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Is it too late?

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Oddsox

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I was abused, mainly sexually by my ex about a year ago for two months which added up to about 300 hours of abuse. My family know now and all my friends but his family don't know. Anyway reason for post...Quite a lot of me wants to find justice done and for him to be arrested for what he did but I'm confused because:

1. Is it right in the eyes of God to prosecute "turn the other cheek" and all that?
2. Can I put my family through it?
3. Can I put his family through it?
4. Can I be responsible for the potential ruining of someone else's life?
5. What if they don't believe me (I don't really have any proof)?
6. What if he does it to someone else...can I be responsible for that?
7. Is it too late now, after all it was about a year ago?
 

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God doesn't expect us to turn the other cheek when the law is broken.
And he gave up any rights by abusing you and breaking the law. And he will do it again unless he gets help.
Talk with your family and maybe your Pastor~~maybe someone in legal aid to see what you can do.
At the very least~~you~~with the support of your family can talk to his parents and inform them and ask them to get help for their son b/f he does it again~~
Also a good place to get info is the rape crisis center~~they have lots of info and helpful suggestions.
 
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My son and I were abused by his father, me for most of 11 years, my son for most of 9, my son had alot of anger issues and was afraid of his own shadow, I was constantly appologizing for things that needed no apology & ducking when someone reached over my head.

I too want justice, #1. because this guy thinks he's high & mighty because he plead "Nolo Contendre" to battery a few years back, so he thinks he's beyond reproch.

I was recently told by a lawyer that it would be best for recovery to let it go, but I don't want him to get away with this.

My son has recoverd fairly well since moving out of our home town where he lives/lived, so I don't know! I don't have the money for a lawyer so maybe I'll just terminate his rights and leave it at that.
 
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Romans 12:21 do not be overcomed by evil but overcome evil with good. Justice or mercy is good. revenge is not. He should be arrested or he could be beating up another girl. At least if and when he repents, it's always good to forgive and forget... grudges aren't healthy. Either physically or spiritually. Oh, and check out the rest of Romans 12. Just leave him in His hands and do your part to trust He'll do the right thing. Let Him focus on him and you focus on doing your duties and your responsiblities. God bless. By the way, it is never to late to report an abuser. By the way, have you tried using a lie detector? That should help.
 
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