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Don't rush into anything until your sure it's what God wants. I can't stress that enough, if you do, it will only end up in hurt.
Regarding 'what's mean to be,' if God means for you two to be together then you will be. This is a test of faith on your part and it's also a test of patience.
Continue to be prayerful and patient. Look for God's approval. Is he opening up doors or are the closing in your face?
Also, is this guy a Christian? If he isn't then you shouldn't become girlfriend-boyfriend. Instead I advise you point him to a church and keep your distance emotionally (I mean don't get in too deep) until he gives his life over to the Lord. Then, if it's the Lord's will you can pursue your relationship with him.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
Don't lose faith, these things can take time. You have approached him, so let's see what the response is and take it from there always remembering the Lord in everything.
Good luck and may God bless.
Regarding 'what's mean to be,' if God means for you two to be together then you will be. This is a test of faith on your part and it's also a test of patience.
Continue to be prayerful and patient. Look for God's approval. Is he opening up doors or are the closing in your face?
Also, is this guy a Christian? If he isn't then you shouldn't become girlfriend-boyfriend. Instead I advise you point him to a church and keep your distance emotionally (I mean don't get in too deep) until he gives his life over to the Lord. Then, if it's the Lord's will you can pursue your relationship with him.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
Don't lose faith, these things can take time. You have approached him, so let's see what the response is and take it from there always remembering the Lord in everything.
Good luck and may God bless.
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If you have faith in God, when the time comes, you'll just know if he's the one for you.
What do I mean by opening and closing doors? Well, in life, we can often take a certain action only to find that something or another gets in the way of us carrying out that action. We can then say, perhaps that wasn't God's will, he hasn't allowed it to happen, the door has been closed on me.
I'll try to give an example; you want to go University 100 miles away in a different state. You apply for 3 Universities and all 3 don't accept you. You then should stop and consider what's happening, is God not wanting you to go away from home to study? The door seems to have been shut on you trying to do that. So then you try another door...apply for University much nearer to home and you get in. Well the door was closed on you studying at a University so far from home but God has allowed it that you can study near to home.
How can this be applied to your relationship? Well, I suppose the first door is whether this guy will actually accept you back as a friend. If he doesn't then that door has been closed on you in which case God hasn't allowed it to happen.
P.S. I don't know how US universities work but I hope you get the gist of it.
What do I mean by opening and closing doors? Well, in life, we can often take a certain action only to find that something or another gets in the way of us carrying out that action. We can then say, perhaps that wasn't God's will, he hasn't allowed it to happen, the door has been closed on me.
I'll try to give an example; you want to go University 100 miles away in a different state. You apply for 3 Universities and all 3 don't accept you. You then should stop and consider what's happening, is God not wanting you to go away from home to study? The door seems to have been shut on you trying to do that. So then you try another door...apply for University much nearer to home and you get in. Well the door was closed on you studying at a University so far from home but God has allowed it that you can study near to home.
How can this be applied to your relationship? Well, I suppose the first door is whether this guy will actually accept you back as a friend. If he doesn't then that door has been closed on you in which case God hasn't allowed it to happen.
P.S. I don't know how US universities work but I hope you get the gist of it.
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Have you ever heard the term "Buyers remorse", look it up.
You seem to have "non-buyers remorse". We all can go "what if, what if" all of our lives but it's not very profitable. If God meant for something to be it would be; trust His providence.
You seem to have "non-buyers remorse". We all can go "what if, what if" all of our lives but it's not very profitable. If God meant for something to be it would be; trust His providence.
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No, I don't believe in fate, it's a romantic notion for those who close their eyes and hope for the best in a world full of scum bags, party poopers and crowed prisons...Deliberate exaggeration there for emphasis
Actually, I've seen great opportunities slip through my fingers and I've had prayers answered only to see someone go and mess it all up. Life is a journey with few guarantees and the only thing I can be certain of is my Lord and saviour Jesus Christ.
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I believe first things first when you do take that risk to meet your future partner first time if he is non-Christian, is to bravely ask with your clear healthy voice: "If you place God first in your life, would you consider marrying me as your faithful Christian wife?"
He would most probably say "Yes, I will marry you if I do place God first in my life." Because he has not accepted Jesus Christ yet, asking this wise question would give him more 'space' or time without rushing him into becoming a Christian because he has to experience the supernatural power of honesty from you as a Christian in everything you do to become an honest law-abiding citizen, as well as Jesus who is spiritually in your heart to prevent Satan's sin-causing dishonesty in your life.:*:.
We Christians in our global community wait patiently for the coming of our victorious Lord Jesus, hopefully very soon in the future, so that Satan can be defeated and sin can be deleted once Jesus has transformed our old earth-born selves to new glorious minds and bodies of Christ...
As we socialize together as brothers and sisters of Christ in God's most massive and most modern place of Community: the Kingdom of God on a new oceanless planet Earth where Christ's supernatural joy will be so over-joyous, our hearts will be so very positive and our faces so very always smiling.:*:.
He would most probably say "Yes, I will marry you if I do place God first in my life." Because he has not accepted Jesus Christ yet, asking this wise question would give him more 'space' or time without rushing him into becoming a Christian because he has to experience the supernatural power of honesty from you as a Christian in everything you do to become an honest law-abiding citizen, as well as Jesus who is spiritually in your heart to prevent Satan's sin-causing dishonesty in your life.:*:.
We Christians in our global community wait patiently for the coming of our victorious Lord Jesus, hopefully very soon in the future, so that Satan can be defeated and sin can be deleted once Jesus has transformed our old earth-born selves to new glorious minds and bodies of Christ...
