating, there is no commitment, and you have other priorities. However, in a relationship, your partner is your top priority. It's a commitment people make when they mean something more serious.

 

[returntosender]

It seems to me if you're dating more then one person it's a friendship more then a relationship

 

[Bobber]

Strange question.

I mean what is the agreement going into these things. Are they in agreement this is my girl friend, boy friend. The whole thing doesn't make any sense. It' opens the door for either one of them feeling they need to compete as in who's going to get you. LOL You stand a chance both of them would drop you and you'd end up with no one! 2 - 2 =s one big nothing.

In my early Christian life in my late teens we had this young adult youth group about 100 of us that would have meetings and ALL go out as a group. Many marriages came out of that but everyone had accountability not being too much alone with another. People today would call that being a square but it kept people from crossing lines.

You spend too much time alone with another one is asking for trouble and you can understand why. I've seen many through the years loosing their virginity all the time believing they could handle it. They couldn't. Temptation got the best of them .

 

[com7fy8]

In another place, you ask of it's ok to be kissing two different people on the lips while dating both people at the same time.

First, I would not kiss one date unless I know she is a really Christian person and we pray with each other and share God's word with each other. And we share as God's family with mature Christian couples who help us grow in Jesus and love each other the way God's word says for us to share as His family.

I would not isolate on a date with a person who does not live like this with me and with other Christians.

And if I were interested in two different women, first I would talk with both of them together, to see what they say to me and each other. I would make sure they both know before I started with either one.

Do not get one emotionally involved with you and then try to push her to accept that you are going to add another woman to your love life!!

And if you do not trust either woman enough to talk with them together about this . . . no I would not date and kiss a woman who I do not trust!

My opinion is > if you are sharing with a genuine Christian lady, one is enough. Do not be greedy.

And make sure you are sharing as family with a group of Christians who help you to mature with each other while you two are helping others with what is blessing you.

Do things as family, then, not only isolating for pleasure things.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

In another place, you ask of it's ok to be kissing two different people on the lips while dating both people at the same time.

First, I would not kiss one date unless I know she is a really Christian person and we pray with each other and share God's word with each other. And we share as God's family with mature Christian couples who help us grow in Jesus and love each other the way God's word says for us to share as His family.

I would not isolate on a date with a person who does not live like this with me and with other Christians.

And if I were interested in two different women, first I would talk with both of them together, to see what they say to me and each other. I would make sure they both know before I started with either one.

Do not get one emotionally involved with you and then try to push her to accept that you are going to add another woman to your love life!!

And if you do not trust either woman enough to talk with them together about this . . . no I would not date and kiss a woman who I do not trust!

My opinion is > if you are sharing with a genuine Christian lady, one is enough. Do not be greedy.

And make sure you are sharing as family with a group of Christians who help you to mature with each other while you two are helping others with what is blessing you.

Do things as family, then, not only isolating for pleasure things.

Im not doing this im just saying is it ok for Christian man and Christian women to do this ?

 

[2PhiloVoid]

Im not doing this im just saying is it ok for Christian man and Christian women to do this ?

I'd refrain from all of that. To do so willy-nilly doesn't actually further the relational bond of mutual understanding. It just causes more potentiality for a heartache and emotional unhinging if and when that casual dating abruptly ends in a break up (which happens all too often and is to be expected).

I mean, sure: If people want to screw themselves over psychologically and run themselves emotionally into the ground with physical tokens of affection that end up not lasting because too much was assumed in thinking "oh, let's test the waters to see if this is the one!!" at the beginning, then people can just kiss around as much as they want ...

From what I see in recent social history, this "kiss everything around you" method hasn't really been working all that well.

 

[Curiousmind]

There’s no scripture against this since dating is not in the Bible. But I noticed some old school Christians think a Christian should date one person at one time I wanna know yall view on this topic.

It is wrong in my opinion to date multiple christians at the same time. Why waste people time ? You gotta gather some information and then decide with who you want to have long term relationship. Dating should be for marriage in my opinion, otherwise it is a waste of time, imo.