As we socialize together as brothers and sisters of Christ in God's most massive and most modern place of Community: the Kingdom of God on a new oceanless planet Earth where Christ's supernatural joy will be so over-joyous, our hearts will be so very positive and our faces so very always smiling.:*:.
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Well, my dear sister, perhaps God is either saying he is not the right person or it is just not the right time. God has a brilliant plan in sotre for you, and God knows what and who is going to be best for you and make you happy. If it is truly meant to be for you and him, you have not lost your chance; it is merely that God is saying that the present is not the right time. Just be patient, and pray. Leave it in God's Hand, He will do what's right!
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It can be dangerous to focus too much on what's "meant to be", especially when it comes to relationships. People talk about soul mates, but this can really cause problems if a person is convinced that they've found the ONE, but loses him or her. People can often be heard saying, "I'll never love again".
This line of thinking can also lead to Hollywood ending expectations. When a marriage starts to becomes difficult - and they all do - a person might think, "maybe he/she isn't the one that was meant for me." Then it's easy to wonder about another person... maybe that's the one!
The truth is, we don't know the exact boundaries around our free will. God may have selected a husband or wife for us, in which case it doesn't matter what choices we make... it will happen according to His sovereign will. On the other had, if He gives us the free will to choose a spouse, then there isn't a choice that was "meant to be". Just choices with different outcomes (some better than others).
So my advice would be to pray about your choices, and ask for guidance from the Holy Spirit. But don't ever expect to figure out the one destiny answer (especially if you expect it to be the outcome that makes you happy). Some of the choices in my life that were the best for me, were actually the ones that lead to the most suffering and regret at the time. But reflecting back on them, I understand how it was just what I needed.
This line of thinking can also lead to Hollywood ending expectations. When a marriage starts to becomes difficult - and they all do - a person might think, "maybe he/she isn't the one that was meant for me." Then it's easy to wonder about another person... maybe that's the one!
The truth is, we don't know the exact boundaries around our free will. God may have selected a husband or wife for us, in which case it doesn't matter what choices we make... it will happen according to His sovereign will. On the other had, if He gives us the free will to choose a spouse, then there isn't a choice that was "meant to be". Just choices with different outcomes (some better than others).
So my advice would be to pray about your choices, and ask for guidance from the Holy Spirit. But don't ever expect to figure out the one destiny answer (especially if you expect it to be the outcome that makes you happy). Some of the choices in my life that were the best for me, were actually the ones that lead to the most suffering and regret at the time. But reflecting back on them, I understand how it was just what I needed.
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That was his way to break up with you.
He said he loved you -- yet he let you "accidentally" stumble onto this conversation with another woman.
Likely, he sensed you loved him, and he wanted distance, so he confessed falsely love for you, but then made sure you saw that he was either a player or involved with someone else. It is a bad tactic which devils use a lot.
The net effect is you leave him, feeling betrayed (which he probably giggles over), and also remain hot and bothered because you bought into his act.
I just finished watching this movie on Marilyn Monroe. She was this way. A predator. In the movie, this guy who is way out of her league is seduced by her. Everyone warns him, but he does not care and proceeds on. He is not even very good looking.
It is highlighted in the movie that she is an incredible actress. The director directing her is angry at her for being a bad actress, though the audience is left wondering, "If the director is a better actor then she is, why does he find himself unable to act another way towards her which would elicit better results from her". At the end of the movie, the audience learns that Monroe is playing everyone, while pretending to play no one. And the secret of her great talent is her own incredulity with the world and her own existence. Because she really believes nothing, she is a super actress.
The point is there are people like her out there. A lot of them are guys. You can tell yourself you can survive or escape such predators, or maybe chain them down, but even if you ever chain them down a little? They will just let you to make you feel in control, so they can finally swoop down for the kill.
Clues are very simple as to who they are and their true nature.
He said he loved you -- yet he let you "accidentally" stumble onto this conversation with another woman.
Likely, he sensed you loved him, and he wanted distance, so he confessed falsely love for you, but then made sure you saw that he was either a player or involved with someone else. It is a bad tactic which devils use a lot.
The net effect is you leave him, feeling betrayed (which he probably giggles over), and also remain hot and bothered because you bought into his act.
I just finished watching this movie on Marilyn Monroe. She was this way. A predator. In the movie, this guy who is way out of her league is seduced by her. Everyone warns him, but he does not care and proceeds on. He is not even very good looking.
It is highlighted in the movie that she is an incredible actress. The director directing her is angry at her for being a bad actress, though the audience is left wondering, "If the director is a better actor then she is, why does he find himself unable to act another way towards her which would elicit better results from her". At the end of the movie, the audience learns that Monroe is playing everyone, while pretending to play no one. And the secret of her great talent is her own incredulity with the world and her own existence. Because she really believes nothing, she is a super actress.
The point is there are people like her out there. A lot of them are guys. You can tell yourself you can survive or escape such predators, or maybe chain them down, but even if you ever chain them down a little? They will just let you to make you feel in control, so they can finally swoop down for the kill.
Clues are very simple as to who they are and their true nature.
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well Paul told the church of Corinth that a widow can marry whoever she wants, in the Lord. I don't believe that there are specific people were just supposed to be with. You can be with whoever you want as long as it's a godly relationship.
1 Cor 7.39
I think the bible is pretty clear that unless we pray and live godly lives then we won't have everything were supposed to have. I don't believe that certain things are going to happen regardless.
1 Cor 7.39
I think the bible is pretty clear that unless we pray and live godly lives then we won't have everything were supposed to have. I don't believe that certain things are going to happen regardless.
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